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Title: Review: Bisexuality Author: Michael William Date: 1993 Language: en Topics: AJODA, AJODA #36, relationships, review, sexuality, bisexual Source: Retrieved on August 26, 2009 from http://www.spunk.org/texts/pubs/ajoda/36/sp001384.txt Notes: Originally from âAnarchy: A Journal of Desire Armedâ #37 â Summer â93.
âThere seems to be some sort of war going on that Iâm not invited to,
but everyone wants me to take a side.â
â Alyx J. Shaw
We first appeared in print primarily in specialized medical and
psychiatric texts. Then, during the seventies, a brief, media-generated
âbisexual chicâ phase took place. Elton John and David Bowie were in the
spotlight; gender bending was in.
But as Gary North notes, in the nineties âbisexuality is not chic â not
in this age of AIDS.â A perception that the disease is spreading to the
het population from us is most peopleâs single impression of bis.
Invisible, except as propagators of a fatal disease â a more sinister
reputation is hard to imagine.
Invisible to others, âWe are just becoming visible to ourselves,â in one
biâs phrase, and in the last few years several anthologies edited by bis
have been changing the ways we see each other and the ways others see us
â Bisexuality: A Reader and Source-book; Bi Any Other Name; Closer To
Home. I devoured these books, like many other bis no doubt.
Appropriately, many of these pieces are personal histories and coming
out stories. Some are the double coming out stories of people who came
out initially as gays or lesbians and subsequently as bisexuals. There
are also longer, theoretical pieces, which are found mainly in Closer To
Home. Personal experiences are interwoven in some of these texts as
well.
Most bi activists and writers are women, and the new bi milieu/movement
on the whole is specifically queer and specifically feminist. Outlooks
in the bi womenâs milieu can be outlined and contrasted much more
readily, in effect, than in the comparatively intangible and less
theoretically developed menâs milieu.
Many bi texts discuss the often-tense relationship between bisexuals and
the lesbian and gay milieux. In the ferment of the beginnings of the Gay
Liberation Movement in the sixties, bis participated and apparently were
generally welcomed. Theorists such as Paul Goodman and Allen Ginsberg
actively promoted bisexuality; Gore Vidal, anarchist sexologist Alex
Comfort and others proposed that all people are bisexual. From a point
in the seventies on, however, being bi became decidedly uncool. Carol
Queen âgot more grief from my lesbian family for coming out as bi than
from my heterosexual one when I came out as a dyke....â Anne Schneider
comments: â...no bi woman I know has escaped the pain of being
ostracized by some elements of the lesbian community.â Surveying 400
participants at a womanâs event, Paula Rust found that, as well, fully
one out of three lesbian identified women questioned believed that
bisexuality does not exist, giving responses like the following:
believe that people can be bisexual.
bisexuality, but only as a transitional stage:
transition.
bisexual women are either (a) really âlesbianâ but using the bisexual
label to preserve their heterosexual privilege in society, or (b) on
their way to becoming lesbian and using the bisexual label as a âsafeâ
transition stage, or (c) experimenting with lesbianism but not in a
serious way.Some did not hesitate to classify bisexuality as a mental
illness:
It is hardly surprising in this kind of climate that some gays and
lesbians are banking on science for the ultimate proof of the
non-existence of bisexuals. âThere ainât no such animal, as Iâm
confident will be finally proven by the study of genetics,â according to
an anonymous letter-writer in response to an article on bisexuality by
Michael Szymanski in Genre.
Brenda Blasingame outlines accusations she encountered, and which have
frequently been directed at other bis: â...that I am sitting on the
fence, that I am experimenting, that I am not really gay but straight,
that it is wrong for me to want to be with a man, or that it is just a
phase.â Rebecca Schuster lists other common perceptions and accusations:
âprofiteers of heterosexual privilege, indecisive, untrustworthy,
exotic, incapable of committed relationships, promiscuous, and
responsible for the spread of AIDS. [Bisexuals are] accused of harboring
loyalty to the enemy, or worse, of being traitors.â Bisexuality, in
Paula Rustâs description, becomes a âbadge of political cowardice, and
social pressure is brought upon those who identify as bisexuals to âmake
up their mindsâ.â
Eridani controversially contends that anti-bi sentiment in the gay and
lesbian milieux is an âalmost exclusively female phenomenon.â
âIn 1990, the organizers for the annual gay pride celebrations in
Northampton, Massachusetts, added the word âbisexualâ to the event
title. A group of lesbians packed subsequent meetings and voted to
remove it. A similar fight against adding âbisexualâ to the New England
Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychologists was led by women. In San
Francisco, when the Bay Times added âbisexualâ to its masthead, all the
letters objecting to the new title were from women. Why is it that
women, and not men, think that the gay community is being contaminated
by the presence of bisexuals?â
In Carol Queenâs opinion, gay men âseem more likely to cite personal
antipathy or simple stereotypes about bisexuals as a source of their
chagrin,â whereas the reaction of lesbians has been more a question of
an ideological rejection, an outlook echoed by Eridani. However, there
is clearly considerable hostility to bis in the gay menâs milieu, as
accounts in Bi Any Other Name and elsewhere make clear. And in an
article in the June â92 âQueer Issueâ of the Village Voice, former
OutWeek editor Gabriel Rotello demonstrates that heâs no slouch when it
comes to laying the theoretical basis of a new, more sophisticated
anti-bi agenda which distances itself from the more outrageous bi myths
while erecting even more watertight barriers between bis and the gay and
lesbian milieux.
Bis have offered a variety of theories to explain biphobia. For Brenda
Blasingame, âBiphobia emerges from the belief in the dichotomy of gay
and straight, with no in-between. Therefore bisexuals are not seen as
part of the gay community but apart from the community.â Gabriel
Rotelloâs alarmed comment that bis challenge âthe most cherished
assumption of the lesbian and gay movement: that itâs by and for
homosexualsâ is an illustration. Amanda Udis-Kessler sees biphobia as
part of a deeper identity crisis:
âLesbians and gay men have been able to define themselves as other than
heterosexual; bisexuals challenge that definition regardless of our
intention to do so. Behind the painful lesbian and gay biphobia which we
have experienced is a poignant cry for self; âyou donât existâ means âI
do exist.â And, too, the rejection as a group (âgo form your own
communities; youâre not welcome in oursâ) is a way for lesbians and gay
men to claim a group identity, to say âwe exist, not just as individuals
but as a communityâ.â
Eridani, on the other hand, links her contention that biphobia is more
widespread in the lesbian milieu to what she believes are fundamental
differences between men and women. Basing her analysis on Kinsey studies
and other observations she inverts the usual identity-as-an-affirmation
stance, positing that âwomen, compared to men, tend not to have sexual
orientations.â Therefore, she continues, âmost women have some degree of
choice about their sexual orientation and most men donât.â This thesis,
for Eridani, helps to explain the âpolitical lesbianâ phenomenon of the
seventies, as exemplified by the statement âfeminism is the theory;
lesbianism is the practice,â a quote cited and reacted to many times in
these books. âMany of the women who preferred the solidarity and support
of the new womenâs communities,â Eridani continues, âdid not have sexual
orientations. A few even had heterosexual orientations, which they
suppressed. A clear difference in the prevalence of sexual orientations
is apparent here. Who ever heard of a heterosexual male who decided to
become gay on the grounds that he didnât like being around women most of
the time? Men like this become batterers and rapists instead.â According
to Eridani, âIt is mainly lesbians without sexual orientations who are
hostile to bisexuals as well. The old standard âany woman can be a
lesbianâ is true for the large number of women who donât have sexual
orientations. Therefore becoming a feminist implies to some women that,
on ethical grounds, women should choose to have a relationship only with
women [...] I donât see how this attitude differs from that of Phyllis
Schlafly, who thinks that I should choose a heterosexual relationship in
order to be a good Christian reactionary.â According to Eridani, âThe
phenomenon of âhasbiansâ in the eighties, i.e. women who first became
aware of their sexuality in the lesbian-feminist matrix and later took
up with men, indicates again that there are a lot of lesbian feminists
who really donât have sexual orientations.â Eridaniâs provocative
formulations are not without their internal coherence, but ultimately
leave me wary. When a couple of people who had read the article
mentioned it among some local bis, those present did not seem to have
definitive verdicts. Perhaps readers would like to comment?
Central to many of these texts are questions of identity, a concept
which âbisexuals have alternately clung to and shrunk from,â in Kathleen
Bennettâs words. Many bis locate themselves on a continuum between
straight and gay. A point which, for some, is not fixed: during a
lifetime oneâs same or other sex attraction can increase (having gone
from het to bi in middle age, this has been the case with me). This
fluidity is itself seen as threatening by âessentialistâ outlooks which
are common in the gay and lesbian milieux, theories which posit identity
as an innate, unchanging essence from which many of us are said to be
alienated; to become whole, we must rediscover our lost essence, our
true identity. Concerning sexual orientation this easily leads to
dismissing 10 years of pleasurable het sex as a state of false
consciousness.
Some bis say that they are not part straight and part gay but âall bi.â
Others refer to distinct straight or gay sides of themselves, or like
Victoria Woodward, to âmy lesbian selfâ and âmy heterosexual self.â For
Rebecca Schuster, on the other hand, bis are â100 percent lesbian or gay
and 100 percent hetero-sexual...we are simultaneous full members of both
groups.â In Dvora Zipkinâs experience, however, âmany bisexual women
share a general sense of not belonging to either the lesbian or
heterosexual world.â
Personally I feel apart from and a part of both the straight and gay
milieux.
Also coloring questions of identity are divergences between bis for whom
a dichotomy of genders doesnât seem to exist, or is secondary, and those
who see differences between the sexes as fundamental. For Karin Baker,
âWomen and men are actually more alike than different, and most of our
differences are social creations.â For Alyx Shaw, in an article in
Angles, âLove is not a gender-oriented experience.â In a letter to Gay
Ottawa Info, Cathy Moreau says, âAfter all, I not only fall in love (and
lust) with a personâs body, but, more importantly, with his or her
beliefs, attitudes and behavior. In short, the person as a whole. And
what is a body, anyways? Just a carrier for the brain and/or soul.â
Anne Fox, on the other hand, describes her relations to men and women as
âsimply (and complexly) different.â For Karen Klassen, âthere are parts
of myself, ways of being which I just donât experience with men.â Diane
Anderson states, âI donât think a man can match the depth and intimacy
that you can find with a woman.â And in Susie Brightâs opinion,
âIntellectually, we always favor those of our own sex, even if theyâre
not our sexual partners. Bisexuals are the same as everyone else in this
regard.â
Transsexuals add another dimension to questions of gender and identity.
For John, a pre-operative bi interviewed for an article published in
Tapestry and On Our Backs, âItâs my genitals that are dishonest. The
truth is that I am a man.â
For Karin Baker, because âbisexuality blurs the supposed duality of
sexualityâ it âhas the potential to go beyond gender.â If homosexuality
explodes the complementarity of âopposite sexes,â bisexuality further
challenges institutionalized gender polarization itself â opening the
door to a more androgynous mix which could even abolish the male/female
split as we know it. But the example of John and others cited above
indicate that, even when considerably bent, gender categories easily
spring back to resemble familiar male/female forms. Baker acknowledges,
undermining the âbeyond genderâ thesis, that some bis âare attracted to
women for the qualities culturally associated with this gender and to
men for qualities identified as masculine.â Clearly, bisexuality does
not automatically challenge gender roles. Rebecca Kaplanâs warning: âIf
we wish to deny that women are âinnately weakâ, we cannot also say that
women are âinnately peacefulââ highlights problematic essentialist
assumptions which are also present in some bi discourses.
The meaning of the often politically charged word lesbian and how bis
relate to the question of lesbian identity has also been complex. âIs
being a lesbian about being attracted to and falling in love with women,
or about not being attracted to and falling in love with, or at least
getting involved with, men?â asks Elizabeth Rebe Weise. For some,
becoming bi signifies leaving behind the label lesbian. âI fell in love
with a man,â says Lani Kaahumanu, âand that did not make sense to me as
a lesbian.â Stacey Young calls herself a âfeminist and formerly-lesbian
bisexual woman.â However others retain a lesbian identity, using the
term âlesbian bisexual,â for example.
Though sleeping with men, others reject a bisexual identity, raising the
recurring question of a disparity between identity and behavior. Holly
Near, for example, says she âdoesnât feel like a bisexual,â and that her
lesbianism is âlinked to [a] political perspectiveâ rather than âsexual
preferenceâ â causing Beth Elliot to ruefully remark, âunlike,
presumably, her bisexuality.â These identity clashes are typically set
out in the contrast between Sheela Lambertâs statement: âI feel that
everyone should have the right to define their own identityâ and
Elizabeth Rebe Weiseâs approach: âYouâve got Rita Mae Brown, Jan
Clausen, Jill Johnson, Holly Near, June Jordan, pillars of the lesbian
community, who all turned out to be bisexual, however they choose to
define themselves.â For Voice writer Gabriel Rotello, this kind of
attitude represents an âInvasion of the Orientation Snatchersâ which
will âdecimate the ranks of gay history.â
In a seventies-eighties lesbian feminist climate in which âthe personal
is politicalâ was often interpreted in the most literal way â no
âsleeping with the enemyâ â bisexuality inevitably challenged
orthodoxies which proposed that, in Stacey Youngâs description, âdesire
can and should be subordinated to a narrowly-defined, politically
correct version of sex.â âBut desire will out,â as Elizabeth Rebe Weise
puts it in her introduction to Closer To Home: âWe chose to acknowledge
our desires and then find a way to live with them as feminists and as
thoughtful human beings.â In a clash-between-desire-and-PC-sex sense,
bisexuality is linked to the trajectory of other sexual minorities and
to what has become known as the âsex warsâ which began in the late
seventies over porn, S/M, butch/femme, transsexuals, using dildos, etc.
Accusations of being dupes and traitors levelled at bis in effect are
strikingly similar to accusations other sexual minorities have
encountered. In a letter to OUT/LOOK, Lyndall Mac-Cowan says, âI was
glad to see the âBisexuality Debateâ in your Spring â92 issue. The
articles and the cover art made a connection for me that, as a Kinsey
scale 5-1/2,1 Iâd never considered. The fears embedded in biphobia â
that âsome lesbiansâ are really straight, or might be contaminating
lesbian space with heterosexual values â are some of the same
accusations and fears that have been directed at me as a femme for
twenty years.â For John, the pre-op transsexual, âthe lesbian community
is the only place where I encounter hostility. They think Iâm a woman,
so they think Iâm a traitor.â And in feminist Robin Morganâs
unforgettable accusation, a lesbian S/M practitioner is âa lesbian copy
of a faggot imitation of patriarchal backlash against feminism.â
Some bis are enthusiastic about the appearance of a broader, more
inclusive âqueerâ milieu in which bis and other sexual minorities can
more easily claim a space without having to constantly justify their
existence. However, other bis are less comfortable with the queer
concept or relate primarily to the het world. Ultimately, the
relationship between bis and other minorities such as butch/ femme or
transsexuals remains unclear. As well, many bis and presumably most
anarchists would have problems with S/M, with its array of
accoutrements, dungeons and dominator/ dominated roles. For
anti-authoritarians, S/M no doubt raises a variety of thorny questions
concerning power, consent, and the limits of desire/reappearance of PC
sex.
If a vocal bisexual milieu has indisputably surfaced in the last decade,
the extent of the existence of a movement is more a question of debate.
Susan Sturges, in a letter responding to Gabriel Rotelloâs Voice
article, speaks of a âsurging bisexual movementâ; in OUT/LOOK, on the
other hand, bi theorist Amanda Udis-Kessler is considerably more
hesitant: âEach group has a different sense of where a movement â if
there exists a movement â or where a community (god knows if there is a
community) might be going.â
Bi groups began to spring up in a number of North American and European
cities in the late seventies and early eighties. In 1985, the East Coast
Bisexual network was formed. Bi contingents in gay and lesbian pride
marches were organized, newsletters and journals appeared, and in 1990,
Bi Pol, a political action group, sponsored the first national Bisexual
Conference. As bis come out of the closet what has been termed the GBD
(Great Bisexual Debate) has rippled through the gay and lesbian press.
In Genre, a new upscale publication which bills itself as the âgay
Esquire,â bisexuality was recently labelled âthe most controversial
issue of the nineties.â
As it takes shape, however, a number of problematic aspects of the new
bi milieu/movement have become apparent. First, there is the diversity
noted by Elizabeth Rebe Weise in an assessment of a 1988 bi conference:
âWe are Communists, Socialists, Anarchists, Democrats, Republicans,
Libertarians, and probably some who want to see the monarchy
re-established.â In other words, a sprawling mess: a shared sexual
orientation becomes the only glue preventing things from disintegrating
into cacophony, underscoring the familiar, limiting focus endemic to
single-issue-based groups.
Although many bis talk of selecting friends and partners as individuals
as opposed to members of gender categories, this individualist thrust is
rarely explored further. Rather, organizers typically exhort bis to
execute âtheoretical tasksâ or to âtake on liberation work,â putting
forth a dreary, sacrifice-oriented approach which is exhausting in
itself as opposed to potentially liberating. Talk of leadership, unity,
âtasksâ, role models, programs â all the reactionary bric-Ă -brac of
âprogressiveâ and national liberation movements abounds in the new bi
milieu. But there are also critiques of identity politics and
victimization approaches, and attempts to learn from the mistakes of
national liberation movement ideology. (I should add that, in attempting
to outline bi viewpoints, this text has taken on something of a
victimization coloring itself....)
Despite the eclectic nature of the milieu, some bis are proposing a
false unity. For Rebecca Gorlin, âRecognition takes a strong and united
bisexual front.â âUnity Is Our Bi-Wordâ was chosen as the theme of the
bi contingent in a San Francisco gay and lesbian pride day march. Unity
usually implies leaders to crystallize a representation racket. And
there is no lack of talk of leadership in these texts. According to the
editors of Bi Any Other Name, âwe must nurture all the leadership
potential of our community.â Calling for a âliberation program,â Rebecca
Schuster exhorts bis to âclaim our homes among lesbians and gay men and
heterosexuals and rapidly take our place with them as powerful leaders
of all people.â This craving for leadership is complemented by the
mediaâs need for leaders in order to feed the spectacle. In his anti-bi
article in the Voice, Gabriel Rotello deftly integrates the leadership
phenomenon, playing off bi leaders whose discourse supports his thesis
against others he feels threatened by. That a leadership has solidified
as far as the media are concerned appears evident for example in the
letters printed and choice of participants in a round table on
bisexuality which appeared in OUT/LOOK in response to a feature section
on bisexuality in the previous issue: three were editors of books on
bisexuality and another was Amanda Udis-Kessler, who appears to be the
most referred-to bi theorist. But there are also texts which stress a
non-hierarchical approach or which question leadership. Kathleen
Bennett, for example, cautions that âThe bisexual movement must not
yield to the faulty thinking of âvanguardismâ just because of our
potential to have a special perspective on dualism.â
Along with cheerleading for leadership are equally strong but somewhat
different calls for role models. (Personally it has always escaped me
why people want to model themselves on someone else, anyway). Lacking a
bi milieu, or often even someone to share perceptions of bisexuality
with, it is no doubt understandable, if unfortunate, that the role model
exerts such an attraction for so many bis. For Gary North, âthe problem
is, we donât have many role models.â Dianne Anderson, upon moving to
L.A., âfound few bisexual role models and even fewer that I could relate
to.â For Beth Elliot, a cultural hero â a Malcolm X â becomes the
solution to the question of the bi message not getting out. Comparing
Holly Near, who rejects the label bisexual, to Gretchen Phillips (a
young out bi musician), Elliot says, âStill, it is Holly Near and not
Gretchen Phillips who has the credentials to be a spokesperson or role
model attractive to seventies lesbian feminists and the younger women
who identify with their left-oriented community....â What is needed, in
Elliotâs opinion, is âa Holly Near-type/ era bisexual feminist role
model to go along with the Gretchen Phillips-type/ era bisexual feminist
role model.â One individual representing an era would seem aberrant, but
no stranger than representation itself to those of us who wish to be
represented by no one.
Also problematic is the concept âbi pride.â If bi pride functions as an
understandable reaction to homophobia and biphobia, it rapidly tends to
become a broader, in one biâs phrase, âI am fine the way I amâ outlook
which promotes complacency: if everyone stays exactly the way they are,
the chances of radical change are mighty slim....
Mirroring the new bi movement, the editorial focus of these books is
feminist. Thus some of the many feminist insights are incorporated, and
dismantling the patriarchy becomes a focal point. But at the same time
feminism itself is largely left unchallenged; on the contrary,
underlining the feminist credentials of the new queer-bi milieu becomes
a priority. Although there are critiques of lesbian separatism (the
tendency which has been the most hostile to bis), much of the writing in
these texts is similar to mainstream lesbian currents. Speaking about
members of the Seattle Bisexual Womenâs Network who encountered problems
when they attempted to organize a workshop at the Northwest Lesbian
Conference, Elizabeth Rebe Weise states, âin fact, many of us were
indistinguishable from the lesbians in that group in our politics and
lives.â
In Closer To Home; Bisexuality and Feminism, bisexual men are rarely
mentioned beyond a couple of accounts by women who were involved with bi
men. One is left to wonder what the relationship (if any) between the bi
womenâs and menâs milieu is (if there is a menâs milieu), though there
is clearly some interaction in certain local bi groups and in planning
regional and national events. Beth Elliot notes, âMany of us take part
in bisexual womenâs groups without necessarily feeling part of a larger
(and co-ed) bisexual community.â In a review of Closer To Home in
Frighten the Horses, Carol Queen comments that âMany of the bookâs
contributors seem to feel that theyâve found practically the only man
worth relating to....â
There is little specifically anti-statist sentiment in bi texts, or,
indeed, mention of the state at all. One is left to wonder what kind of
state is being proposed, no doubt a question better left unasked. There
is also little profound questioning of technology, industrialism, or the
economy, giving the impression that the status quo, or something close,
is acceptable to most of these writers and activists.
To date, bi visibility and achieving formal recognition in the
gay/lesbian milieu have constituted the narrow focus of most bi
organizing efforts. Like Susan Trynka, some bis feel that the âqueer
womenâs communities are probably a lot more responsive to bisexuality
nowâ than in the past. Certainly some of the more absurd myths, such as
the non-existence of bisexuality, seem to be crumbling. The word
bisexual is more and more visible in gay and lesbian journals and
events. And as long as same-sex attractions continue to bring us
together, bis will interact with lesbians and gays, whether we are
formally accepted or not. As Carol Queen notes, âIt wonât help to vote
whether bisexuals should be let in: we are in.â At the same time some
gays and lesbians have made it clear that, for them, bis will never be
accepted; they will remain âheterosexual transgressions into our
entrenched, yet fun, little world,â as Ara Wilson put it, or in Sandy
Dwyerâs blunt phrase: âThey are merely opportunists.â
Merely opportunists?!?
Bisexuality; A Reader and Sourcebook edited by Thomas Geller (Times
Change Press, Box 1380, Ojai, California 93023, 1990) 184pp. $10.95
paper.
Bi Any Other Name; Bisexual People Speak Out edited by Lorraine Hutchins
and Lani Kaahumanu (Alyson Publishing, 40 Plympton Street, Boston,
Massachusetts 02118, 1991) 416pp. $11.95 paper.
Closer To Home; Bisexuality and Feminism edited by Elizabeth Rebe Weise
(Seal Press, 3131 Western Avenue, Suite 410, Seattle, Washington 98121,
1992) 320pp. $14.95 paper.
A new anthology, of which at least half will be by women of color, will
soon be available from Sister Vision Press. Write to: Bisexual Womenâs
Anthology, c/o Sister Vision Press, P.O. Box 217, Station E, Toronto,
Ontario, Canada M6H 4E2.
BiWomen (East Coast Bi-Network, 338 Newbury Street, Second Floor,
Boston, Massachusetts 02115). Bi-monthly. $15.00/ year.
North Bi Northwest (P.O. Box 30645, Greenwood Station, Seattle,
Washington 98103â0645). Bi-monthly. $12.00/year.
BiNet USA, the Bisexual Network of the USA (5584 Castro Street #441, San
Francisco, California 94114). A quarterly newsletter is available. No
fee, but $35 donation is requested.
East Coast Bi Network. Phone 617â2476683 in Boston.
3x3 (P.O. Box 10436, Oakland, California 94610). Bisexual People of
Color â political, support, and social group.
International Directory of Bisexual Resources (The Center, 338 Newbury
Street, Second Floor, Boston, Massachusetts 02115) $6.00.