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That's such a harsh life. Thankfully, you managed to endure it. Hopefully, things go well for you.
It is a lot easier to maintain and build relations with other human beings when you feel happy and have energy to spare. You are 25, so you likely still have a lot of time left to find someone else. Take care of yourself and be socially active. That would be my advice.
While other people's social activities, local communities, and personalities that might affect their stories are different, I met my wife at the local library exchanging ideas and opinions on a specific topic we were both researching and had an interest in. At the time I was an active member of the library and have met with most of the regulars at the library.
~theoddballphilosopher wrote (thread):
Well, I probably should let you know that I have social anxiety. And with very good reason.
People often say to me I shouldn't care about what others think of me. And at first, I usually don't. But then others call me selfish for not thinking about them and their own interests because I have Autism, but in all honesty, I think that's bullshit. Who's really being selfish?
Furthermore, when someone creates a horrible rumor of me, like being a sex offender, I get scared, and I would imagine rightfully so. Besides, if I hadn't left campus willingly, I would've had charges pressed against me based on those rumors alone.
So how can I not be concerned about what people think of me, when people have gone out of their way to manipulate others to hurt me by lying about me?
Rather than simply ignoring the danger, I wish to draw my line in the sand, and stand up for myself. But I'm afraid if I do, they'll lie and say I was the one who started it, as my bullies have before.
My social anxiety is a reason why I don't get out often, or interact with other people often.
Although I am an introvert, I like to put on a facade, a persona, that I am an extrovert to try and make a good impression on people. But the truth is I am insecure, and I often do this to hide my self-confidence issues.