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~starbreaker

Barkeep, I could use a White Lady over here. And a saucer of cream for Smudge if you've got any.

I'm 44, and I haven't had children. Just cats, and recently a dog. It's not that I didn't want to have kids; if I was determined to not have kids I would have been more consistent about wearing condoms.

Instead, my wife kinda wanted kids, and I was OK with it if it happened. We certainly had fun trying, but it just never worked out. Probably a good thing, to be honest.

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~tffb wrote:

hey ~starbreaker, I think when I was 19/20 I was "open" to the idea of having kids, because I was a gung-ho traditionalist who was in the military, and if I found someone who I fell for, I would have been a-ok with having a kid with them. The military was brief, that line of thinking was even *more* brief, and I didn't "go for" the idea of having a kid for very long after that. It was going to be a "just the thing you do" type of situation, which some find themselves in, and then go 100 steps into it, find unhappiness, and sort of wish they had applied their own thought all along.

Anyway, I am glad things worked out as they did, and as they continue to :)

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