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Supreme Broad Oxman
2022-12-14
I've been reading Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. Lots of good stuff and many things I'm already actively doing. The most recent chapter I've read involves the lack of depth found in Facebook or Twitter type interactions and the basic human need for these more in-depth connections. While these attempts at connection may be good intended; they fail. And I think the human psyche knows it.
A couple of real life examples.
1) I had breakfast with a friend that I've know for some time. We have some shared interests, but really not that many. We do, however, have a genuine interest in each other and each other's families. We meet face-to-face and pick up on visual cues that aren't available in a tweet. Cues that prompt someone to ask more questions or dig further into whatever topic of discussion is at hand. And the human psyche is refreshed and satisfied by it.
2) A friend had to cancel a social gathering due to a family conflict, and while the responses were meant to be sympathetic and with offers of help if needed, in my opinion they fell short. A prime example was someone that offered up only 2 emoticons as their response - offering prayers and good luck. Now, I know the intentions were good and it may have been well received. But, 2 emoticons do not carry the same weight as a face-to-face conversation or even a phone call. Hopefully, one or both of these occured after the simple message was sent, but there is a very good chance they did not.
Of course not everyone agrees with me - which is fine. But, it is a documented, scientifically proven fact though that an increase in well-being, positivity and satisfaction does not come from a tweet or a like but from personal interaction - even with all it's possible flaws.
We should do more of that.
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