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Title: Sex Tips for Restless Youth Author: CrimethInc. Date: May 11, 2000 Language: en Topics: sex, how to Source: Retrieved on 6th November 2020 from https://crimethinc.com/2000/05/11/sex-tips-for-restless-youth
Do you experience sexual problems? Do you have trouble getting aroused,
or having sex that is fulfilling, or simply meeting the right partners
to share that aspect of your life? Chances are you do — just have a look
at the magazine rack in any grocery store, and it’s clear from all the
advice columns and feature articles just how sexually lost and
frustrated modern men and women are. Unfortunately, these magazines only
offer symptomatic treatment (otherwise, they wouldn’t have to run the
same articles over and over every month!), no real, radical solutions.
And to date, few people have really dared to be open about their
troubles, thanks to the social pressures to be “successful” in all
affairs. So, in keeping with our general program of providing aid
wherever it is needed, we offer some tips:
citizen (responsive lover, macho man, etc.) — it won’t, it will just go
on strike. Better to serve it, if serving must be done.
that matter), by itself, provide you with qualities that should be
intrinsic to every moment of your life. It is not the role of your
sexuality to be your sole source of excitement, or intimacy, or pleasure
— it is the role of sex to be just that, to be sex. If you feel trapped
or insecure or bored everywhere else, you will probably have a hard time
shaking off those feelings in bed.
partner, dispel it. Heaven cannot be an isolated moment of life; it has
to be a complete way of living, or else it will be just another barren
myth to denigrate and impoverish the moments of our real experience.
Better that we find ways to make every moment of life as exciting as
great sex can be (and believe me, it can be done!), considering that we
can’t have sex all the time — such a thing would get boring, anyway,
since living has so many facets we must not neglect! You can feel and
share passion as deeply while building puppets for street demonstrations
together, sneaking onto rooftops for late night conversations, or
stowing away on ferryboats. Most people just haven’t had the chance to
be free and wild together anywhere outside the bedroom yet — and
consequently, it hardly comes naturally between the sheets.
around it like a noose by external forces: the leering billboards and
romantic comedies, the expectations of your friends and parents and
paramours, the television programs and other social programming devices
that would dictate desire and limit the erotic to the strictly sexual.
The powers that be have everything at stake in keeping your sexuality
emaciated and confined to the specific act of physical intercourse, to
one routine and one partner and one ghettoized category, so you won’t
discover in it the freedom that you could be living around the clock,
outside their control, beyond their target markets. But one step outside
the lines, and the world is yours.
obscene because it’s sexual, but because it’s not — replace the
representation with the real, in every instance, for maximum
possibility. Masturbation is a beautiful thing, but don’t let the
pornography industry buy out your libido. A two-dimensional woman, no
matter how trangressively posed, will do exactly what you command her
and no more: that means she can never challenge you with her own needs
or perspectives, never open new doors to you, never assert her selfhood.
That refusal to be challenged is a rejection of the vast expanses of
freedom that can only be reached with others. We should be wary of
giving our fantasies such slaves to rule over, lest we learn to
fetishize the violence of domination implied by such one-sided sex — and
end up living in the sterile, determinist world of control mania. Do you
want to explore, to reach unimaginable climaxes, to try out things
you’ve never seen in movies? Do it with other people — they are out
there. Let them know you’re ready.
Sexuality as art — now there’s a start. But more art “about” sexuality?
It’s doubtful that the world of images will ever belong to us again…
that’s just another diversion of our attention to that domain from this
world, where we should be practicing doing, being, feeling with one
another, not with the dangerous safety of an object. Make love and speak
about your best kept secrets, your blackest needs, the demands the
culture of fear places on your sexuality, held hostage as it is (never
fear, you’re not the only one who thinks you have things to hide — your
secret’s safe with all of us!)… We can get out of here, together, but
first we have to be honest to figure out where the fuck we are!
To find indulgences that simultaneously satisfy and subvert our
programmed, poisonous desires, and thus remake ourselves — that is the
key.