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Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.
One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the 'little monster' that needs feeding.
The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren't non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.
I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.
My partner was “always frigid and not interested in sex.” Now I realize that if I had only tried the amative side of things then maybe I could have relieved myself of a great measure of stress at least - if not at me, I am sure she would have. One online comment...
“I really believed that I had an evil demon in my make-up. I now know that I had, however it wasn't some inherent flaw in my character but the little internet porn monster that was creating the problem. During those times I thought I had all the problems in the world but when I look back on my life I wonder where all the great stress was. In everything else in my life I was in control. The one thing that controlled me was this porn slavery. The sad thing is that even today I can't convince my children that it was the slavery that caused me to be so irritable.”
Every time I hear a porn addict trying to justify his addiction the message is, “Oh, it calms me. It helps me to relax.”
On the Internet I read about a single dad whose 6 year old son would want to share his bed sometimes in the night after a scary movie yet the dad would refuse under some pretence so he can have his PMO session and edge for hours.
Let me try a smoking analogy here... a couple of years ago, the adoption authorities threatened to prevent smokers from adopting children. A man rang up, irate. He said, “you are completely wrong. I can remember when I was a child, if I had a contentious matter to raise with my mother, I would wait until she lit a cigarette because she was more relaxed then.” Why couldn't he talk to his mother when she wasn't smoking a cigarette?
Why are PMOers so stressed when they are not getting their fix, even after a real sex with a real woman? I read about a guy who has 9's and 10's open for dating with him as he was in the advertising field. I am talking about dinner and stuff only - but he lost interest in those dinners as his Internet porn is far more ‘easy’ for him - no restaurant spending and no hearing a ‘no’ from his date at the end of an evening. Why would he bother when his little monster tells him about the low-risk high-reward scheme called PMO that is at his fingertips when he reaches home? Those real girls sure have competition.
Why are non-PMOers completely relaxed then? Why are PMOers not able to relax without a fix for a day or two? If you read about the experience of a PMOer taking the abstinence oath and quitting and you notice his struggle with the temptations. You can clearly see that they are not relaxed at all when they are not allowed to have the ‘only pleasure’ they are “entitled to enjoy.” They've forgotten what it feels like to be completely relaxed. That's one of the many joys you have to come. The whole business of PMOing can be likened to a fly being caught in a pitcher plant. To begin with, the fly is eating the nectar. At some imperceptible stage the plant begins to eat the fly.
Isn't it time you climbed out of that plant?
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