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Audio: âMisgendering is bad â and so is theory that erases lived experiencesâ [mp3]
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[Originally posted as a series of posts in a private space, 2021-07-29; edited and expanded.]
Why is it bad to misgender someone, but okay to _erase_ the lived experiences of various tgd people by supporting or promoting particular theoretical constructs?
Well, personally, i feel it's _not_ okay. Even when it's tgd people doing it.
i've spent many years - literally decades, in fact - engaged in discussions/debates around gender stuff, with people ranging from reactionaries to conservatives to small-l liberal feminists to intersectional feminists to radfems. What i've found is that the latter three groups, and feminists more generally, seem to be far more invested in the phrase âgender is a social constructâ than in hearing and learning about the diversity of the lives of _all_ tgd people.
If a tgd person says, âOh wow, this particular model of gender and related concepts explains my own experiences really wellâ, i think âOh interestingâ, accept that as their lived experience, and make sure my own model of gender doesn't conflict with that, changing it if necessary. What i _don't_ do is respond with: âWell _actually_, although i can understand why you think/feel that, here's what's _really_ going on.â Yet i've had a tgd person do that to me.
Why would a fellow tgd person disrespect me like that? It turned out it was due to postmodern/poststructural feminism's frequent assertion that âgender is a social constructâ, with that assertion _alone_ being sufficient to explain that person's experiences of gender: gender is a social construct, end of story, there are no devils in the details. But as i've spent many years pointing out, there's a lot of complexity involved in what's casually referred to as âgenderâ; cf. e.g. my discussion of âThe words âgenderâ and âsexââ in my post:
Language supporting gender diversity
Postmodern/poststructuralist feminisms' treatment of the phrase âgender is a social constructâ as fundamental dogma[a] with complete explanatory power feels rather ironic to me, given postmodernism/poststructuralism's general opposition to âtotalising narrativesâ (like economist Marxism). But it's also been increasingly frustrating and upsetting to me that discussions around this topic aren't becoming more nuanced to accommodate the diversity of tgd people's lives - for example, there's an ongoing failure to distinguish between things like âgenderâ as âone's internal sense of one's genderâ, and âgenderâ as âsocially expected presentations and behavioursâ. On the contrary: discussions around âgenderâ consistently involve oversimplifications and totalising claims, such as âAll gender is internalised misogynyâ[b].
Misgendering tgd people is disrespectful. And so is erasing various tgd people's experiences with blinkered, if not arrogant, analyses and theorising.
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[a] Not to mention an apparent attitude of âAll theory around gender is a footnote to [Judith] Butlerâ.
[b] Which i discuss in: