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Re: I Want to Wear a Dress

Stacksmith wants to wear a dress.

So do I! Or, well, probabably more likely a skirt. A skirt seems like a more versatile replacement for pants and shorts, and I would expect to have better luck finding a skirt that fits well. Lately I have been trying to improve my sewing skills beyond clothing repair so I can reliably make my own clothes. If anyone knows of some good skirt patterns, let me know.

Now, I don't want to make any statements by wearing a dress. I don't want to identify as anything. I don't want to step on anyone's toes, or compete with my trans daughter. It has zero to do with my gender identity or sexuality. I don't want to challenge or defend anything, just to cool off my crotch! I am in NYC, so theoretically, anything goes. But somehow I doubt it. Given my propensity for getting into unpleasant verbal exchanges, I am kind of afraid to wear a dress. Call me chicken.

I have a similar attitude, I'd say, but I also think that it inevitably ends up being a statement anyway, and one that I am happy to make: boys can wear dresses. My son has taken to dresses this summer, and I have been kind of proud of that fact (and also envious). He is three and is aware of the norms about dresses, but does not seem to care. After his first haircut I remember him commenting that he was tired of everyone mistaking him for a girl, which made me worry a little about how he perceived gender norms. His choice to wear dresses seems to be a self-aware decision that boys should be allowed to wear a dress. He has not encountered much adversity about it yet. I would like to be backup for when he does, though.

I'd say a grown man wearing a dress or skirt around Seoul is much louder than a man wearing one in NYC, but I have two or three thoughts about this. First, I am not ethnically Korean, so I always stand out and draw lots of unwanted attention. Might as well give them something to gawk at. Second, a skirt isn't much louder than my painted toenails anyway (or Stack's pink hair). Lastly, people can fuck off. It's a god damn dress.

So what do you say geminfolk? Pants off for skirts?

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