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I have to say, as the accidental trend-setter: I think it's really funny that folks have taken my rant to be about cancel culture. I was just talking about social anxiety! The things that come out once you folks have a few beers though...

I quite enjoyed your idea that ostracism necessarily means ostracism *from a certain space*. It's not that that doesn't make it anything to sneeze at: if you've accumulated a lot of social capital in one place, it's gonna hurt to lose it. Still, though, if you get thrown out of one bar, you're not thrown out of all bars: you can just go to the place next door!

(This is a new way of thinking about why projects like Gemini are important, yeah? Otherwise the world *does* become one big bar that you *can* just get thrown out of. I feel a post coming along about this...)

The thing that I do stress out far too much about, though, is really what you said how much concealment is worth the effort. Like, am I really gonna mail cash to Germany in order to make sure the VPN I use is completely disconnected from my identity? Is having Matrix.org know my email really that much better than having Discord know it? If nobody cares, which they almost definitely won't, is any of this worth it at all? I love to worry about it, but know it's just an xkcd.com/538 problem... I'm sure it's just a matter of picking something and sticking with it. I absolutely despise that being decisive is often worth more than being correct 😉

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~abacushex wrote:

I did seem to have followed a bit a train there :-) And there was a bit of a certain clear spirit that one tends to soak olives in, making the usual contributions.

I don't advocate pushing buttons as a goal unless fierce social critic is one's job description. Yet, there is something to be said for backing oneself away from the idea that everyone has to like you. "Am I being an ass, or does this person simply disagree with me?" is always a good self-check.

I love xkcd. There's always something right to the point to be found there :) Unless one is working for Amnesty International, or publishing online as a dissident under the thumb of an oppressive govt, then the usual cautions about sharing the kinds of things that would be targets for identity theft, and using two-factor auth where possible, should be sufficient. It's all risk assessment.