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My wife and I went to dinner the other day and we got to talking about our old college relationships. We met at work a few years after we'd both graduated; I think we've always been curious about that younger version of us. I've heard stories here and there, but that period of both our lives has missing spots, like a hazy strip of overexposed negatives on a roll of film.
Before she met me she had a boyfriend for a couple of years, but they'd broken up a little before he moved to another city. I on the other hand had been single throughout my college years, having dated a few people but never quite settled in a relationship. The topic came up because she'd asked about lessons I've learned from people I've dated, and I didn't have an answer right away. I told her to give me a minute while I wound up the memory reel of those papier-mâché dates that had gone mostly nowhere.
She shared one of the lessons she learned: people change without reason, and that's okay. In fact, we change people too, without reason, by being ourselves.
I shared what I'd learned: four kisses in the morning and three before going to bed is not the same as three kisses in the morning and four before going to bed.
The fact I learned this from her, I kept to myself.
Lessons from my side: just because she's not nodding her head, doesn't mean she hates the music. Also, don't start a deep discussion just before a specific eating time, or hangriness will ensue.
> I shared what I'd learned: four kisses in the morning and > three before going to bed is not the same as three kisses > in the morning and four before going to bed.
I've read this a few times now and can't work out what the implication is. Does one of you get upset if the improper number of kisses is applied?