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The virginity industry

2010-04-26 06:32:41

By Najlaa Abou Mehri and Linda Sills

BBC Radio 4, Crossing Continents

Young Arab women wait in an upmarket medical clinic for an operation that will

not only change their lives, but quite possibly save it. Yet the operation is a

matter of choice and not necessity. It costs about 2,000 euros ( 1,700) and

carries very little risk.

The clinic is not in Dubai or Cairo, but in Paris. And the surgery they are

waiting for is to restore their virginity.

Whether in Asia or the Arab world, an unknown number of women face an agonising

problem having broken a deep taboo. They've had sex outside marriage and if

found out, risk being ostracised by their communities, or even murdered.

Now more and more of them are undergoing surgery to re-connect their hymens and

hide any sign of past sexual activity. They want to ensure that blood is

spilled on their wedding night sheets.

The social pressure is so great that some women have even taken their own

lives.

Sonia wants to remain anonymous for fear of reprisal. She is a slender young

brunette studying at art college in Paris.

Although born in France, Arab culture and traditions are central to Sonia's

life. Life was strict growing up under the watchful eyes of a large traditional

Arab family.

Virginity certificates

"I thought of suicide after my first sexual relationship," she says, "because I

couldn't see any other solution." But Sonia did find a solution.

She eventually went to the Paris clinic of Dr Marc Abecassis to have surgery to

restore her hymen. She says she will never reveal her secret to anyone,

especially her husband to be.

I believe we as doctors have no right to decide for her or judge her

Dr Abecassis

"I consider this is my sex life and I don't have to tell anyone about it," she

says. It's men that are obliging her to lie about it, she says.

Dr Abecassis performs a "hymenoplasty" as it's called, at least two to three

times a week. Re-connecting the tissue of the hymen takes about 30 minutes

under local anaesthetic.

He says the average age of the patient is about 25, and they come from all

social backgrounds. Although the surgery is performed in clinics around the

world, Dr Abecassis is one of the few Arab surgeons who talks openly about it.

Some of the women come to him because they need virginity certificates in order

to marry.

"She can be in danger because sometimes it's a matter of traditions and

family," says Dr Abecassis. "I believe we as doctors have no right to decide

for her or judge her."

With Chinese manufacturers leading the way, there are now non-surgical options

on the market as well. One website sells artificial hymens for just 20 (23

euros). The Chinese hymen is made of elastic and filled with fake blood. Once

inserted in the vagina, the woman can simulate virginity, the company claims.

'Caught out'

But this was not an option for Nada. As a young girl growing up in the Lebanese

countryside she fell in love and lost her virginity. "I was scared my family

would find out especially since they didn't approve of my relationship," she

says. "I was terrified they might kill me."

After seven years in the relationship, her lover's family wanted him to marry

someone else. Nada attempted suicide. "I got a bottle of Panadol and a bottle

of household chemicals," she says. "I drank them and said, 'That's it'."

Even if society accepts such a thing, I would still refuse to marry her

Noor

Nada is now 40, and found out about surgical hymen restoration just six years

ago. She married and had two children. Her wedding night was a stressful

ordeal. "I didn't sleep that night. I was crying," she says. "I was very scared

but he didn't suspect anything."

It's a secret that Nada - which is not her real name - will carry to her grave.

"I am ready to hide it until death," she says. "Only God will know about it."

But it's not only the older generation that subscribes to traditional views

about sex before marriage, when it comes to choosing a wife.

Noor is a trendy professional who works in Damascus. He's fairly representative

of young Syrian men in a secular society. But although Noor says he believes in

equality for women, underneath the liberal facade lies a deep-rooted

conservatism.

"I know girls who went through this restoration and they were caught out on

their wedding night by their husbands," he says. "They realised they weren't

virgins. Even if society accepts such a thing, I would still refuse to marry

her."

Muslim clerics are quick to point out that the virginity issue is not about

religion. "We should remember that when people wait for the virgin's blood to

be spilled on the sheet, these are all cultural traditions," says Syrian

cleric, Sheikh Mohamad Habash. "This is not related to Shariah law."

Christian communities in the Middle East are often just as firm in their belief

that women should be virgins when they marry.

Arab writer and social commentator, Sana Al Khayat believes the whole issue has

much to with the notion of "control".

"If she's a virgin, she doesn't have any way of comparing [her husband to other

men]. If she's been with other men, then she has experience. Having experience

makes women stronger."

It may be the 21st Century but the issue of virginity in Arab culture can still

be a matter of life and death, especially for women like Sonia and Nada.

And while hymen repair may be a quick fix, it can't reconcile centuries of

ingrained tradition with the attitudes of modern society.

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Published: 2010/04/24 23:25:14 GMT