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Title: Navigating Trauma Author: Mutual Aid Disaster Relief Language: en Topics: mental health, mutual aid, trauma Source: Retrieved on 28th March 2022 from https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/NavigatingTraumaZine-WEB.pdf
It is very difficult to do long periods of intense solidarity work
without feeling emotionally exhausted. It can be emotionally damaging to
witness the suffering of others. Injustice hits you in the face again
with every new case â each new personal tragedy. Since grassroots
solidarity requires a genuine emotional engagement with those weâre
supporting, it also exposes us to their suffering. We may always dismiss
it as trivial in comparison, and while itâs true that we may not be the
ones experiencing the real violence or loss, we are susceptible to the
cumulative effects of exposure to story after story.
We have seen time and time again in New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina,
doing human rights work in Palestine, refugee solidarity in Calais and
in so many other contexts, it is very common for people responding to
suffer from a complex mixture of guilt, shame and âlow level
accumulativeâ trauma. On top of this, it is also common for there to be
a state of denial about peopleâs own symptoms, and if they do recognize
any symptoms they do not think they should be ââallowedââ to have them.
So many of these people are our lovers, our friends, and our heroes â
people who inspire us â but we know we need to do a better job
integrating healing justice in our movements.
For those of you who have responded, we know you may be feeling a
mixture of guilt or shame for ânot having done enoughâ. You might think
or say something like: âHow can I have fun and relax when people are
suffering?â
The guilt and shame of not having done enough is the bane of almost
every activistâs life and every campaign. This all comes into much
sharper focus when the person suffering is somebody you have met,
somebody you know and love. This might seem obvious, but it needs to be
said over and over: ITâS NOT YOUR FAULT.
Catastrophes of climate chaos, war and exploitation will sadly continue
on. As solidarity-based relief and aid workers we need to practice
mental health awareness and caring for ourselves and each other in order
to be able to navigate through the trauma that working in these spaces
can induce. We ask that even in times of crisis, you take time to make
your physical and emotional well-being a priority. And please hold us
accountable to maintaining a sustainable, empowering, and supportive
organizational culture.
In movements for justice and liberation, we often talk about
sustainability in all things except ourselves. We can clear-cut our own
âemotional reservesâ, or âburn the candle at both endsââ and simply
expect our bodies and minds to deal with it. But everyone has a breaking
point, and going beyond it can take months or even years to recover.
Some people have learned where their limits are and try to work within
them. However, in what can be an intense atmosphere of a post-disaster
zone, people may be tempted to go well beyond their own limits or push
other people to go beyond what they feel able to do. Tragically, this
can lead people to drop out of our movements altogether.
If this does happen in the heat of the moment, it is essential that you
later take the time and/or other steps to recover.
The fight, flight or freeze defense mechanism is a very powerful
reaction that automatically kicks in during threatening situations. In
the split second of a tense situation it controls what a person does.
The amygdala â the part of the brain that controls your fear response â
has to react so quickly because such situations are interpreted as a
matter of life and death, leaving only a short list of possible
reactions to choose from: fight, run or freeze.
While this is often a very useful and natural process, it has the
potential for many harmful effects if fired too many times through
repeated long-term exposure to traumatic and/or highly stressful events.
Traumatic events often create life difficulties that make further
traumatic reactions more likely, resulting in what is called complex
trauma, or the experience of multiple traumatic events in oneâs
lifetime. Toxic stress, similarly, is the experience of living in an
environment of prolonged and frequent adversity. In truth, such
conditions exist for the majority of the communities we are working
with, and as activists we are working within these communities, we are
not immune to this toxic process.
It is important to acknowledge here that what makes an event traumatic
is different for everyone; we all have unique emotional experiences and
cope with trauma differently. Our brainâs reactions to trauma play out
in many different ways. Through this disruptive process in our brains,
particularly when this process is prolonged and/or intensified as is the
case in environments of toxic stress, it is often as if a rupture is
created between us and our own sense of self â trauma is both
existential and physical.
Being in this constantly stressed state can be unhealthy and leave you
open to a multitude of negative neurological and physical reactions:
from infection and risk of illness as our immune systems shut down,
short- and long-term memory loss, digestive difficulties, etc. The mind
and body are trying to deal with what they believe to be a short-term
crisis, by resorting to focusing primarily on necessary survival
functions.
Afterwards, our brain and body systems seek to regain control and make
sense of the experience to prevent it from happening again. The brain
may replay the experience in front of our inner eye to try and grasp it,
while at the same time we want to avoid anything connected with it. We
can become emotionally withdrawn because we do not feel safe and we feel
bad about what happened.
It is true that we donât have total control over our lives, but in
understanding the way trauma works and practices for dealing with it, we
can work to regain a sense of power, wholeness, and personal
effectiveness. In addition, it is also possible to help others through
loss or crisis while mitigating the risk of trauma and gain a new sense
of what is possible through the process.
Vicarious (or bystander) trauma is the process of change that happens
because you care about other people who have been hurt, and feel
committed or responsible to help them. The effects of vicarious trauma
are nearly identical to those experienced in trauma, as discussed above.
Over time this process can lead to changes in your psychological,
physical, and spiritual well-being. The only difference with vicarious
trauma is that it is not something you directly experience, but
experience through anotherâs traumatic experience.
Vicarious trauma is cumulative. It is what happens when witnessing
cruelty and hearing stories of devastation, and can occur whether you
hear one story, or story after story, day after day, year after year.
This process of change is ongoing. Your experiences of vicarious trauma
are continuously being influenced by your life experiences.
Vicarious trauma happens because you care, you empathize with people who
are hurting. You have empathy â the ability to relate to and understand
another personâs experiences, reactions, and feelings. When you care
about people who have endured terrible things, you bring their grief,
fear, anger, and despair into your awareness and experience and feel it
along with them in some way.
Vicarious trauma occurs because you feel committed or responsible to
help. This is a good thing! But can lead to very high (and sometimes
unrealistic) expectations of yourself, others, and the results you want
to see. Your commitment and sense of responsibility can eventually lead
to feeling burdened, overwhelmed, and hopeless in the face of great need
and suffering, as well as cause you to over-extend yourself beyond what
is reasonable for your own well-being or the best long-term interests of
those you are attempting to be in solidarity with. And it is important
to note here that, in repeated studies, this effect is felt by every
individual regardless of how long they have been doing the work.
How does your sense of committment & responsibility to solidarity work
help you? How might it hurt you?
There are generally three different reactions that commonly occur after
direct or indirect experiences of brutality and suffering. These
reactions are often referred to as âPost-Traumatic Stressâ. People might
experience one, some, or all of them. These are:
1. Re-experiencing the traumatic event: nightmares, flashbacks,
intrusive memories, the feeling of not being able to let go of the
experience,
2. Avoidance / Suppression / Emotional numbing: losing the memory,
self-medication (alcohol / drugs), self-isolation, social withdrawal,
avoidance of everything that may recall the experience (known as
avoidance behavior),
3. Increased arousal: Sleeplessness, irritation, rage, emotional
outbursts, panic attacks, fear, hyper-vigilance, difficulties
concentrating and performing normal tasks
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THESE ARE ALL COMMON REACTIONS TO EXTREME SITUATIONS!
What are some signs that you have experienced? Think back about what may
be the first signals that warn you that youâre beginning to struggle
with trauma?
Your struggles with trauma can have a serious impact on those close to
you as well. Withdrawal, overusing alcohol, lack of sleep, diminished
sexuality, over-protectiveness, loss of compassion or hope all influence
the way you interact with those you love.
Consider asking people you are close to âWhat have you noticed about the
way I behave and appear to feel when Iâm under pressure?â or a similar
question.
People react differently and in different intensities to a traumatic
experience. They also have different needs in terms of support. You can
become traumatized by your personal experience, by witnessing, but also
outside the action by knowing the survivor or just through hearing about
it.
For most people, these symptoms slowly disappear after about 4â6 weeks.
But if they continue, this is typically diagnosed as a condition called
âPTSDâ (post-traumatic stress âdisorderâ â though we disagree with using
the word âdisorderâ for something we see as a normal reaction)
In such a case, you may wish to seek âprofessionalâ help (which might be
helpful anyway if the reaction in the first weeks is strong). It may be
that post-traumatic stress occurs months or even years after the
experience because we donât initially process the experience. The
experience is blocked, so it keeps on hurting. There is never any shame
in seeking help from professionals when the feelings seem too big in the
moment. However, it is also important that we, as a community of
activists, practice healing justice and community care within as well,
creating spaces where our collective empathy and grace can work to
lessen the effects of experiencing trauma, vicarious or otherwise.
The following factors appear to make it more likely that a person will
develop Post-Traumatic Stress:
and prison officer brutality)
which is why itâs so important to support each other more effectively
â the first minutes and hours can make a massive difference.
All of this being said, however, everyone experiences and reacts to
traumatic situations in different ways, and there is no right or wrong
way to react to traumatic events. The most important thing to remember
is: if it feels like a traumatic experience to you, then it is.
people around you who you can trust and who can care for you.
friend in detail. Write down what happened. Express it in whatever way
suits you.
you take care of yourself â especially escape, rest, and play.
Examples of positive coping strategies may include: books, films, video
games, talking to friends about things other than work, taking time off,
lying on the grass, sipping tea, taking a nap, getting a massage, being
physically active, sharing jokes, being creative. It is important to
remember here to find whatever works best for you, and to not try to
emulate what works for someone else.
What are activities you enjoy doing that help you cope with trauma?
We do not just want to cope, however. We want to heal and transform.
Transforming trauma means identifying ways to nurture a sense of meaning
and hope.
Examples include: reminding yourself of the importance of your work,
staying connected with friends and family, paying attention to the
âlittle thingsâ, partaking in traditions or rituals, reading, writing,
prayer or meditation, challenging your cynical beliefs, learning,
journaling, being creative or artistic.
What are activities you enjoy doing that could help you transform trauma
on a deeper level?
Three important themes in an effective action plan for dealing with
trauma are awareness, balance, and connection.
to them can lead you to a sense of what you need, and how to change
whatâs happening or manage your own responses so that things donât get
worse. Being aware of what youâre doing while youâre doing it,
deliberately keeping your mind and body in the same place may help
prevent or manage trauma.
Reflect on how you are feeling (physically, emotionally,spiritually).
Are you aware of anything out of the ordinary? If so, what might that be
related to?
the work you are doing and balancing really demanding work with less
challenging work. Make sure each work day includes breaks for
meals/physical activity/rest. Spend some time with people you donât have
to take care of, or better yet, who take care of you. Understand that
exhausted activists and volunteers are prone to making mistakes, and may
do more harm than good.
Fill in the blanks: âI sometimes find it difficult to balance _____ with
_____.â
with others is one of the best things we can do to address vicarious
trauma. Connection also means being connected with what nurtures and
anchors you. Whether that is nature, religion, or another source of
meaning, awe, joy, wonder, purpose, and hope. It is very important as
well.
What are some communities that help you feel nurtured, supported, and
connected?
How you think about your work plays a big role in keeping you balanced,
healthy, and able to prevent or manage trauma. Ask yourself:
Aid Disaster Relief or climate justice more broadly?
changing?
determination, ingenuity, compassion, courage, resilience, heroism,
etc.?
We want to integrate healing justice in all aspects of our work and
build an organizational culture of care and compassion for each other.
We encourage all participants to take time to talk together about and
reflect on disaster relief experiences. People in groups can go round,
taking turns to give everybody the space to talk about what happened,
where they were, what they saw and heard, what they felt and what they
thought. Participation is voluntary and it is more useful if people have
the same level of trauma. If you are no longer in a location with other
participants, we welcome you to use our Facebook group page to discuss,
connect, and reflect. When peer support isnât enough, there is a 24/7,
365-day-a-year, free, and multi-lingual Disaster Distress Helpline that
provides crisis counseling and support to people experiencing emotional
distress related to natural or human-caused disasters. Call
1-800-985-5990 or text TalkWithUs to 66746 to connect with a trained
crisis counselor.
What does Mutual Aid Disaster Relief do well to support you and help
reduce the risk or mitigate the effects of trauma? What could it do
better?
Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and
that is an act of political warfare. -Audre Lorde
you feel safe and take care of yourself. This may mean allowing other
people to take care of you. Donât isolate yourself. Turn to your friends
and tell them what you need. Family and friends often donât know how to
help. Tell them what you need and donât need.
for walks, cycle or run, do exercises.
yourself. Remind yourself: it was not your fault! Your reactions are
normal and there is help available; this is a difficult phase but you
will get better. Find out more about trauma. The more you know, the
easier it is to see your reactions as normal reactions to âabnormalâ
events.
damaging effects in the long run and will restrict your life.
Self-medication with alcohol and drugs may seem to help for the moment
but has negative effects in the long run. The same is true for staying
in unhealthy relationships.
you deal with the emotions. Valerian is good for sleeplessness. Massages
and hot baths are always a good idea. Also, donât be afraid to see a
professional if that is what you need. Good therapists or other
professionals can help. Make sure to find someone who you feel safe and
comfortable enough with to open up to. It also helps if they are
politically sympathetic or at least neutral. Youâd see a doctor if you
had a broken leg. Trauma is a very real emotional wound.
what you achieve in the short term does not seem to be enough, it should
be viewed as part of a much longer struggle. Unfortunately, for the
foreseeable future, there will be disasters and disaster capitalists who
try to take advantage of disasters to further entrench their power and
privilege. You burning out will not change that, neither will it help
the people you are trying to assist. We all need to look at ways to
avoid burnout and blaming ourselves.
there that you can work, rest & play with. While buddying does not work
for everybody, many find deep solace in knowing someone is looking out
for them. Or, better yet, come with a whole squad. We encourage the
affinity group model of organizing, and one of the benefits of this is
the microcosm of care that hopefully will come with it.
be aware of your physical health. There are very few people out there
who can work incredibly hard for many years under very stressful
situations and seem to suffer very little ill effect from doing so. You
might feel bad if you think that others are dealing with an experience
better than you are. Remind yourself that people are different and react
in different ways. There is no ârightâ way to react. (If you have had a
previous experience of trauma, including childhood abuse, you may have
more intense reactions.) Also, more sensitive people often experience
stronger reactions. Itâs not a sign of weakness to feel pain after being
attacked. If you think: âI donât have the right to feel this bad â what
happened to me is nothing compared to X,â remind yourself that you have
experienced something terrible and that you have the right to feel as
you do. If you feel bad, thatâs because the experience was bad for you.
There is no point in comparing and contrasting brutality. If you accept
your condition, you will get better faster.
some martial arts, get into the countryside, make love, or engage in
BDSM, eat well â do whatever you need to feel good and remind yourself
that life is worth living. And if/when those little/loud voices creep
into your thoughts allowing guilt in, acknowledge it, smile at it and
tell it to mind its own business. You are in this for the long haul and
you will be back in the fray soon enough if you look after yourself.
else on until you have recovered from the last escapade. For example, if
you find meetings difficult, and you donât NEED to be there, then donât
go.
nonconsumerist? And itâs FREE! Get as much of the lovely stuff as your
body demands.
donât condemn yourself for your feelings and reactions. Inner wounds
take time and patience to heal, just like physical ones.
you need to be honest and think whether or not the way your current
actions are likely to help or hinder that. Think long-term. This is a
marathon, not a sprint.
The support of friends and families is enormously important, and cannot
be overstated. (Lack of support and understanding, on the other hand,
contributes to the persistence of trauma.) Lack of support can worsen
the reaction. This is called âsecondary traumatizationâ and is to be
taken very seriously. It involves âshattered assumptionsâ â law
enforcement and perpetrators are known to be brutal, but if friends
donât support you afterwards, you may feel as though the whole world is
breaking down. This is where you come in! And here are some tips to help
you be there for your friend.
private, that you have noticed some worrying changes in their behavior.
If it is affecting their ability to work effectively or get on with
other people, tell them. It might be useful to be specific. Make it
clear itâs their current behavior that you are commenting on, not âthe
normal themâ, and that it is because you care so much about them that
you are bringing this up. Take them out and have a good time, if
possible avoid talking shop. Consider showing them this zine.
Be proactive but not pushy. Donât wait for them to ask for help. Be
there for them. The days immediately after the experience are crucial.
This is when all the emotions are easily accessible. Itâs good to talk
then. Later on, people often close up. Often traumatized people withdraw
from social activities and isolate themselves. You may not see your
friend around anymore. Go and find them.
and over again, and one of the best things friends can do is to be
patient and sympathetic listeners so the person feels less alone. Avoid
talking too soon, too long and too much. We often long to give good
advice rather than be a good listener. Put yourself in their shoes. Try
and understand how they feel, not how you might have felt. Telling the
story in the order in which it happened, chronologically, helps the
brain process the experience. Carefully encourage your friend to talk
about what happened, what they saw, heard, felt and thought. But it may
be the case that your friend doesnât want to talk about it, in which
case donât force them. Have realistic expectations â It is also
important to have realistic expectations while the person is recovering
and not to expect too much or too little from them. Donât expect a
traumatized person to recover quickly. Some will, but some wonât be able
to. If someone is taking a long time to recover from a crisis, offer
your support repeatedly, so that they donât feel alone.
which are very hard for those around them to deal with, for example
anger, withdrawal, irritability, ungratefulness and being distant are
all common reactions. Bear in mind that the traumatized person is not
deliberately acting this way: it is the trauma which makes them behave
like this. Donât take it personally, but recognize it as a symptom and
as a sign that they need your support.
to encourage the person to stop reliving and simply forget about the
trauma and get on with life. Unfortunately, this advice is usually not
helpful in this situation and is likely to make things worse, as it may
make the person feel even more isolated and hopeless.
give the message: âYou are not to blame â and you are not alone.â
most important thing is that your friend feels safe and warm in your
presence.
more about trauma so you understand it better. Bear in mind that many
people seem all right after traumatic experiences and that reactions may
come later. Ask what they need, donât impose your solutions
tasks. Cooking, shopping, and handling the chores for them can be
invaluable help, as long as you donât patronize them or undermine their
independence. Or maybe go with your friend when, for example, they try
to go on demonstrations, actions or to other potentially triggering
situations again. Keep an eye on them, and check how they feel, before,
during and after. Also, when the symptoms of post-traumatic stress are
over, it is important to help your friend to reintegrate into an active
life.
supporter is essential. Helping and caring can be very hard for you,
too. Take care of yourself, do things that make you happy. Talk to
someone else about how you feel. Getting support for yourself will help
you support others.
Going through traumatic experiences can often have positive outcomes in
the end. A lot of people have been through these experiences and many
have reported breakdowns turning into breakthroughs and opportunities
for self-growth. For example: conscious enjoyment of life and the beauty
around us, being grateful for every day.
Facing your fears and overcoming them is very empowering. Having
abroader understanding and humility can make you a more empathic and
understanding person. And having been through a traumatic experience can
give you valuable insight on how to help another person through
traumatic experiences as well. There is much of this world that needs to
be composted, and you have wisdom, heart-breaking, hard-earned, wisdom,
that is needed in these times of death, birth, and renewal. Never give
up. The world needs us more than it ever has before. Sometimes we are
broken, but itâs the cracks that let the light come through. These
cracks just mean something is being born inside, something green,
something new.
Sometimes, itâs only through disasters that we unearth a power within
that canât be measured or defined.
Sometimes darkness is our candle.
Sometimes our wounds illuminate our path.
And sometimes healing happens, in roundabout ways, all around and deep
inside us.
â To heal, we must resist. To resist, we must heal. â