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Re: " satch.xyz/log/battles.gmi Helpful thoughts might be..."
@oldernow: thank you, it is true
@november I was hoping that if she showed me the photo she would realize that it wasn't so bad for me to see it and would start to let go of her aversion to me seeing unflattering photos of her (which I don't think is a useful aversion).
Jan 22 · 2 weeks ago
🐝 november [...] · Jan 22 at 15:06:
It might not be useful, but no still means no.
🐐 satch [OP] · Jan 22 at 15:45:
@november I think I have a bit of a different philosophy on this from you. 'No means no' is a great ground rule, but in my relationship we both have a responsibility to care for each other. I know I will have blind spots and places where I will not push myself on my own, and so does my girlfriend. So part of that responsibility is to push against a 'No' when it is appropriate to do so.
The lesson here is that this was not an appropriate situation for the type of pressure I tried to use.
Helpful thoughts might be appreciated. Especially pointing out blind spots I might be having. It's personal drama, though, so stay clear if you have got too much of that already.