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Again on whether sex is a ‘need’

Sure, “sex is not a need” in the sense that food and shelter are a ‘need’.

But in that sense, only considering the biological requirements for mere survival, _human connection_ is not a ‘need’.

There are raw biological needs, and there are _psychological_ needs.

Saying “sex is not a need” has the same energy as queer-hostile people ‘accepting’ queerness as long as it's not acted upon, because “you don't _need_ to have a same-gender partner”.

Making assertions about whether a given person ‘needs’ sex is not only inappropriate and invalidating of that person's experience of the world, it's the wrong issue.

Someone can genuinely have a _psychological_ need for sex — and that _doesn't_ imply that they're entitled to have that need met by anyone in general, or by someone else in particular. But they _are_ entitled to express that need _as_ a need, and to try to get that need met in a context of respect for bodily autonomy and informed consent.

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