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Title: Mutual Aid
Author: Dean Spade
Date: 2020
Language: en
Topics: Mutual Aid, COVID-19, crisis, solidarity
Source: https://1lib.us/book/6119675/99b812

Dean Spade

Mutual Aid

Introduction: Crisis Conditions Require Bold Tactics

The contemporary political moment is defined by emergency. Acute crises,

like the COVID-19 pandemic and climate change–induced fires, floods, and

storms, as well as the ongoing crises of racist criminalization, brutal

immigration enforcement, endemic gender violence, and severe wealth

inequality, threaten the survival of people around the globe. Government

policies actively produce and exacerbate the harm, inadequately respond

to crises, and ensure that certain populations bear the brunt of

pollution, poverty, disease, and violence. In the face of this, more and

more ordinary people are feeling called to respond in their communities,

creating bold and innovative ways to share resources and support

vulnerable neighbors. This survival work, when done in conjunction with

social movements demanding transformative change, is called mutual aid.

Mutual aid has been a part of all large, powerful social movements, and

it has a particularly important role to play right now, as we face

unprecedented dangers and opportunities for mobilization. Mutual aid

gives people a way to plug into movements based on their immediate

concerns, and it produces social spaces where people grow new

solidarities. At its best, mutual aid actually produces new ways of

living where people get to create systems of care and generosity that

address harm and foster well-being.

This book is about mutual aid: it explains why it is so important, what

it looks like, and how to do it. It provides a grassroots theory of

mutual aid as well as concrete tools for addressing some of the most

difficult questions facing mutual aid groups, such as how to work in

groups and make decisions together, how to prevent and address conflict,

and how to deal with burnout so that we can build a lasting mobilization

that can win.

Left social movements have two big jobs right now. First, we need to

organize to help people survive the devastating conditions unfolding

every day. Second, we need to mobilize hundreds of millions of people

for resistance so we can tackle the underlying causes of these crises.

In this pivotal moment, movements can strengthen, mobilizing new people

to fight back against cops, immigration enforcement, welfare

authorities, landlords, budget cuts, polluters, the defense industry,

prison profiteers, and right-wing groups. The way to tackle these two

big tasks—meeting people’s needs and mobilizing them for resistance—is

to create mutual aid projects and get lots of people to participate in

them. Social movements that have built power and won major change have

all included mutual aid, yet it is often a part of movement work that is

less visible and less valued. In this moment, our ability to build

mutual aid will determine whether we win the world we long for or dive

further into crisis.

We can imagine what is possible when we come together in this way by

examining the response of Hong Kong’s protest movement to COVID-19. In

2019, a massive anti-government mobilization swept Hong Kong, with

people opposing police and seeking greater control over their lives. By

the time the COVID-19 pandemic emerged, Hong Kong’s chief executive,

Carrie Lam, had an 80 percent disapproval rating. Hong Kong’s protest

movement had escalated significantly, with protesters coordinating

sophisticated mass mobilizations, including the use of bold tactics like

fighting police with poles, projectiles, laser pointers, and petrol

bombs. Lam was remarkably non-responsive to the pandemic, despite the

vulnerable position of Hong Kong, a densely packed city with a history

of epidemics and a high-speed railway connection to Wuhan, where the

COVID-19 pandemic started. Hong Kong residents criticized Lam for her

delay in closing the city’s borders and her order barring city workers

from wearing masks. But, despite the government’s failures, the people

of Hong Kong, mobilized by the protest movement, launched a response

that suppressed the original wave of COVID-19 and mitigated its

resurgence.

On the day the first COVID-19 case in Hong Kong was confirmed, people

from the protest movement created a website that tracked cases,

monitored hot spots, reported hospital wait times, and warned about

places selling fake personal protective equipment (PPE). The protesters

defied the government’s ban on masks and countered misinformation from

the World Health Organization discouraging their use. They set up

brigades that made and distributed masks, specially making sure they

reached poor people and old people. They created a system of volunteers

to set up hand sanitizer stations throughout crowded tenement housing

and maintain the supply of sanitizer at the stations. They also created

digital maps to identify the station sites.

This essential mutual aid work was complemented by bolder strategies.

When the government refused to close the border with China, seven

thousand medical workers, as part of labor unions that had been formed

during the protest movement, went on strike demanding PPE and that the

border be closed. Members of the protest movement threatened the

government with stronger action if steps were not taken to address the

epidemic, and explosives were found at the border with China, possibly

for this purpose. The Hong Kong government then created quarantine

centers in dense neighborhoods, but never consulted the people in those

neighborhoods, and the protest movement responded by throwing explosives

into the quarantine centers before they were used, causing the

government to change the location of the facilities to less densely

populated holiday villages.

As a result of these efforts by a mobilized and coordinated movement,

and no thanks to the government, Hong Kong had an immensely successful

response to the first wave of COVID-19. Through the combination of

mutual aid and direct action to force concessions, the protesters did

what the government would not do on its own, saving untold numbers of

lives.

This book provides a concrete guide for building mutual aid groups and

networks. Part I explores what mutual aid is, why it is different than

charity, and how it relates to other social movement tactics. Part II

dives into the nitty-gritty of how to work together in mutual aid groups

and how to handle the challenges of group decision-making, conflict, and

burnout. It includes charts and lists that can be brought to group

meetings to stimulate conversation and build shared analysis and group

practices. Ultimately, helps imagine how we can coordinate to

collectively take care of ourselves—even in the face of disaster—and

mobilize hundreds of millions of people to make deep and lasting change.

PART I. What is mutual aid?

Mutual aid is collective coordination to meet each other’s needs,

usually from an awareness that the systems we have in place are not

going to meet them. Those systems, in fact, have often created the

crisis, or are making things worse. We see examples of mutual aid in

every single social movement, whether it’s people raising money for

workers on strike, setting up a ride-sharing system during the

Montgomery Bus Boycott, putting drinking water in the desert for

migrants crossing the border, training each other in emergency medicine

because ambulance response time in poor neighborhoods is too slow,

raising money to pay for abortions for those who can’t afford them, or

coordinating letter-writing to prisoners. These are mutual aid projects.

They directly meet people’s survival needs, and are based on a shared

understanding that the conditions in which we are made to live are

unjust.

There is nothing new about mutual aid—people have worked together to

survive for all of human history. But capitalism and colonialism created

structures that have disrupted how people have historically connected

with each other and shared everything they needed to survive. As people

were forced into systems of wage labor and private property, and wealth

became increasingly concentrated, our ways of caring for each other have

become more and more tenuous.

Today, many of us live in the most atomized societies in human history,

which makes our lives less secure and undermines our ability to organize

together to change unjust conditions on a large scale. We are put in

competition with each other for survival, and we are forced to rely on

hostile systems—like health care systems designed around profit, not

keeping people healthy, or food and transportation systems that pollute

the earth and poison people—for the things we need. More and more people

report that they have no one they can confide in when they are in

trouble. This means many of us do not get help with mental health, drug

use, family violence, or abuse until the police or courts are involved,

which tends to escalate rather than resolve harm.

In this context of social isolation and forced dependency on hostile

systems, mutual aid—where we choose to help each other out, share

things, and put time and resources into caring for the most

vulnerable—is a radical act.

1. Three Key Elements of Mutual Aid

One. Mutual aid projects work to meet survival needs and build shared

understanding about why people do not have what they need.

Mutual aid projects expose the reality that people do not have what they

need and propose that we can address this injustice together. The most

famous example in the United States is the Black Panther Party’s

survival programs, which ran throughout the 1960s and 1970s, including a

free breakfast program, free ambulance program, free medical clinics, a

service offering rides to elderly people doing errands, and a school

aimed at providing a rigorous liberation curriculum to children. The

Black Panther programs welcomed people into the liberation struggle by

creating spaces where they could meet basic needs and build a shared

analysis about the conditions they were facing. Instead of feeling

ashamed about not being able to feed their kids in a culture that blames

poor people, especially poor Black people, for their poverty, people

attending the Panthers’ free breakfast program got food and a chance to

build shared analysis about Black poverty. It broke stigma and

isolation, met material needs, and got people fired up to work together

for change.

Recognizing the program’s success, FBI director J. Edgar Hoover famously

wrote in a 1969 memo sent to all field offices that “the BCP [Breakfast

for Children Program] represents the best and most influential activity

going for the BPP [Black Panther Party] and, as such, is potentially the

greatest threat to efforts by authorities to neutralize the BPP and

destroy what it stands for.” The night before the Chicago program was

supposed to open, police broke into the church that was hosting it and

urinated on all of the food. The government’s attacks on the Black

Panther Party are evidence of mutual aid’s power, as is the government’s

co-optation of the program: in the early 1970s the US Department of

Agriculture expanded its federal free breakfast program—built on a

charity, not a liberation, model—that still feeds millions of children

today. The Black Panthers provided a striking vision of liberation,

asserting that Black people had to defend themselves against a violent

and racist government, and that they could organize to give each other

what a racist society withheld.

During the same period, the Young Lords Party undertook similar and

related mutual aid projects in their work toward Puerto Rican

liberation. The Young Lords brought people into the movement by starting

with the everyday needs of Puerto Ricans in impoverished communities:

they protested the lack of garbage pickups in Puerto Rican

neighborhoods, hijacked a city mobile x-ray truck to bring greater

tuberculosis testing to Puerto Rican communities, took over part of a

hospital to provide health care, and provided food and youth programs

for Puerto Rican communities. Their vision—for decolonizing Puerto Rico

and liberating Puerto Ricans in the United States from racism, poverty,

and police terror—was put into practice through mutual aid.

Throughout the 1960s and ’70s, many overlapping movements undertook

mutual aid efforts, such as feminist health clinics and activist-run

abortion providers, emerging volunteer-run gay health clinics, childcare

collectives, tenants’ unions, and community food projects. Although this

moment is an important reference point for the contemporary left, mutual

aid didn’t start in the ’60s, but is an ongoing feature of movements

seeking transformative change. Klee Benally, project coordinator at

Indigenous Media Action, argues that mutual aid is an unbroken tradition

among Indigenous people across many cycles of colonialism, maintained

through traditional teachings that contemporary Indigenous mutual aid

projects are working to restore and amplify. Settlers have long worked

to undermine Indigenous people’s self-sustaining practices by first

destroying food systems and then forcing dependency on rations given at

forts and missions and, now, by settler nonprofits. Indigenous mutual

aid efforts are both a matter of survival and a powerful form of

resistance to forced dependence on settler systems.

The long tradition of mutual aid societies and other forms of

“self-help” in Black communities, which, as early as the 1780s sought to

pool resources to provide health and life insurance, care for the sick,

aid for burials, support for widows and orphans, and public education

efforts, is another important example. These efforts have addressed

Black exclusion from white infrastructures by creating Black

alternatives. Long traditions of mutual aid are also visible in

working-class communities that have long supported workers on strike so

that they could pay rent and buy food while confronting their bosses.

Perhaps most of all, the pervasive presence of mutual aid during sudden

disasters of all kinds—storms, floods, fires, and

earthquakes—demonstrates how people come together to care for each other

and share resources when, inevitably, the government is not there to

help, offers relief that does not reach the most vulnerable people, and

deploys law enforcement against displaced disaster survivors. Mutual aid

is a powerful force.

Two. Mutual aid projects mobilize people, expand solidarity, and build

movements.

Mutual aid is essential to building social movements. People often come

to social movement groups because they need something: eviction defense,

childcare, social connection, health care, or help in a fight with the

government about something like welfare benefits, disability services,

immigration status, or custody of their children. Being able to get help

in a crisis is often a condition for being politically active, because

it’s very difficult to organize when you are also struggling to survive.

Getting support through a mutual aid project that has a political

analysis of the conditions that produced your crisis also helps to break

stigma, shame, and isolation. Under capitalism, social problems

resulting from exploitation and the maldistribution of resources are

understood as individual moral failings, not systemic problems. Getting

support at a place that sees the systems, not the people suffering in

them, as the problem can help people move from shame to anger and

defiance. Mutual aid exposes the failures of the current system and

shows an alternative. This work is based in a belief that those on the

front lines of a crisis have the best wisdom to solve the problems, and

that collective action is the way forward.

Mutual aid projects also build solidarity. I have seen this at the

Sylvia Rivera Law Project (SRLP), a law collective that provides free

legal help to trans and gender-nonconforming people who are low income

and/or people of color. I worked with the group from 2002 to 2019. Again

and again I saw people come to SRLP for help because something bad

happened to them in a shelter, in prison, or in interactions with cops,

immigration authorities, the foster care system, or public schools.

People seeking legal services for these problems would be invited to

participate in organizing and become part of SRLP, working on changing

the conditions that had brought them to the group. As people joined,

things were often bumpy. Members may have had some things in

common—being trans or gender-nonconforming, for example—but also

differed from one another in terms of race, immigration status, ability,

HIV status, age, housing access, sexual orientation, language, and more.

By working together and participating in shared political education

programs, members could learn about experiences different from theirs

and build solidarity across those differences. This changed—and

continues to change—not only the individuals in the group, but the kind

of politics the group practices.

Solidarity is what builds and connects large-scale movements. In the

context of professionalized nonprofit organizations, groups are urged to

be single-issue oriented, framing their message around “deserving”

people within the population they serve, and using tactics palatable to

elites. Prison-oriented groups are supposed to fight only for “the

innocent” or “the nonviolent,” for example, and to do their work by

lobbying politicians about how some people—not all people—don’t belong

in prison. This is the opposite of solidarity, because it means the most

vulnerable people are left behind: those who were up-charged by cops and

prosecutors, those who do not have the means to prove their innocence,

those who do not match cultural tropes of innocence and deservingness.

This narrow focus actually strengthens the system’s legitimacy by

advocating that the targeting of those more stigmatized people is okay.

This pattern of anti-solidarity incentives and practices has been

devastating for movements as non-profitization has taken hold, as I’ll

discuss further in the next chapter. Solidarity across issues and

populations is what makes movements big and powerful. Without that

connection, we end up with disconnected groups, working in their issue

silos, undermining each other, competing for attention and funding, not

backing each other up and not building power. Mutual aid projects, by

creating spaces where people come together on the basis of some shared

need or concern in spite of their different lived experience, cultivate

solidarity.

Groups doing mutual aid to directly address real problems in real

people’s lives tend to develop a multi-issue and solidarity-based

approach because their members’ lives are cross-cut by many different

experiences of vulnerability. Sometimes even groups that start out with

a narrow goal adopt a wider horizon of solidarity and a wider vision of

political possibility if they use the mutual aid model. An initial goal

of serving people impacted by homelessness quickly reveals that racism,

colonialism, immigration enforcement, ableism, police violence, the

foster care system, the health care system, transphobia, and more are

all causes of homelessness or causes of further harm to homeless people.

Solidarity and an ever-expanding commitment to justice emerge from

contact with the complex realities of injustice. This is exactly how

movements are built, as people become connected to each other and as one

urgent issue unspools into a broader vision of social transformation.

Three. Mutual aid projects are participatory, solving problems through

collective action rather than waiting for saviors.

Mutual aid projects help people develop skills for collaboration,

participation, and decision-making. For example, people engaged in a

project to help one another through housing court proceedings will learn

the details of how the system harms people and how to fight it, but they

will also learn about meeting facilitation, working across differences,

retaining volunteers, addressing conflict, giving and receiving

feedback, following through, and coordinating schedules and

transportation. They may also learn that it is not just lawyers who can

do this kind of work, and that many people—including themselves!—have

something to offer. This departs from expertise-based social services

that tell us we need to have a social worker, licensed therapist,

lawyer, or some other person with an advanced degree to get things done.

Mutual aid is inherently antiauthoritarian, demonstrating how we can do

things together in ways we were told not to imagine, and that we can

organize human activity without coercion. Most people have never been to

a meeting where there was not a boss or authority figure with

decision-making power. Most people work or go to school inside

hierarchies where disobedience leads to punishment or exclusion. We

bring our learned practices of hierarchy with us even when no paycheck

or punishment enforces our participation, so even in volunteer groups we

often find ourselves in conflicts stemming from learned dominance

behaviors. But collective spaces, like mutual aid organizing, can give

us opportunities to unlearn conditioning and build new skills and

capacities. By participating in groups in new ways and practicing new

ways of being together, we are both building the world we want and

becoming the kind of people who could live in such a world together.

For example, in the Occupy encampments that emerged in 2011 to protest

economic inequality, people shared ideas about how to resolve conflict

without calling the police. Occupy brought out many people who had never

participated in political resistance before, introducing them to

practices like consensus decision-making, occupying public space,

distributing free food, and engaging in free political education

workshops. Many who joined Occupy did not yet have a developed critique

of policing. Participants committed to police abolition and antiracism

cultivated conversations about why activists should not call the police

on each other. This process was inconsistent and imperfect, but it

introduced many people to new skills and ideas that they took with them,

long after Occupy encampments were dismantled by the police.

Mutual aid can also generate boldness and a willingness to defy

illegitimate authority. Taking risks with a group for a shared purpose

can be a reparative experience when we have been trained to follow

rules. Organizers from Mutual Aid Disaster Relief (MADR) share the

following story in their 2018 workshop facilitation guide to illustrate

their argument that “audacity is our capacity”:

When a crew of MADR organizers [after Hurricane Maria] travelled to

Puerto Rico (some visiting their families, others bringing medical

skills), they found out about a government warehouse that was neglecting

to distribute huge stockpiles of supplies. They showed their MADR badges

to the guards and said, “We are here for the 8am pickup.” When guards

replied that their names were not on the list, they just insisted again,

“We are here for the 8am pickup.” They were eventually allowed in, told

to take whatever they needed. After being let in once, aid workers were

able to return repeatedly. They made more badges for local organizers,

and this source continued to benefit local communities for months.

MADR asserts that by taking bold actions together, “we can imagine new

ways of interacting with the world.” When dominant ways of living have

been suspended, people discover that they can break norms—and even

laws—that enable individualism, passivity, and respect for private

property. MADR asserts that “saving lives, homes, and communities in the

event and aftermath of disaster may require taking bold action without

waiting for permission from authorities. Disaster survivors themselves

are the most important authority on just action.”

Mutual aid projects providing relief to survivors of storms, floods,

earthquakes, and fires, as well as those developed to support people

living through the crises caused by poverty, racism, criminalization,

gender violence, and other “ordinary” conditions, produce new systems

that can prevent harm and improve preparedness for the coming disasters.

When Hurricane Maria devastated Puerto Rico in 2017, it was the

existence of food justice efforts that made it possible for many people

to eat when the corporate food system, which brings 90 percent of the

island’s food from off-island sources, was halted by the storm.

Similarly, it was local solar panels that allowed people to charge

medical devices when the electrical grid went down.

By looking at what still works in the face of disaster, we can learn

what we want to build to prepare for the next storm or fire. In The

Battle for Paradise, Naomi Klein argues that locally controlled

microgrids are more desirable for delivering sustainable energy, given

the failures of the energy monopolies that currently dominate energy

delivery. In the wake of the devastating 2018 California fires, the

public learned that the fires were caused by Pacific Gas and Electric

Company’s mismanagement, and then watched as California’s government

immediately offered the company a bailout, meanwhile failing to support

people displaced by the disaster. Klein describes how large energy

companies work to prevent local and sustainable energy efforts, and

argues that in energy, as in other areas of survival, we should be

working toward locally controlled, participatory, transparent structures

to replace our crumbling and harmful infrastructure.

Doing so helps us imagine getting rid of the undemocratic infrastructure

of our lives—the extractive and unjust energy, food, health care, and

transportation systems—and replacing it with people’s infrastructure.

For social movements working to imagine and build a transition from

“dig, burn, dump” economies to sustainable, regenerative ways of living,

mutual aid offers a way forward.

2. Solidarity Not Charity!

Mainstream understanding of how to support people in crisis relies on

the frameworks of charity and social services. We should be very clear:

mutual aid is not charity. Charity, aid, relief, and social services are

terms that usually refer to rich people or the government making

decisions about the provision of some kind of support to poor

people—that is, rich people or the government deciding who gets the

help, what the limits are to that help, and what strings are attached.

You can be sure that help like that is not designed to get to the root

causes of poverty and violence. It is designed to help improve the image

of the elites who are funding it and put a tiny, inadequate Band-Aid on

the massive social wound that their greed creates.

The charity model we live with today has origins in Christian European

practices of the wealthy giving alms to the poor to buy their own way

into heaven. It is based on a moral hierarchy of wealth—the idea that

rich people are inherently better and more moral than poor people, which

is why they deserve to be on top. Not surprisingly, the charity model

promotes the idea that most poverty is a result of laziness or

immorality and that only the poor people who can prove their moral worth

deserve help.

Contemporary charity comes with eligibility requirements such as

sobriety, piety, curfews, participation in job training or parenting

courses, cooperation with the police, a lawful immigration status, or

identifying the paternity of children. In charity programs, social

workers, health care providers, teachers, clergy, lawyers, and

government workers determine which poor people deserve help. Their

methods of deciding who is deserving, and even the rules they enforce,

usually promote racist and sexist tropes, such as the idea that poor

women of color and immigrant women have too many children, or that Black

families are dysfunctional, or that Indigenous children are better off

separated from their families and communities, or that people are poor

because of drug use.

We can see examples in government policy, like the Temporary Assistance

to Needy Families programs (TANF), which impose “family caps” in

fourteen states. These laws restrict poor families from receiving

additional benefits when they have a new child. For example, in

Massachusetts, a single parent with two children receives a measly $578

in TANF benefits each month. But if a second child is born while the

family is already receiving TANF, that child is ineligible, and the

family receives $100 less per month, for a grant of $478. This policy

emerges from the racist, sexist idea that poor women, especially women

of color and immigrant women, should be discouraged from having

children, and the faulty assumption that their poverty is somehow a

result of being overly reproductive. We can also see harmful, moralizing

eligibility requirements when people have to prove they are sober or

under psychiatric care to qualify for housing programs.

Charity programs, both those run by the government and those run by

nonprofits, are also set up in ways that make it stigmatizing and

miserable to receive help. The humiliation and degradation of doing

required work assignments to get benefits too small to live off of, or

answering endless personal questions that treat the recipient like a

fraud and a crook, are designed to make sure that people will accept any

work at any exploitative wage or condition to avoid relying on public

benefits. Charity makes rich people and corporations look generous while

upholding and legitimizing the systems that concentrate wealth.

Charity is increasingly privatized and contracted out to the massive

nonprofit sector, which benefits rich people more than poor people in

two big ways. First, elite donors get to run the show. They decide what

gets funded and what doesn’t. Nonprofits compete to show that they are

the best organization to win a grant. To win, nonprofits want to make

their work look legitimate to the funder, which means working according

to the funder’s beliefs about the causes of and solutions for a

particular problem rather than challenging those beliefs. For example,

the funder may favor nonprofits that make sobriety a condition of

receiving a spot in a homeless shelter, because rich people would rather

believe that homelessness is caused by poor people’s drug use than that

it is caused by a capitalist housing market. To win grants, nonprofits

also seek to make themselves look “successful” and “impactful,”

regardless of whether their work is actually getting to the root causes

of the problem. For example, social service nonprofits will often claim

they have worked with large numbers of people, even though most of those

people did not become less vulnerable or get what they needed from their

contact with the nonprofit. Similarly, homelessness service groups

sometimes claim that they reduced shelter use, but the people who

stopped using the shelter are still unhoused and simply not using the

shelter for various reasons.

In this way, poverty-focused and homelessness-focused nonprofits are

essentially encouraged to merely manage poor people: provide limited and

conditional access to prison-like shelters and make people take

budgeting classes or prove their sobriety. They do not do the more

threatening and effective work that grassroots mutual aid groups do for

housing justice, like defending encampments against raids, providing

immediate no-strings health care and food to poor and unhoused people,

fighting real estate developers, slumlords, and gentrification, or

fighting for and providing access to actual long-term housing. Rich

people’s control of nonprofit funding keeps nonprofits from doing work

that is threatening to the status quo, or from admitting the limits of

their strategies. In worst-case scenarios, nonprofits are integrated

into programs that make vulnerable people even more vulnerable. An

example of this is the Homeless Management Information System, a federal

computerized information management tool that requires homeless services

and charities to record the names and information of their clients in

order to receive federal aid, putting criminalized and undocumented

people at further risk.

Second, the nonprofit system creates a tax shelter for rich people. They

can put a bunch of their money in a charitable foundation, allowing them

to avoid paying taxes on it and instead getting to direct it to their

favorite pet projects. Most foundation money goes to things the board

members and executive directors (who, in the case of US foundations, are

over 90 percent white) value, such as their alma maters, the opera, and

museums. Foundations are not even required to give much of their wealth

away: they give out only 5 percent a year and still reap the benefits of

a tax haven for their money and the social cachet of being a

philanthropist. And that 5 percent can also be used to pay their friends

and family hundreds of thousands of dollars per year to be “trustees” of

their foundation.

The creation of the nonprofit sector that has ballooned in the last

half-century was a direct response to the threat posed by mass mutual

aid work in anti-racist, anti-colonial and feminist movements of the

1960s and ’70s. Non-profitization was designed to demobilize us,

legitimizing unjust systems and hiding the reality that real change

comes from movements made of millions of ordinary people, not small

groups of paid professionals. These days, the nonprofits that purport to

address poverty are mostly run by white elites. The idea promoted by

nonprofits and universities is that people with advanced degrees are

best suited to figure out the solutions to social problems. It mystifies

the causes of poverty, making it seem like some kind of mysterious math

problem that only people with advanced degrees can figure out. But any

poor person knows that poverty is caused by the greed of their bosses,

landlords, and health insurance companies, by systems of white supremacy

and colonialism, and by wars and forced migrations. Elite solutions to

poverty are always about managing poor people and never about

redistributing wealth.

The nonprofit sector not only fails to fix injustice but also replicates

it within the groups themselves. Nonprofits are usually run like

businesses, with a boss (executive director) at the top deciding things

for the people underneath. Nonprofits have the same kinds of problems as

other businesses that rely on hierarchical models: drastically unequal

pay, race and gender wage gaps, sexual harassment in the workplace,

exploitation of workers, and burnout. Despite the fact that they pitch

themselves as the solution for fixing the problems of the current

system, nonprofits mostly replicate, legitimize, and stabilize that

system.

One way the charity model is manifested is in the idea of “having a

cause.” Celebrities and philanthropists show us that picking an issue to

care about and giving or raising money for it is part of their brand, in

a similar vein as their fashion choices. This idea of a charitable cause

that is disconnected from other aspects of life keeps us in our places.

We are encouraged to be mostly numbed-out consumers, but ones who

perhaps volunteer at a soup kitchen on Thanksgiving, post videos about

animal rights on our social media accounts, or wear a T-shirt with a

feminist slogan now and again. Only those few experts or specialists who

work in nonprofits are supposed to make concern for justice a larger

part of their lives by turning it into a career, but even they are

supposed to still be obedient consumers.

The false separation of politics and injustice from ordinary life—and

the idea that activism is a kind of lifestyle accessory—is demobilizing

to our movements, hides the root causes of injustice, and keeps us

passive and complicit. Robust social movements offer an opposing view.

We argue that all the aspects of our lives—where and how we live and

work, eat, entertain ourselves, get around, and get by are sites of

injustice and potential resistance. At our best, social movements create

vibrant social networks in which we not only do work in a group, but

also have friendships, make art, have sex, mentor and parent kids, feed

ourselves and each other, build radical land and housing experiments,

and inspire each other about how we can cultivate liberation in all

aspects of our lives. Activism and mutual aid shouldn’t feel like

volunteering or like a hobby—it should feel like living in alignment

with our hopes for the world and with our passions. It should enliven

us.

The charity model encourages us to feel good about ourselves by “giving

back.” Convincing us that we have done enough if we do a little

volunteering or posting online is a great way to keep us in our place.

Keeping people numb to the suffering in the world—and their own

suffering—is essential to keeping things as they are. In fact, things

are really terrifying and enraging right now, and feeling more rage,

fear, sadness, grief, and despair may be appropriate. Those feelings may

help us be less appeased by false solutions, and stir us to pursue

ongoing collective action for change.

That doesn’t mean that mutual aid work never feels good. In fact, it is

often deeply satisfying and connective, creating caring relationships,

raucous celebrations, and an enduring sense of purpose. In my

experience, it is more engagement that actually enlivens us—more

curiosity, more willingness to see the harm that surrounds us, and ask

how we can relate to it differently. Being more engaged with the complex

and painful realities we face, and with thoughtful, committed action

alongside others for justice, feels much better than numbing out or

making token, self-consoling charity gestures. It feels good to let our

values guide every part of our lives.

Mutual aid projects, in many ways, are defined in opposition to the

charity model and its current iteration in the nonprofit sector. Mutual

aid projects mobilize lots of people rather than a few experts; resist

the use of eligibility criteria that cut out more stigmatized people;

are an integrated part of our lives rather than a pet cause; and

cultivate a shared analysis of the root causes of the problem and

connect people to social movements that can address these causes. Part

II of this book focuses on how we can build our mutual aid groups in

ways that can most successfully accomplish these goals, avoiding the

pitfalls of the charity model and the learned hierarchical behaviors

that can reproduce injustice even in activist group settings.

What we build now, and whether we can sustain it, will determine how

prepared we are for the next pandemic, the climate-induced disasters to

come, the ongoing disasters of white supremacy and capitalism, and the

beautifully disruptive rebellions that will transform them.

3. We get more when we demand more

Disasters are ruptures—existing systems break down and then are either

repaired, replaced, or scrapped. Disasters exacerbate and expose

inequalities, showing the preexisting crises that elites strive to

ignore and hide from view. When disasters emerge, governments and

corporations quickly move to downplay them, hoping to get back to the

status quo of extraction and profit-making as soon as possible, to take

credit for having resolved them, and to silence demands for relief.

Governments and the 1 percent also use disasters as opportunities to

push their favored reforms. COVID-19, for example, has generated

right-wing wins like closing the border; suspending environmental

regulations; giving the FBI, DEA, and local police hundreds of millions

of dollars; and expanding the capacity of police to harass and

criminalize the poor for allegedly violating public health regulations.

At the same time, disasters are opportunities for exposing injustice and

pushing forward left-wing demands. COVID-19 has also been an opportunity

for mobilizing people to resist injustice. As more people are laid off

or forced to work dangerous jobs, we are increasingly standing together

against landlords, bosses, police, prisons, and a profit-driven health

care system. In seeking to curb the worst effects of the pandemic, some

forms of government relief have emerged that give us hope for another

way of life: eviction moratoriums, increased unemployment benefits and

income support, free public transit, suspension of student loan

payments, and more. While this relief has been far from universal or

adequate, it has demonstrated that many of the things our movements have

fought for are entirely possible.

Disasters are pivotal times in the competition between political

programs, moments when much can be lost or won. Winning the world we

want is far from guaranteed. Our opponents, those who currently control

the most of the land, work, food, housing, transportation, weapons,

water, energy, and media, are feverishly working to maintain the status

quo of maldistribution and targeted violence, and worsen it to increase

profits and power for themselves. Our capacity to win is possible to the

extent that we can collectively realize what they do not control—us—and

collectively disobey and disrupt their systems, retaking control of our

ways of sustaining life. If we want as many people as possible to

survive, and to win in the short and long term, we have to use moments

of disaster to help and mobilize people. Mutual aid is the way to do

that. During the COVID-19 pandemic, mutual aid groups have proliferated

and more people are learning how to organize mutual aid than have in

decades. This is a big chance for us to make a lot of change.

We need mutual aid groups and networks capable of bringing millions of

new people into work that deepens their understanding of the root causes

of the crises and inequalities they are fired up about and that builds

their capacity for bold collective action. We need groups and networks

that do not disappear after the peak of the crisis, but instead become

part of an ongoing, sustained mobilization with the capacity to support

people and keep building pressure for bigger wins.

As mobilization builds, governments, corporations, and corporate media

will approach mutual aid in three ways, all of which, as I write this,

are already visible in regard to the COVID-19 pandemic. These three

responses often happen simultaneously, among different agencies, elected

officials, and levels of government: Some will ignore proliferating

mutual aid efforts. Some will try to fold them into a narrative about

volunteerism, labeling mutual aid efforts “heroic” and portraying them

as complementary to government efforts and existing systems rather than

as oppositional to those systems. And some police and spy agencies will

surveil and criminalize mutual aid efforts.

This was visible in the response to Hurricane Sandy in 2012. Occupy

Sandy, a volunteer-based mutual aid network that emerged from Occupy

Wall Street, organized over sixty thousand volunteers to provide food,

water, medicine, and other necessities to people left without power and

in dire conditions by a government utterly unprepared to help them. The

Department of Homeland Security extended its spying from Occupy Wall

Street to Occupy Sandy at the same time that some New York City

government agencies helped Occupy Sandy get supplies to redistribute.

Governor Andrew Cuomo and New York City mayor Michael Bloomberg mostly

ignored Occupy Sandy’s frontline work as they focused on managing their

own reputations.

The fundamental goal of all three of these responses is to ensure the

legitimacy and stability of the current systems and delegitimize

alternative ways of meeting human needs. At best, mutual aid projects

get framed as non-threatening temporary adjuncts to existing systems.

Elected officials and government agencies sometimes even seek legitimacy

by associating themselves with mutual aid projects if those projects are

more successful at meeting needs than the government. At worst, mutual

aid projects are portrayed as unlawful, dangerous, and criminal. As we

saw with the police attacks on the Black Panther Party breakfast

programs, or more recent Trump administration raids on the medical camps

of No More Deaths (which offers support to migrants at the southern US

border), when mutual aid efforts truly build and legitimize coordinated

action and autonomy against existing systems, governments typically

crack down on them.

The criminalization of mutual aid work has been ongoing throughout

social movement history precisely because mutual aid directly confronts

unjust systems and offer alternatives. Groups doing frontline mutual aid

work that is particularly risky today, such as those helping with access

to abortion drugs or procedures illegal in the jurisdiction where they

are working, providing clean needles and safe consumption spaces to drug

users where that is illegal, supporting the well-being of people in the

criminalized sex trades, and helping homeless people occupy vacant

homes, have useful knowledge and experience for all of us about

navigating safety risks. Studying those groups’ experiences and methods

for evading and/or confronting police, securing electronic

communications, and sheltering the most vulnerable people from exposure

can benefit all mutual aid groups as we prepare for our work to

(hopefully) become threatening to the status quo.

In the face of increased mobilization and resistance—as with the

rebellion against racist police violence in the summer of 2020—or

fearing another destabilizing disaster, governments and the corporations

they represent will sometimes grant concessions, many of which look

similar to what mutual aid projects provide. In moments of deep social

and economic turmoil—such as during COVID-19—governments expand income

support, usually in the form of welfare benefits, unemployment benefits,

or a one-time stimulus check. But government aid can also take the form

of legalizing squatted property, providing mobile clinics, offering

meals at public schools, creating restorative justice programs, creating

resources for people being released from prison, and more. Concessions

like these, where the government provides something previously only

offered by mutual aid groups, can be celebrated as limited victories by

movements: Our organizing was so strong they had to co-opt us! These

concessions might also provide vital support to many more people than

mutual aid groups can reach, as with the USDA’s free breakfast program

in schools, which fed more children than the Black Panther Party

breakfast program that prompted its expansion.

However, it’s crucial to remember that these concessions are necessarily

limited. First, they can be shrunk or taken back whenever the moment of

instability passes. This has been the historical pattern for poor relief

in the United States: it gets expanded during a crisis, and then

contracted and stigmatized as soon as the crisis has lessened, quickly

making people once again desperate and exploitable by their employers.

Second, while government provisions sometimes reach more people than

local mutual aid can, they usually exclude particularly vulnerable

people, like people who are criminalized, working in underground

economies, homeless, or undocumented. The welfare and income support

programs in the United States, ranging from old age and disability

benefits to support for families in poverty, are consistently designed

to ensure that women, people of color, and Indigenous people get left

out or get less. For example, the New Deal, which emerged to quiet the

anti-capitalist rebellions brought on by the Great Depression and

stabilize the capitalist system, was designed so that women and domestic

and agricultural workers (disproportionately Black and Latinx) were

excluded from the benefits created. By tying many benefits to work, the

New Deal also perpetuated a status quo of grinding poverty for people

with disabilities.

Whenever we rely on a capitalist, imperialist system to provide vital

necessities, we can guess that the provisions will be fragile and

inadequate, and designed to transfer far more wealth toward the

populations those systems were designed to support: white people, rich

people, straight people, and men. Often, the concessions are never

delivered at all, only promised in an effort to quell resistance.

One pattern that is clear in regard to concessions is that, because the

aim of elites is to concede as little as possible and maintain the

status quo as much as possible, we get more when we demand more and

build bolder, bigger pressure. It took mass movements threatening

capitalism’s very existence, like those seen during the Great Depression

and the 1960s uprisings against racism, just to get stigmatizing,

ungenerous welfare benefits. Decades of uprisings against police

brutality yielded only surface police reforms, many of which expanded

police budgets and numbers. Even unsatisfying concessions, in other

words, only come with big, sustained, disruptive mobilizations.

Nonprofit leaders and politicians frequently encourage “pragmatism” and

peaceful incremental change, but the most radical imagination of what we

want, and the escalation of direct action to get it, is what is truly

pragmatic if we seek to win real change. Concessions won in

crises—crises of sudden disaster and crises created by powerful social

protest—will be as strong and lasting as the mobilizations that made

them necessary. Elites and their nonprofit gatekeepers encourage us to

make small, “reasonable,” or “winnable” demands, and they try to

redirect our action to official channels that are non-disruptive, with

narratives about “peaceful protest” and “coming to the table.” They

encourage reforms premised on the assumption that the systems we seek to

dismantle are fundamentally fair and fixable. We have to refuse to limit

our visions to the concessions they want to give—what we want is a

radically different world that eliminates the systems that put our lives

under their control.

If concessions are signs of our impact, at best providing some relief to

some people but ultimately stabilizing existing systems, what would

winning look like? As we build mutual aid groups, what do we hope for if

not that the government, instead of us, will someday provide what we are

providing? If our current systems are based on illegitimate authority

and use coercion and violence to keep us tied to them, and if those

systems primarily pursue the aim of concentrating wealth and

decision-making power, what is the alternative?

From our current vantage point, living in a world with the most

militarized borders, the most expansive surveillance technologies, the

most severe concentration of wealth, the most imprisonment in human

history, the most military bases and high-tech weapons, and the most

advanced mechanisms of propaganda, it can be hard to imagine other ways

of living. Disasters often stimulate fantasies of a benevolent

government as we face brutal government failure and wish that things

were different.

Part of the reason our dream of a savior government is so compelling is

that it is hard for us to imagine a world where we meet core human needs

through systems that are based on principles of collective

self-determination rather than coercion. We are accustomed to a

situation where the choice is between a government that either denies

the disaster’s significance and abandons people to its devastations or a

government that responds with inadequate aid that comes with enhanced

policing, surveillance, militarization, and wealth transfers to the top.

This is no choice at all. Because of how capitalism controls the means

for getting by—food, health, housing, communications, transportation—and

how dependent we are on systems we do not control, it can be hard to

imagine that we could survive another way. But for most of human

history, we did, and mutual aid projects let us relearn that it’s

possible and emancipatory.

Mutual aid projects let us practice meeting our own and each other’s

needs, based in shared commitments to dignity, care, and justice. They

let us practice coordinating our actions together with the belief that

all of us matter and that we should all get to participate in the

solutions to our problems. They let us realize that we know best how to

address the crises we face. We don’t need to be saved by professionals,

government agents, or people elites consider “experts.” Mutual aid

cultivates the practices and structures that move us toward our goal: a

society organized by collective self-determination, where people get a

say in all parts of their lives rather than just facing the coercive

non-choice between sinking or swimming; between joining a brutal and

exploitive workforce, insurance scheme, or housing market, or risk being

left in the cold.

How do we imagine “scaling up” mutual aid to a point where everyone has

what they need, and gets to meaningfully co-govern and co-steward the

structures and conditions of their lives? Because of the dominance of

corporate and nonprofit models, people often think that “scaling up”

means centralizing and standardizing projects, but this runs directly

counter to the wisdom of mutual aid. “Scaling up” doesn’t mean making

groups bigger or merging them into one organization across a region,

state, or country. Locally operated mutual aid works better for meeting

people’s needs in all kinds of situations, including disasters, because

our needs are best met by those with the most local knowledge, and when

we are the ones making the decisions affecting us. Scaling up our mutual

aid work means building more and more mutual aid groups, copying each

other’s best practices, and adapting them to work for particular

neighborhoods, subcultures, and enclaves. It means intergroup

coordination, the sharing of resources and information, having each

other’s backs, and coming together in coalitions to take bigger actions

like rent strikes, labor strikes, or the toppling of corrupt governments

and industries. Factory takeovers, where workers push out owners and

take control of the factory, deciding together how it will run and

making fair systems for all, are good examples of this type of shift: a

labor strike that becomes a factory takeover is “scaling up.” Similarly,

we might imagine people working to create local energy grids using solar

power. The grids would be cultivated and cared for by the people using

them, but they might be sharing practices and resources with other

groups building and maintaining local grids. Governance and innovation

remain local, but knowledge, support, and solidarity are networked and

shared.

To imagine a society where we share everything, co-govern everything,

have everything we need and don’t rely on coercion and domination, we

have to shed the capitalist propaganda that tells us people are

naturally greedy, and that without police keeping us in our places we

would all hoard and harm. Instead, we can notice, as is particularly

clear in times of disaster, that people are naturally connective and

generous, though we often have cultural baggage to shed from being

conditioned by white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism. Again and

again we see people sharing what little they have after storms, floods,

and fires, saving each other. Through mutual aid projects, many of us

get a chance to deepen those practices of generosity, and make them

long-term support systems that we co-govern to help us all survive and

mobilize for change.

Mutual aid is only one tactic in the social movement ecosystem. It

operates alongside direct action, political education, and many other

tactics. But it is the one that most successfully helps us grow our

movements and build our people power, because it brings people into

coordinated action to change things right now. As mutual aid expands in

the context of the COVID-19 crisis, in climate change– caused disaster

zones, and during economic crises, we have a chance to cultivate

millions of new resistance fighters, to teach ourselves to work together

in long-term ways, and to develop our ability to practice

solidarity-based co-stewardship in all areas of collective life. The

climate crisis will continue to bring worsening disasters into our

communities in the coming years and decades. The stronger we build our

networks of mutual aid now, the more prepared we will be to help each

other survive those disasters and transform our ways of living together

toward liberation.

PART II. Working Together on Purpose

Mutual aid work is important for meeting people’s survival needs right

now, and for mobilizing hundreds of millions of people to join struggles

for justice and liberation. Most people newly fired up about injustice

are eager to work on the conditions happening to them or to people they

care about. Mutual aid projects are the on-ramp for people to get to

work right away on things they feel urgent about, plug into social

movements where they can learn more about things they are not yet mad

about, and build new solidarities.

This section of this book is for people who want to start mutual aid

projects or who are already in them and want to intentionally build

group cultures and structures that will help the work flourish. Chapter

4 describes some of the larger political pitfalls of mutual aid groups,

and chapter 5 turns to the nitty-gritty, providing tools for addressing

common obstacles in mutual aid work. This section includes things groups

can do to address conflict and avoid slipping into charity-model or

business-model practices, as well as ideas for things individuals within

groups can do to expand their own capacity to do this work with as much

compassion and care as possible—according to our principles.

4. Some dangers and pitfalls of mutual aid.

Even while they explicitly work to reject the charity model, mutual aid

projects can slip into some of the well-worn grooves of that model if we

don’t root deeply in our principles and practice careful discernment.

Mutual aid groups face four dangerous tendencies: dividing people into

those who are deserving and undeserving of help, practicing saviorism,

being co-opted, and collaborating with efforts to eliminate public

infrastructure and replace it with private enterprise and volunteerism.

Deserving hierarchies

People start mutual aid projects because existing programs or other

services are not meeting people’s needs, and often are leaving out

particular groups of vulnerable people. The notorious failures of the

Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) in the face of disaster are a

good example. The 2018 Camp Fire in California was the deadliest and

most destructive wildfire in the state’s history, the worst wildfire in

the United States in a century, and the most expensive natural disaster

in the world that year. At least 85 people were killed in the fire, over

18,800 structures were destroyed, 52,000 people were evacuated, and the

total damage was estimated at $16.5 billion. A tent city of people

displaced by the fire emerged in a Walmart parking lot in Chico,

California. In the days following the fire, as displaced people with

more resources began to leave the tent city because they could afford to

find new housing or stay with family or friends, city officials and

media portrayed the people that remained as ordinary homeless and

itinerant people who were “undeserving” of help, rather than as

sympathetic fire survivors. The hierarchy of deservingness is built into

FEMA’s eligibility process, which excludes people who cannot confirm an

address before the disaster, such as homeless people or people living in

poor communities where individual dwellings are sometimes not given an

individual mailing address.

The distinction between deserving and undeserving disaster survivors

rests on the idea that suddenly displaced renters and homeowners are

sympathetic victims, while people who were already displaced by the

ordinary disasters of capitalism—and are especially vulnerable after an

acute disaster like a storm or fire—are blameworthy and do not deserve

aid. As I argued above, state and nonprofit disaster recovery and social

services models generally work to stabilize the existing distribution of

wealth, not transform it, so it makes sense that they provide little or

nothing to the poorest people.

After disasters like Hurricanes Sandy and Katrina, the federal

government offered loans to homeowners and business owners, and smaller

loans to renters for replacing personal property. Only those who were

deemed to be “creditworthy” could qualify, and many of those who

qualified still never saw a penny. People in crisis are unlikely to be

helped by having more debt—but putting them in debt does make money for

banks reaping the interest. Similarly, during the initial COVID-19

outbreak in the United States, the federal government offered loans for

businesses suffering economic losses. Almost immediately, stories broke

about how giant corporations like Shake Shack and Potbelly received

millions while small businesses owned by people of color received the

least. Among individual workers, those with the most precarious jobs

were cut out of unemployment benefits and the stimulus checks that were

supposed to provide relief. Undocumented people were ineligible for

relief. Disaster relief and poor relief are designed to uphold and

worsen inequalities. Deservingness narratives justify those designs.

Even though mutual aid projects often emerge because of an awareness of

how relief programs exclude people marked “undeserving” or “ineligible,”

mutual aid groups still sometimes set up their own problematic

deservingness hierarchies. For example, mutual aid projects replicate

moralizing eligibility frameworks when they require sobriety, exclude

people with certain types of convictions, only include families with

children, or stigmatize and exclude people with psychiatric disabilities

for not fitting behavioral norms.

In his book Gay, Inc.: The Nonprofitization of Queer Politics, Myrl Beam

tells the story of a Minneapolis group founded by queer and trans youth

to support their community. As the group formalized and got funding, it

diverged from its initial mission and commitment to youth governance and

became dominated by adults. The group began to work with the local

police to check warrants for youth who came to the drop-in space. This

functionally excluded criminalized youth—disproportionately youth of

color—from the space and endangered people who came seeking help,

turning what had been a mutual aid group into an extension of the local

police department. When mutual aid projects make more stigmatized people

ineligible for what they are offering, they replicate the charity model.

The charity model often ties aid and criminalization together,

determining who gets help and who gets put away, as we can see in this

account from a Mutual Aid Disaster Relief (MADR) participant:

After Hurricane Irma, a local sheriff announced that, “If you go to a

shelter for Irma and you have a warrant, we’ll gladly escort you to the

safe and secure shelter called the Polk County Jail.” [This] …

essentially weaponizes aid against the most vulnerable and put[s]

numerous lives in danger … There is always a shocking number of guns

that show up after a disaster. A dehydrated child without access to

electricity or air conditioning in the blazing Florida or Texas or

Puerto Rico sun, needs somebody carrying Pedialyte, not an M16.

Saviorism and Paternalism

Mutual aid projects must also be wary of saviorism, self-congratulation,

and paternalism. Populations facing crisis are cast as in need of

saving, and their saviors are encouraged to use their presumed

superiority to make over these people and places, replacing old,

dysfunctional ways of being with smarter, more profitable, and more

moral ones. In the wake of Hurricane Katrina, politicians,

non-profiteers, celebrity philanthropists, and corporations conspired to

remake the city of New Orleans and the people in it by implementing

devastating “innovations” that eliminated public housing, permanently

displaced Black residents, privatized schools, and destroyed public

health infrastructure. After storms, floods, and fires, there is often

this kind of push to “rebuild” in ways that center the plans and dreams

of elites and do real harm to the populations who have lost the most.

Paternalism is also visible in programs within welfare and criminal

punishment systems that force criminalized people and people seeking

welfare benefits to take parenting classes, budgeting classes, and anger

management seminars. The idea that those giving aid need to “fix” people

who are in need is based on the notion that people’s poverty and

marginalization is not a systemic problem but is caused by their own

personal shortcomings. This also implies that those who provide aid are

superior.

Mutual aid projects and their individual participants must actively

resist savior narratives. These ideas are so pervasive that even those

who have a systemic analysis of vulnerability still sometimes fall into

the trap. Most mutual aid projects benefit from an explicit ongoing

effort to build shared analysis among participants about the harms of

saviorism and the necessity of self-determination for people in crisis.

Co-optation

For decades, politicians have combined attacks on public infrastructure

and public services with an endorsement of privatization and

volunteerism. As public services are cut, politicians push for already

inadequate social safety nets to be replaced by family and church,

implying that those who fail to belong to either deserve abandonment.

Alongside the destruction of public welfare, public-private partnerships

are celebrated and bolstered by the fiction that everything from

hospitals to prisons to city governments should be “run like a

business.” The prevailing myth is that business models are more

“efficient.” The truth is that making everything profit-centered, as

we’ve seen with our health care system, actually degrades the care that

people receive, as businesses seek short-term gains at any expense.

A cultural narrative about “social justice entrepreneurship” has also

emerged in recent decades, suggesting that people should not fight for

justice but rather invent (and patent) new ways of managing poor people

and social problems. One example of this kind of “entrepreneurship” that

has received media fanfare is Samaritan and other smartphone apps that

coordinate digital donations to homeless people in ways that ensure

restrictions on how they can use the cash. These apps are more focused

on the experience of the giver than on the person in need of aid, and

are designed to make the giver more comfortable by knowing their

donation can only be used at local partner businesses, or if the

homeless person’s counselor authorizes it for a specific purpose like

rent. This is typical of the kind of “innovation” that the social

justice entrepreneurship model celebrates—it embraces ideas of

paternalism central to the charity model, focuses aid on making donors

“feel good,” and has no connection to work that aims to get to the root

causes of the problem. In fact, it is being developed by the same tech

industry that has gentrified cities and increased housing insecurity.

In this atmosphere, mutual aid projects have to work hard to remain

oppositional to the status quo and cultivate resistance, rather than

becoming complementary to privatization. In the wake of Hurricane Harvey

in 2017, corporate media news stories of boat owners volunteering to

make rescues followed this script, neither criticizing government

failures to rescue people nor interrogating the cause of worsening

hurricanes and whom they most endangered. That is, the media stories of

individual heroes hid the social and political conditions producing the

crisis. Politicians and CEOs, who fantasize about a world where nothing

is guaranteed and most people are desperate and easily exploited, love

the idea of volunteerism replacing a social safety net. If we don’t

design mutual aid projects with care, we can fit right into this

conservative dream, becoming the people who can barely hold the threads

of a survivable world together while the 1 percent extracts more and

more while heroizing individual volunteers.

We can see this struggle to resist co-optation in the work of mutual aid

projects that support people who have been criminalized. Programs that

divert some arrestees from the criminal system to social services or

drug treatment, or that provide mediation between people who have done

harm and those they have harmed as an alternative to the criminal legal

process, can keep people out of jail or prison. However, they can also

become non-disruptive adjuncts to carceral control, as they

professionalize and become funded and shaped by police and courts. In

Seattle, for example, throughout a seven-year fight to stop the building

of a new youth jail, public officials have relentlessly used the small

diversion programs run primarily by people of color—which receive

minimal amounts of public funding—as cover to argue that King County has

already addressed concerns about youth incarceration through progressive

work with community partners. They have gone so far as to co-opt the

ideas of the youth jail opponents, passing legislation stating that the

city and county are committed to “zero youth detention.” Meanwhile, the

County built a youth jail for hundreds of millions of dollars. This

story of a local government co-opting the message of the radical

opposition, and showcasing grassroots, community-initiated programs to

legitimize expansion of the racist infrastructure of state violence is

chilling and highlights the thorny terrain of co-optation that mutual

aid projects must navigate.

Mutual aid projects may appear to overlap with privatization and

volunteerism in that participants critique certain social service models

and believe that voluntary participation in care and crisis work is

necessary. But the critiques of public safety nets made by mutual aid

project participants are not the same as those of neoliberal politicians

and corporations who tout volunteerism. Mutual aid projects emerge

because public services are exclusive, insufficient, punitive, and

criminalizing. Neoliberals take aim at public services in order to

further concentrate wealth and, in doing so, exacerbate material

inequality and violence. Mutual aid projects seek to radically

redistribute care and well-being, as part of larger movements that work

to dismantle the systems that concentrate wealth in the hands of the 1

percent.

The difference between neoliberal projects and mutual aid approaches is

well illustrated when we compare the privatization of fire services with

the work of the Oakland Power Projects (OPP), which seeks to build an

alternative to calling 911. Increasingly, public firefighting services

are inadequate and are facing further cuts, all in the midst of climate

change–induced fires. Meanwhile, the private firefighting business is

growing, with wealthy homeowners paying for private fire services to

come seal their homes, spray fire retardants on the premises, and put

owners in five-star hotels while less affluent people watch their homes

burn, struggle in shelters, and fight FEMA for basic benefits. Fire

profiteers aim to create a context in which only those who can pay get

help or protection in the case of a fire, which means fires will be more

deadly, the rich will get richer, and the poor will get poorer.

In contrast, the OPP emerged out of anti-police and anti-prison movement

groups who observed that when people call 911 for emergency medical

help, the police also come, hurting and sometimes killing those who

called for help. In response, the OPP works to train people in

communities impacted by police violence to provide emergency medical

care for gunshot wounds, chronic health problems like diabetes, and

mental health crises. If people can take care of each other, they can

avoid calling 911 and avoid a confrontation with the police. This

strategy is part of broader work to dismantle policing and

criminalization, and it works to both meet immediate needs and mobilize

people to build an alternative infrastructure for crisis response guided

by a shared commitment to ending racist police violence and medical

neglect. Note that, although the OPP and private firefighting both

provide an alternative to inadequate public services, they are not the

same at all: instead of profiting and only serving those who can pay,

the OPP’s programs build new ways of responding that allow those on the

bottom to work together to meet survival needs while dismantling racist

infrastructure.

Many powerful lessons about co-optation come out of the feminist

movement against domestic violence. That movement started with mutual

aid projects, such as volunteer-run shelters for violence survivors and

defense campaigns for women criminalized for killing their abuser or

attacker. Unfortunately, the anti– domestic violence movement emerged at

the same time that criminalization was about to balloon in the United

States. The mass uprisings of the 1960s and ’70s brought a huge crisis

of legitimacy to policing, with Black liberation, anti-racist, feminist,

queer, and Indigenous movements protesting and exposing police violence.

In response, US law enforcement worked hard to repair its public image,

doing things like hiring cops of color, creating new police roles in

schools through initiatives like the D.A.R.E. program, and creating

programs and campaigns to portray the police as the protectors of women

and children. Toward this end, law enforcement sought out alliances with

the emerging anti–domestic violence movement, supporting new laws that

increased punishment for gender-based violence and providing money for

groups willing to cooperate with police.

This drastically changed the anti–domestic violence movement. It shifted

from centering volunteer-based, grassroots mutual aid projects to

emphasizing larger nonprofits, often run by white people with advanced

degrees. These groups increasingly towed the line of a pro-police

message and advocated for increased criminalization, meanwhile taking on

charity-model approaches that treated people seeking help in punitive

and paternalizing ways. This shift increased the criminalization of

communities of color, made the services less accessible to the most

vulnerable survivors of violence, and provided good public relations for

police, prosecutors, and courts.

Notably, these co-optive approaches also failed to reduce gender-based

violence. Research has shown that pro-criminalization policy reforms

that became popular in this period, like mandatory arrest laws requiring

police to make arrests during domestic violence calls, resulted in the

arrests of abuse survivors, especially if they were queer, trans,

disabled, or people of color. This is a sobering story of how

co-optation can undermine our efforts to meet survival needs and cause

us to contribute to legitimizing or expanding the very systems that are

harming us.

At the same time, these events also produced a vibrant resistance from

which we can learn much in developing mutual aid work that resists

co-optation. Women of color, working-class and immigrant feminists, and

feminists with disabilities have powerfully resisted this shift toward

criminalization in the movement against gender violence. They have

created mutual aid projects to address harm and violence that refuse to

collaborate with police.

This work is often called “community accountability” or “transformative

justice.” It includes many innovative strategies developed in mutual aid

groups. Drawing on lessons from years of experience, Creative

Interventions authored a six-hundred-page guide on how to address sexual

violence and family violence through community support and problem

solving. GenerationFIVE and the Bay Area Transformative Justice

Collective have designed approaches to addressing child sexual abuse

that aim to get to the root causes and stop it, rather than just

criminalizing the small percentage of people who get caught. Hundreds of

local groups like Philly Stands Up and For Crying Out Loud have

developed processes for supporting survivors of violence and confronting

harm-doers, working with them to figure out what they need to never

inflict the harm again. These processes sometimes last several years,

with community members providing harmdoers with support for their

sobriety, mental health, and housing needs, deepening understanding of

their behaviors and their beliefs about gender and sexuality, and doing

whatever else they need to stop the behavior.

The goal of this kind of work is to do the things that the criminal

punishment approaches fail to do: give the survivor support to heal,

give the harm-doer what they need to stop the behavior, and assess how

community norms can change to decrease the likelihood of harm in

general, such as by providing healthy relationship skills training,

addressing a culture of substance misuse, and changing community ideas

about sexuality and gender. The Safe OUTside the System Collective, a

part of the Audre Lorde Project in New York City, has engaged a variety

of tactics to address violence against queer and trans people of color,

including police violence. One strategy it developed was building

relationships with people working in businesses in a Brooklyn

neighborhood where violence often occurred, asking those bodega

cashiers, restaurant staff, and other workers to provide a place for

people to run for help if something is happening on the street, a place

that pledges to not call the police. This community-wide work of

building long-term relationships increased those people’s preparedness

for helping people in need and de-escalating situations, which increased

safety in the neighborhood.

Some transformative justice work is focused on prevention, and some is

focused on providing support after something happens. Both are mutual

aid approaches, since they address immediate survival needs with a

recognition that the systems that are supposed to guarantee safety—the

cops, prosecutors, and courts—fail to do so and actually make things

worse. These mutual aid projects work to build a new world, where people

create safety through community building and support each other to stop

harmful behavior through connection rather than through caging.

These feminist activists and groups with an antipolice, anti-violence

politics also developed much of the analysis that informs this book.

They identified how the system of nonprofitization and pressure from

funders were pushing anti-violence work toward criminalization, how

mutual aid approaches were undermined when domestic violence shelters

and hotlines became more like social services, and how the co-optation

of anti-violence work undermined solidarity, further endangering

communities most targeted by police. Their wisdom can guide us in

building successful groups and movements and in resisting co-optation.

Characteristics of Mutual Aid vs Charity

Mutual aid projects depart from the charity model in crucial ways. Most

mutual aid projects are volunteer-based and avoid the careerism,

business approach, and charity model of nonprofits. Mutual aid projects

strive to include lots of people, rather than just a few people who have

been declared “experts” or “professionals.” If we want to provide

survival support to as many people as possible, and mobilize as many

people as possible for root-causes change, we need to let a lot of

people do the work and make decisions about the work together, rather

than bottlenecking the process with hierarchies that let only a few

people lead.

Despite these important goals, avoiding the pitfalls of co-optation,

deservingness hierarchies, saviorism, and disconnect from root-causes

work requires constant vigilance. The last half-century of social

movement history is full of examples of mutual aid groups that, under

pressure from law enforcement, funders, and culture, transformed into

charity or social services groups and lost much of their transformative

capacity. Here are some guiding questions for mutual aid groups trying

to avoid these dangers and pitfalls:

limit who we help or how we help?

stigmatized and vulnerable people?

enforcement?

While there is no single correct model for a mutual aid group, being

aware of general tendencies that distinguish mutual aid from other

projects can help groups make thoughtful decisions and maintain their

integrity and effectiveness. To help us think through where things can

get slippery, the chart below tracks characteristics within mutual aid

groups against those of groups working in the charity model. It may be a

good discussion prompt for a mutual aid group to clarify shared values

or find areas of agreement and disagreement, or desire for further

inquiry.

Chart 1. Characteristics of Mutual Aid vs. Charity

5. No masters, no flakes

One downside to the urgency that we bring to our mutual aid work can be

that we dive right into the work, very concerned about how many people

our project is helping, but fail to create good internal practices for

our group to be strong and sustainable. It makes sense that we are not

good at creating emancipatory group structures. Most of us have never

been in groups that had fair, participatory, transparent structures.

We’ve been working at jobs where bosses tell us what to do, or been in

schools, families, state institutions, or churches where strong

hierarchies rule and most people get no say in how things will go. We do

not have much practice imagining or being in groups where everyone can

truly participate in decision-making.

In addition, we are used to being part of groups that ignore ordinary

caring labor, much of which is seen as women’s work, like cooking and

cleaning and conflict mediation, while celebrating only the final,

outward-looking evidence of production: the big protest march, the

finalized legislation, the release of someone from prison, the media

coverage. We have not been taught to notice or care about how things

went along the way to a victory, whether people’s capacity for

confronting the next challenge was improved, or whether it was destroyed

through burnout or damaging group dynamics. Capitalism makes us think

about short-term gains, not building the long-term capacity for all of

our well-being. This can make it easy to go for the quick fix and ignore

the damage we might be doing to each other along the way. Many of us

think “process is boring.” Everyone wants a selfie with Angela Davis at

the big event, but many people are less interested in the months of

meetings where we coordinate how to pull off that event according to our

values and handle the challenges of organizing.

But we must build strong structures for our projects if we want this

work to be effective at saving lives and mobilizing people. This is

essential to any effort to address injustice. Building efficient,

participatory, transparent decision-making structures and cultures of

care and principled action in our groups takes intentional work, but it

is crucial for allowing our groups to flourish and win. If we do it

right, it can help prevent the conflicts that tend to tear groups apart,

divide participants from each other, and drive people away.

Groups are more effective and efficient when participants know how to

raise concerns, how to propose ideas, when a decision has been made and

by whom, and how to put that decision into practice. People who have

gotten to participate in decision-making and feel co-ownership of the

project stick around and do the work. People who feel unclear about

whether their opinion matters or how to be part of making decisions tend

to drift away. Strong structures also help us plug in new people, orient

them to the work, train them in skills they need to build, and give them

roles they want.

Chart 2. Default Approaches to Organizing Groups

Clear structures help us stick to our values under pressure—and we’ve

already looked at many of the larger pitfalls that mutual aid groups can

fall into, so we know what’s at stake. In groups that aren’t clear about

decision-making, it is much easier for a leader to get seduced by money

or prestige and sell out a group’s core values for a job, a grant, or a

moment in the spotlight. It is easier for law enforcement to infiltrate

and destroy the group. It is also easier for participants to get burnt

out on organizing. As I’ll discuss below, burnout is often caused by

conflict or by a failure to delegate decisions and tasks. A clear

structure can help prevent conflict or provide ways to move through it,

and can help make sure that people are sharing responsibility.

This chapter will explore three organizational tendencies that often

emerge in mutual aid groups that can cause problems, and provide ideas

for how to avoid them:

One. Secrecy, hierarchy, and lack of clarity. Many groups that fail to

create clear decision-making methods and caring, emancipatory cultures

end up with participants not knowing what is going on or who is making

decisions, having all the decision-making concentrate in one person or

clique, and risk the group being torn apart by conflict because of these

dynamics.

Two. Over-promising and under-delivering, non-responsiveness, and

elitism. Many groups bite off more than they can chew, promising to help

more people than they can help or making it seem like they have a

community need covered when they don’t actually have the capacity to

address it. This problem seems to be exacerbated when groups receive

grants for specific projects, so there is money at stake in falsely

claiming to be able to accomplish more than they are able. It also

happens when people are not making decisions together and someone makes

promises for the whole group without consulting everyone else about

whether that work is a priority or a possibility. This tendency can

include being nonresponsive, especially to community members in need,

and sometimes being over-responsive to elites. Many groups, especially

when money or ego is involved, answer calls from media or elected

officials, but not from the community members they are supposed to

serve.

Three. Scarcity, urgency, competition. Some groups also develop a

culture of scarcity (of money, time, attention, and labor), which makes

sense given the real scarcity that exists in many of our lives under

capitalism. However, when we do our work from a feeling that there is

not enough money, time, or attention to go around, we sometimes get

competitive with other groups or with other people within our group, or

we feel so much urgency about particular tasks that we don’t take the

necessary steps to do our task well, and we forget about being kind to

each other in our rush to get something done. This can lead to conflict

or making mistakes that harm our communities.

Chart 3. Tendencies that Harm Groups

This section will provide tools for addressing these tendencies in our

groups and in ourselves, so that we can cultivate transparency,

integrity, and generosity in our work and build our capacities to avoid

the pitfalls discussed in chapter 4. We will look at what

decision-making and leadership look like when these tendencies prevail,

what alternatives to these ways of working look like, and what personal

qualities and behaviors we need to cultivate to address these

tendencies.

Group culture

Groups have cultures. Group culture is built from the signals we give

people when they join or attend an event, norms the group follows, how

we celebrate together, how we engage in small talk, what our meetings

feel like, how we give feedback to each other, and more. Group cultures

often reflect the personalities and ingrained behaviors and responses of

the founders. If the founder is vague and loose with money, or often

late to meetings, the group may be that way; or if the founder loves to

sing at the end of meetings, the group may keep that practice going for

a long time. But group culture also changes as new people come in and as

conditions change. We can make intentional decisions to change group

culture by having conversations about a group’s tendencies and methods,

talking about what is working and what is not, reflecting on how our own

behavior can match what we want to see, and influencing each other.

There is no one correct or perfect group culture. Groups should be

different from each other because the people in them are different and

we all bring different qualities, skills, and viewpoints. Ideally, we

want a group culture that supports participants in doing the work they

came together to do, to be well, and to build generative relationships.

In some groups that means people will form sexual and romantic

connections with people they meet in the group. In others, that would be

inappropriate or harmful, and the group will create a culture that

discourages it. In some groups, people will love to sing and dance

together, and in some groups people will want to engage in spiritual

rituals together. In some groups, the nature of the work makes it

essential to maintain certain forms of secrecy and security, to protect

members who are taking bold actions. In others, cultivating openness to

new members will be essential for bringing lots of people into the work.

The chart below is designed to provoke conversation about group culture

among people already in a project or those about to start one. For those

already in a project, the chart can be used to assess what the group

culture is currently like. And even if there has only been one

conversation so far about starting a project, the norms that the people

in that conversation may be likely to bring to the group’s emerging

culture will already be noticeable. This chart can be used to talk about

strengths and weaknesses participants have experienced before in other

groups, including families, jobs, schools, and congregations, and what

they want to emulate or avoid reproducing in this current group.

Chart 4. Qualities of Group cultures.

Real contradictions exist in the above chart. We want to be flexible,

and we also want to have a culture of responsiveness, reliability, and

punctuality. How do we work to cultivate both? Most of us, having

received our concept of responsibility from dominant culture, associate

it with being forced, lured, or shamed into being “good,” ignoring our

needs, and fearing punishment if we do wrong. How do we hold our values

of flexibility, compassion, and justice while building a culture where

we show up and do what we said we would? These tensions are real. If we

do not talk about them together, we run the risk of falling into

automatic behaviors, driving out new people, and falling apart. Creating

a group culture intentionally, and having a shared vision about how we

want it to be does not mean we all need to be just like each other. We

can acknowledge differences in our capacities, talents, desires, and

difficulties and still aim to create a culture where we support each

other in the work, learn new skills, and are connected and kind to each

other. The goal is not that everyone be similar, but that we all

complement each other and build some shared practices based in shared

values.

MADR’s slogan is “No Masters, No Flakes,” and it’s a great summary of

key principles for collective mutual aid work. This dual focus on

rejecting hierarchies inside the organization and committing to build

accountability according to shared values asks participants to keep

showing up and working together not because a boss is making you, but

because you want to.

Making Decisions Together

Perhaps the most central group activity that makes everything else

possible is making decisions. When we do it well, we make good decisions

on the basis of the best information available, we feel heard by each

other, and we are all motivated to implement what we decided. When we do

it poorly, our decisions are unwise, some people are left resentful or

hurt or disconnected from the group, and there is less motivation to

proceed together on purpose.

Most of us have little experience in groups where everyone gets to make

decisions together, because our schools, homes, workplaces,

congregations, and other groups are mostly run as hierarchies. Our

society runs on coercion. You have to work or go to school and follow

rules and laws that you had no say in creating, whether you believe in

them or not, or risk exclusion, stigma, starvation, or punishment. We do

not get to consent to the conditions we live under. Bosses,

corporations, and government officials make decisions that impoverish

most people, pollute our planet, concentrate wealth, and start wars. We

are only practiced at being allowed to make decisions as individual

consumers, and rarely get practice making truly collective decisions. We

are told we live in a system of “majority rule,” yet there is rarely

anyone to vote for who is not owned by—or part of— the 1 percent, and

the decisions those leaders make do not benefit the majority of people.

The opposite of this approach to decision-making is to make decisions

together, caring about every person’s consent. This practice is called

consensus decision-making. Unlike representative government, consensus

decision-making lets us have a say in things that matter to us directly,

instead of electing someone who may or may not advocate on our behalf.

Consensus decision-making is a radical practice for building a new world

not based on domination and coercion.

It’s important to remember that no decision-making structure can prevent

all conflict or power dynamics, or guarantee that we will never be

frustrated or bored or decide to part ways. But consensus

decision-making at least helps us avoid the worst costs of hierarchies

and majority rule, which can include abuse of power, demobilization of

most people, and inefficiency. Consensus decision-making gives us the

best chance to hear from everyone concerned, address power dynamics, and

make decisions that represent the best wisdom of the group and that

people in the group will want to implement.

What Is Consensus Decision-Making?

Consensus decision-making is based on the idea that everyone should have

a say in decisions that affect them. If we are working on a project

together, we should all get to decide how we are going to do the work,

rather than someone telling us how to do it. We will honor people’s

different levels of experience and wisdom as we listen to each other’s

ideas, but we will not follow someone just because they act bossy, got

here first, or have a higher social status in the dominant culture

because they are a professional, white, older, male, formally educated,

etc. Consensus decision-making happens when everyone in the discussion

hashes out possibilities and modifies a proposal until everyone can live

with it. Consensus is cooperative rather than adversarial. When we use

“majority rule,” the goal is to get as many people as possible to prefer

your approach to another, and to “win” by getting things your way. That

means that we disregard the needs and concerns of anyone who cannot

muster majority support. Consensus encourages us to find out what each

other’s concerns are and try to create a path forward that addresses all

the concerns as well as possible. It is based on the belief that people

can cooperate and care about each other’s well-being, rather than the

myth that we are naturally competitive and greedy.

Consensus cultivates interest in the whole group’s purpose and wellness,

rather than cultivating a desire to have things exactly “my way.” In

consensus, any participant can block a decision, so we take time to

actually talk through each member’s concerns because we cannot move

forward without each other. Because we are trying to build agreement by

modifying the proposal until it comes as close as possible to meeting

the full range of needs and concerns, we also build the skill of making

decisions with group members and community members in mind, not just

ourselves or our cliques, and being okay with something that is not our

most preferred version going forward. That is, we learn to imagine how

decisions affect all of us differently, and how to productively move

forward taking other people’s needs and desires into account. People can

“stand aside” in consensus processes, letting others know that while

they are not totally behind this proposal, they agree it is best for the

group to go forward with the decision, given all the views that have

been expressed and the efforts made to address concerns.

Here’s an example of what consensus could ideally look like: Over a

period of time, a group has hashed out a proposal, heard concerns in

collective discussions, and tweaked it until it seems like everyone may

be ready to agree. Someone then calls for consensus and checks to see if

there are any “stand asides”—those who want to signify disagreement but

don’t want to block the proposal from moving forward—or “blocks”—those

with disagreements significant enough that they feel the proposal cannot

be passed without modification. If there are blocks, it means the

proposal needs more work. The person or people blocking can share their

concerns, and the group can either work further on modifying the

proposal then and there, or have some people work on it and come up with

a way forward before the next meeting. If no one blocks, but many people

stand aside, the group may decide to discuss the reasons for the stand

asides for a bit longer and see if they can be resolved by making the

proposal better. If someone finds themselves blocking a lot, it may be

worth examining whether they are in the right group—do they believe in

the shared purpose?—or whether they are withholding their views earlier

in the process, or feeling not listened to in the group. In general,

blocking should be rare.

It is worth noting that this process often unfolds over multiple

meetings, with Step 1 happening at one meeting and a group of people

agreeing to come to the next meeting with a developed proposal to be

discussed.

Consensus decision-making does not mean that every decision is made by

the whole group. Decisions can still be delegated to teams working on

implementing part of the group’s larger plan. For example, if the group

does grocery deliveries, a specific team can work on filling out the

delivery schedule and assignments. Sorting out what decisions are

delegated to teams and what is a wholegroup decision will be discussed

below.

This chart summarizes the consensus process:

Chart 5. Basic Steps to Consensus Decision-Making

[] For consensus to work well, people need a common purpose; some degree

of trust in each other; an understanding of the consensus process; a

willingness to put the best interests of the group at the center (which

does not mean people let themselves be harmed “for the good of the

group,” but may mean being okay not always getting their way); a

willingness to spend time preparing and discussing proposals; and

skillful facilitation and agenda preparation. These skills and qualities

can develop as any new group learns to work together—it is okay that we

don’t have all these in place at the start. The greatest area of

strength for most mutual aid groups is a common purpose.

Advantages of Consensus Decision-Making

1. Better Decisions

When more people get to talk through a decision openly, sharing their

insight without fear of reprisal from a boss, parent, or teacher, more

relevant information and wisdom about the topic is likely to surface. In

hierarchical organizations, people are discouraged from sharing their

opinion either because no one is listening or because they could

experience negative consequences for disagreeing. Because hierarchy is

so ingrained in our culture, people on top often fall into dominance

behaviors without meaning to, assuming the superiority of their ideas,

not taking other’s opinions seriously, or unilaterally making decisions

and telling others to implement them. If we are trying to build a world

where people have collective self-determination, where we get to make

justice-centered decisions together about land, work, housing, water,

minerals, energy, food, and everything else that matters, we need to

practice new skills beyond dominance and submission in decision-making.

2. Better Implementation

When other people make decisions for us and we don’t get to raise

concerns or disagreements, we are less likely to want to implement them.

This happens all the time at workplaces. Bosses decide how things will

be done, and employees think the method is wrong or that the wrong

priorities were chosen, so they drag their feet doing the work, or do it

differently, or don’t do it at all. In volunteer groups, people who

don’t get to have a say in decisions are likely to just leave, because,

unlike employees, they have no incentive to stay if the work does not

align with their principles or feel meaningful to them. When we get to

look at a proposal together and tell each other how it might be

improved, hashing out our best ideas until we have something that we all

like or at least can live with, we are more likely to vigorously do what

we all decided, instead of drifting apart or failing to follow through.

3. Bringing More People into the Work and Keeping Them Involved

When someone shows up to a mutual aid group for the first time, full of

urgency about something they care about, and they do not understand why

things are being done the way they are, or do not understand how things

are being done, and do not have a way to share their opinions and

influence what is happening, they are likely to leave. People come to

contribute, but they stay because they feel needed, included, and a part

of something. Nonprofits often offer very limited ways for volunteers to

participate. You can donate money, or maybe stuff envelopes, phonebank,

or hand something out at a parade or event. Volunteers’ relationships to

those groups are usually thin—they don’t have much influence in the

group, and while they may get some satisfaction from feeling like they

helped, they are not doing the core of the work.

Mutual aid groups, on the other hand, give people a way to build a deep

relationship to the work and to feel the power of doing important, bold

survival work together. The relations between a mutual aid group and the

people in it, then, is thick—it includes shared stewardship of the

group, and a chance to consider and influence the project as a whole,

even if the focus is on one specific task like delivering the groceries

or answering the hotline.

4. Helping to Prevent Co-optation

Co-optation of projects and groups often starts with the co-optation of

individual people, often charismatic leaders or founders of projects,

who get bought off by elites through access to increased funding,

influence, a job, or other forms of status. When a small number of

people have the power to shift the direction of a project, it can be

hard to resist the incentives that come with co-optation. Often, leaders

are not the most vulnerable of the group’s members, because being

regarded as “persuasive,” “important,” or “authoritative” relates to

race, gender, age, language, and educational attainment. As a result, a

single individual or small group running a project may not be the same

people who have the most to lose if the project veers toward elite

interests. It is the most vulnerable of the participants who are most

likely to have objections to the shifts that come with co-optation, such

as new eligibility requirements that cut out stigmatized groups, or a

new cozy relationship with law enforcement or philanthropists.

Given these dynamics, some mutual aid groups establish explicit criteria

or guidelines designed to make sure certain perspectives that are often

otherwise left out or marginalized are heard, such as agreeing that

decisions that break down around identity lines (for example, most of

the group’s women or currently undocumented people oppose a certain

proposal) will be reevaluated to assess a proposal’s alignment with the

group’s core principles. Some groups establish quotas about members of

decision-making bodies within the group, ensuring that groups

particularly likely to be left out are well represented in those bodies.

5. We Learn to Value and Desire Other People’s Participation

In addition to avoiding the problem of having majorities vote down

minorities and silence vulnerable groups, consensus decision-making

establishes a culture of desiring others’ participation. Decision-making

systems focused on competition—on getting my idea to be the one that

wins—cultivate disinterest in other people’s participation. Consensus

decision-making requires participants to bring forward proposals to be

discussed and modified until everyone is sufficiently satisfied that no

one will block the proposal. This means participants get to practice

wanting to hear other people’s concerns and other people’s creative

approaches to resolving them. If the goal of our movements is to

mobilize hundreds of millions of people, we need to genuinely want

others’ participation, even when others bring different ideas or

disagree with how we think things should be done. Most people will not

stay and commit to intense unpaid work if they get little say in shaping

that work. We need ways of practicing wanting one another’s

participation, not just going along with what charismatic or

authoritative people say. In our culture, we get a lot of practice

either going along with bossy people or trying to be the boss. It’s time

to learn something different.

Making Consensus Decision-Making Efficient and Effective

Here are five practices that set up efficient, effective consensus

decision-making:

1. Creating teams

When mutual aid projects are just getting off the ground, they often

have only a few people in them. With a small number of people—five or

less—it can be relatively quick and easy to discuss everything together.

As things get off the ground and more people join, it can be very useful

to create teams working on short- or long-term projects that report back

to the larger group for input on proposals or to submit proposals for

the group to decide on. Teams or pairs can come together to do quick

tasks between meetings, or a team can form as a long-term body within

the group. For example, an emerging project doing neighborhood grocery

delivery for immunocompromised people may break off a small research

team to find out about best practices for sanitizing groceries between

purchase and delivery and bring back those ideas to the big group

meeting. They may also create a standing team that manages the requests

for support coming in through the group’s social media platforms and

online request form, and a team that assigns the deliveries. Groups can

form teams as they go, then change them, meld them, or break them into

multiple teams as conditions change and experiences inform the group.

Having teams and knowing who is on them can help delegate work so that

it doesn’t fall on only a few people. It can help people who are new to

the group know how to plug in and get started doing something useful

because it makes the process by which work happens more transparent. It

can help work get done between meetings because people can work out

details and present proposals based on information they gathered and

discussed with their team. It can also help prevent decision-making from

getting bottlenecked at the whole group level, if teams are authorized

to develop and implement certain parts of the work according to the

whole group’s plans and principles. The larger and more complex groups

get, the more it may also make sense to do more in-depth planning, such

as planning out the next six months of work and getting the whole

group’s approval of that plan so that each team can then manage its part

of the whole.

2. Creating a decision-making chart

A great way to prevent conflict and gain the efficiency and productivity

that task-specific teams can provide is to have a decision-making chart

that lets people know which decisions can happen in teams and which are

whole-group decisions. No decision-making chart can anticipate every

single possible decision a group can make, but putting some big ones on

there—especially ones more likely to be sensitive or cause conflict—can

help groups make decisions according to their principles.

Decision-making charts should always be considered to be working

documents. As groups try them out, they find out what is working and

what isn’t, and make changes accordingly.

Below is a sample decision-making chart for our example group that

delivers groceries to immunocompromised people in the neighborhood. Mine

looks like a table, but it could really look like anything, include any

categories, or be made in whatever way meets a group’s needs. It could

be designed as a flow chart, a flower chart, circles, an ecosystem, or

whatever makes sense to the group.

Chart 6. Sample decision-making chart.

One common problem that groups address in these charts is how to make

fast-paced decisions, such as responding to media requests or a

coalition request to sign on to a letter or event that needs an

immediate response. Having a team or subgroup that is authorized by the

group to do a quick turnaround in these situations can help groups stay

responsive while being grounded in a clear process. A quick-response

group that has two or three people who are well-versed in the group’s

principles can tell if something is easy to respond to quickly, or if it

is more complex and needs to go to a larger group for a decision. The

quick-response group is also responsible for letting the whole group

know immediately what quick decision was made so that others in the

group are not surprised to find out, for example, the group has offered

an endorsement, and so that people can offer input if they disagree with

that particular call. It can be beneficial to have the quick-response

group be a rotating role so that everyone gains experience and no person

or team becomes the group’s default deciders.

Some other items that might go on a decision-making chart:

location, a new program, a new curriculum, a strategy for reaching a new

population)

groups or coalitions

someone, or fire someone

These are all decisions that I have repeatedly seen produce conflict in

groups, when someone—often a charismatic leader or founder—has made the

decision without consulting others and without a clear process. Not

every decision a group makes will go on the chart, but having a chart

that lists some decisions can help orient new members to how

decision-making works, increase transparency and consistency, and

prevent conflict.

3. Practicing Proposal-Making

We all do the Proposal → Discussion → Modifications → Consensus process

informally in social settings: I say I want to go out for dinner. My

friend suggests the place on the corner. I say it’s too loud there, how

about the old place? We agree. When dealing with more complex decisions

involving more people, it helps to actually think of the decision as a

proposal and develop it before the meeting.

For example, if our group has realized we need a database to track all

the people calling our hotline, and that we need it to be relatively

secure because our callers are undocumented and criminalized, and that

we need it to be useable by people with a broad range of computer

experience, we might ask some group members to research existing options

and come back with a proposal that we can discuss. They will present

what they learned, tell us the pros and cons of various approaches, and

propose what they think is the best solution. Now the next conversation

we have can be based on good, well-researched information.

Treating something like a proposal rather than just an idea or a

preference means that group members take the time to think through and

research options, so that the whole group doesn’t become mired in

speculation or very small details. For example, if our group wants to

plan a fundraiser for someone’s transition from prison to life outside,

we might have a subgroup or team work on a plan for the party that

includes location, date, time, performances, outreach strategy,

accessibility, and other details, and bring that back to the next

meeting for everyone to discuss and modify. The process would be much

slower if as a large group we talked at length about all the details.

What happens when we discuss a proposal in our meeting and we do not

come to agreement? Usually, if the group thinks we eventually need to

figure this thing out (for example, we still need a database but we have

outstanding questions about the options, or we still want to have the

party but we realize we don’t know how much time our favorite performers

need on the program), the proposal can go back for further development.

It need not go back to the same people. Perhaps someone new wants to

take it on and address the outstanding questions because they have

access to helpful information, or they have a good sense of the criteria

that we are looking to meet, or they have time between meetings to do

this next step. Decision-making works better if, rather than anyone

seeing it as “my proposal,” we can see it as the group’s proposal. That

way we are less likely to become rigidly attached to one outcome.

One helpful tool is for a group to have a proposal template. This can

especially help new people know how to get their ideas heard if they

have never been in a group that used a consensus process. Some groups

keep this kind of template in a shared folder (paper or electronic) so

that everyone can access it. A proposal template could be as simple as

the following:

any of them before bringing it to the whole group?

people consider it?

You might also add a statement of the group’s shared purpose to the

proposal, since that guides group decisions. Some groups also add

questions that the group has decided should always be addressed when

moving forward, such as, “How will this proposal affect access to our

project for people with disabilities?” or “Does this proposal include

any financial costs, and if so what are they?”

4. Practicing Meeting Facilitation

How well or poorly we facilitate meetings will make or break our groups.

Skillful facilitation helps us make decisions together, feel heard and

included by each other, prevent and resolve conflict, celebrate our

accomplishments and wins, grieve our losses, and become people who can

be together in new, more liberating relationships. Bad facilitation can

make meetings boring, exhausting, oppressive, and damaging to

individuals and groups. Most of us have never been to well-facilitated

meetings, so we don’t know how to create them without help from someone

who has more experience in how to do it. In other words, it’s worth

putting some attention to meeting facilitation in your group—and if no

one in your group has that experience, I hope the tools below and other

resources available online can help guide all of you as you decide what

works best for your group.

Some very basic elements of good meeting facilitation worth considering

are:

meeting). If possible, circulate it to attendees ahead of time so they

can add items they want to discuss. At the beginning of the meeting, ask

again if there are missing items. If there are too many items for the

time allotted, work with the group to decide what can be discussed next

time or by a team in between regular meetings.

to or share with people who couldn’t be at the meeting. Sometimes it is

nice to dedicate a space in the notes for a task list where, as we go,

we write down which tasks people have agreed to do. This can be a good

reference for group members between meetings and be reviewed at the

start of the next meeting to see if anything was left unfinished that

needs attention.

time so the group doesn’t end up running the meeting too long or not

getting to important items.

opening with a go-round check-in question that is funny or invites

people’s personalities to shine a little. We don’t want to be

over-serious. We’re here to work but also to know and enjoy each other!

group agreements. The group can agree, for example, that each person

will wait for three other people to speak before speaking again

(sometimes called “three before me”) or that they will respect people’s

pronouns, or whatever else the group decides will create a caring and

respectful space. Go over these agreements at the beginning of each

meeting and make sure newcomers understand them and get to ask questions

or suggest additions.

go-round so that the group hears from everyone. This is especially

important if the same people are usually talking and others are usually

quiet.

One way to establish some group norms about facilitation is to have an

agenda template. This also helps people who are facilitating or making

an agenda for the first time. An agenda template may look like the

following:

Chart 7. Agenda template.

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Ahead of the meeting, facilitators are responsible for thinking through

how much time agenda items need, how to refresh the group on any

decision-making processes that the group has agreed to so everyone is

oriented, and how to create a warm and participatory culture in the

meeting. Facilitators often sort out these questions in conversations

with others, such as by asking people who proposed things for the agenda

how much time they need and how urgent it is that the item be discussed

at this meeting, by finding out if new people are expected to come to

this meeting, or by asking for help in any aspect of agenda preparation.

Group dynamics are improved if facilitation rotates in the group along

with other roles like notetaking and time-keeping, so that people can

learn new skills and power dynamics don’t stagnate and rigidify. When

new people are asked to take on these roles, they should be given

support and guidance so they can have a satisfying experience of serving

the group in this way. Some groups find it beneficial to have all

meetings co-facilitated by two people.

People show up in groups to do important work, but we show up as our

whole selves, not work robots. We are social beings who evolved in

groups, and we have deep, ingrained desires for safety, dignity, and a

sense of belonging when we are with others. Good facilitation lets us

satisfy these desires, even in the presence of conflict and difference.

5. Welcoming New People

If we are going to win the big changes that we want and need so that

people can live with dignity and we can sustain human life on our

planet, we need to organize hundreds of millions of people who are not

yet politically active to take bold collective action together. We will

never have as much money and weapons as our opponents. All we have is

people power. We need to support people who have not been part of social

movement work to join social movements. They need to feel like they can

become part of a response to conditions that they find intolerable.

Mutual aid is the best onramp for getting people involved in

transformative action because they get to address things harming them

and their communities right away. To harness new people’s energy and

capacity for collective action, our groups need to be ready to welcome

them and, to paraphrase Toni Cade Bambara, make resistance irresistible.

We want them to join groups, have satisfying experiences of taking

action, build new skills, develop their own political understanding of

injustice, and stay in the resistance movement for the rest of their

lives. Movements grow because new people join groups and feel

co-ownership and co-stewardship of the work, and then recruit other

people and orient them so they get deep in too, and on and on.

Some things that help make groups and meetings accessible and

interesting to new people include:

came to the group— many people are seeking to break their own isolation

and find a space where they can be heard and be part of a shared

understanding of the root causes of injustice.

providing a background of the problems the group is addressing and the

group’s activities so far; avoiding jargon, acronyms, and overly

technical theoretical language.

thought about those ideas before.

they don’t feel lost about what is going on or being discussed.

meeting to find out if they have questions, how they want to plug into

the work, and if there is anything that would make the group more

welcoming to them.

focused on orienting new people, since some detailed group discussions

that need to happen about ongoing work might not be the most accessible

to newbies.

so they feel a part of things.

One harsh reality in our currently under-developed, under-peopled,

under-resourced movements is that sometimes we are tired from doing all

the work, and sometimes we have feelings of resentment that more people

aren’t engaged. When we greet new people with exhaustion and resentment,

we rarely succeed in making participation in our group irresistible.

Making our meetings welcoming, fun, warm, and energizing; making space

for people to feel their rage and grief about the issues we are

organizing around; and cultivating care and connection with one another

strengthen the group and make the work more sustainable, in addition to

supporting the well-being of all the participants.

Leadership Qualities That Support Mutuality and Collaboration

One thing we need to do to create strong, sustainable mutual aid

projects is shed the baggage of what we are told “leadership” is in a

racist, colonial, patriarchal society. That model is usually about

individuality, competition, and domination. We often think of leaders as

people in the spotlight, holding the mic. To win big, we need to build

leaderless and leaderful groups. This means we want lots and lots of

people involved, all of whom are building skills that help them do the

work and bring new people into the work. We want transparency in our

groups, so that our opposition can’t mess up our work by just

neutralizing or co-opting one person. We want everyone to have the

strength and skills to lead. The chart on the following pages can be a

tool for individuals and groups to reflect on what we’ve been taught

about leadership and how to redefine it for ourselves.

Chart 8. Leadership Qualities

Ways to use this chart:

1. Write or talk in your group about what is missing from these lists.

2. Circle qualities you see in yourself that you are working to

cultivate and grow. What might help them grow?

3. Circle qualities you see in yourself that are obstacles to you

practicing cooperative leadership or that don’t fit your values. Where

did you learn those qualities? How have they served you? How have they

gotten in the way of what you want or believe in? What helps you move

toward acting in greater alignment with your values?

4. Notice qualities that are prevalent in groups you are in. What could

help cultivate qualities you think are beneficial and reduce ones that

are harmful?

A Cautionary Note on Fame

Social media has encouraged our individualism and has enhanced the

desire to “brand” ourselves as radical or as having the “right”

politics. It is in the interest of corporations like Facebook and

Twitter that we spend as much time as possible creating free content for

them, and that we feel compelled to get approval on their platforms. All

of this can motivate us to want to be perceived to be doing things,

rather than actually doing them. Much mutual aid work is very ordinary,

sometimes boring, and often difficult. To return to an earlier example,

everyone wants a selfie with Angela Davis to post, but many people do

not want to take the time to visit prisoners, go to court with people,

wait in long lines at welfare offices, write letters to people in

solitary confinement, deliver groceries to an elderly neighbor, or spend

many hours in meetings about how to coordinate care for people in need.

When we get our sense of self from fame, status, or approval from a

bunch of strangers, we’re in trouble. It is hard to stick to our

principles and treat others well when we are seeking praise and

attention. If we are to redefine leadership away from individualism,

competition, and social climbing, we have to become people who care

about ourselves as part of the greater whole. It means moving from

materialist self-love, which is often very self-critical (“I will be

okay and deserve love when I look right, when others approve of me, when

I am famous”) and toward a deep belief that everyone, including

ourselves, deserves dignity, belonging, and safety just because we are

alive. It means cultivating a desire to be beautifully, exquisitely

ordinary just like everyone else. It means practicing to be nobody

special. Rather than a fantasy of being rich and famous, which

capitalism tells us is the goal of our lives, we cultivate a fantasy of

everyone having what they need and being able to creatively express the

beauty of their lives.

This is a lifelong unlearning practice because we have all been shaped

by systems that make us insecure, approval-seeking, individualist, and

sometimes shallow. Yet we also all have the deeply human desire to

connect with others, to be of service in ways that reduce suffering, and

to be seen and loved by those who truly know us and whom we love. Mutual

aid groups are a place where we can notice these learned instincts and

drives in ourselves and unlearn them—that is, make choices to act out of

mutuality and care on purpose.

Handling money

Handling money can be one of the most contentious issues for mutual aid

groups. Because of this, it can be very useful for groups to consider

whether this is something they want to do. Some groups can do their work

without raising money at all. Some groups can do their work just raising

money through grassroots fundraising in their communities, taking small

donations from many people. That kind of fundraising can avoid the

problem with grant-making foundations attaching strings to grant money

and trying to control the direction of the work. Grassroots fundraising

can help build a sense that the community controls the organizations

rather than an elite funder, and doing grassroots fundraising can be a

way of spreading the ideas of the group and raising awareness about the

problems the group works on. However, even if money is raised in this

way, managing money still comes with pitfalls.

Handling money brings logistical issues that can cause stress and take

time, such as figuring out how to do it fairly and transparently and

figuring out how to avoid a problem with the IRS or otherwise expose

group members to legal problems. Because most people in our society have

a tangled, painful relationship with money that includes feelings and

behaviors of secrecy, shame, and desperation, a lot of otherwise awesome

people will misbehave when money is around or get suspicious of others’

behavior.

Sometimes groups want funds so they can pay people to do the work. When

groups have no staff, it can be a challenge to do mutual aid work that

has to take place during typical workday times, such as accompanying

people to courts or social service offices. Staffing can increase

capacity to provide aid. But it is worth weighing some of the challenges

that paid staffing can bring. When groups that have operated on an

all-volunteer basis get money to pay staff, there is a greater danger of

institutionalization and pandering to funders, because someone’s

livelihood will be impacted if they lose the funders’ favor. Groups can

lose their autonomy, feeling pressured to direct their work toward

fundable projects or put time into measuring their work and reporting it

according to funders’ demands, rather than doing the work the way they

think is most effective.

To get funding, groups may want to become nonprofits by applying to the

IRS, or get a nonprofit fiscal sponsor so that they can receive grants

and/or tax-deductible donations. The downside is that this requires

financial tracking and administration skills. Becoming a nonprofit

sometimes concentrates power in the hands of people who have had more

access to these skills and systems, such as white people, people with

more formal education, and people with professional experience,

especially when having those skills becomes a prerequisite for getting

hired as staff. It also may bring government attention and funder

surveillance to the group and cultivate a culture of timidity or risk

aversion. In addition, when groups are dependent on funders, they have

an incentive to declare false victories or stick to strategies they have

followed to win funding in the past, even if those strategies are not

working toward their purpose anymore. We see this problem frequently in

the nonprofit sector, where an organization will purport to serve some

population’s needs but in reality serve only a small number of

people—yet the public story is that they have it covered. This can

prevent new organizations from emerging that can truly address more of

the population’s need. When groups are volunteer-based, people are more

likely to admit their limitations and scrap bad ideas, because they are

motivated by purpose, not elite approval.

Another pitfall of hiring paid staff is that when groups become staffed,

unpaid volunteers in the group sometimes expect that staff person or few

staff people to suddenly do all the work, and volunteers sometimes check

out (especially if they felt overworked before the group started paying

staff). This can make the group vulnerable to a loss of capacity, to

becoming governed by just a few staffers, and to burnout and overwork of

those staffers. It can also be a setup for new staffers to be heavily

criticized and considered to be “failures” because they are overloaded

with responsibilities. In some groups, where people from the most

impacted communities are hired, and they are the same people who have

the least formal work experience in professional settings, this can be a

particularly cruel setup.

There can certainly be good reasons to seek funding and have paid staff

roles, but these steps should be taken with caution and with a focus on

building transparent and accountable systems regarding money and

decision-making. At least two people should always be working together

on tracking funds to help prevent theft. How money is earned and spent

should be clear to all group participants. The group’s values should

guide how money is spent—for example, the group should ensure that staff

are paid fairly and equally rather than on the basis of the privileged

status that comes with a professional degree, and should ensure that

people are not pressured to overwork. Having clear and transparent

budgeting and planning processes that can be understood by all

participants, including people with no prior experience with such

processes, so everyone can weigh in and make decisions together will

help prevent the group from shrinking to become staff-centered, small,

and likely less mobilizing and relevant. The more that people in the

group can be aware of the dangers of institutionalization and

philanthropic control, the more likely the group can stay committed to

its purpose and principles when handling money.

Burnout

Burnout is a reason people often give for why they leave mutual aid

groups. Burnout is more than just exhaustion that comes from working too

hard. Most often, people I meet who describe themselves as burnt out

have been through painful conflict in a group they were working with and

quit because they were hurt and unsatisfied by how it turned out.

Burnout is the combination of resentment, exhaustion, shame, and

frustration that make us lose connection to pleasure and passion in the

work and instead encounter difficult feelings like avoidance,

compulsion, control, and anxiety. If it were just exhaustion, we could

take a break and rest and go back, but people who feel burnt out often

feel they cannot return to the work, or that the group or work they were

part of is toxic.

These feelings and behaviors are reasonable results of the conditions

under which we do our work. We are steeped in a capitalist, patriarchal,

white supremacist culture that encourages us to compete, distrust,

hoard, hide, disconnect, and confine our value to how others see us and

what we produce. Our work is under-resourced in important ways. Many of

us come to the work because of our own experiences of poverty or

violence, and doing this work can activate old wounds and survival

responses. We come to the work to heal ourselves and the world, but we

often do the work in ways that further harm ourselves and impede our

contribution to the resistance. When our groups are focused on getting

important things done “out there,” there is rarely room to process our

strong feelings or admit that we do not know how to navigate our roles

“in here.”

Burnout is created or worsened when we feel disconnected from others,

mistreated, misunderstood, ashamed, overburdened, obsessed with

outcomes, perfectionist, or controlling. Burnout is prevented or

lessened when we feel connected to others, when there is transparency in

how we work together, when we can rest as needed, when we feel

appreciated by the group, and when we have skills for giving and

receiving feedback. There are several things that groups can do to

cultivate conditions that prevent, reduce, or respond to burnout, and

there are things that individuals experiencing burnout can do. Before

people who are burnt out leave groups, they often cause a lot of

disruption and damage, so this section is also aimed at reducing the

harm that burnt-out or overworked people can cause. Figuring out how to

have a more balanced relationship to work and overwork is a matter of

both individual healing and collective stewardship of the group.

Signs of Overwork and Burnout

who might do it differently, or the group coming to a different decision

than we would make.

harder than anyone else.” This can include creating a damaging group

culture of competition about who works the hardest.

the process as the founder or the hardest worker.

or with other issues or activists that we perceive as receiving more

support.

important” to the group or control outcomes.

do less work or have less responsibility.

to the same level of leadership (this behavior is usually rationalized

in some way).

extreme version of this can result in leaders sabotaging the group or

project rather than recognizing that it may be time to step back and

take a break from leadership.

working in this kind of work. Feelings of being alone. Feelings of “me

against [members of the group/other groups/everyone].”

fraudulent and afraid of being caught so far behind.

money/time/attention.”

first thing upon waking and last before sleeping, during time that was

supposed to be for connecting with loved ones. Not knowing how to do

anything besides work. Not having fun or feeling relaxed on vacation or

days off.

how the group is perceived by outsiders such as funders, elites, and

others.

“I’m doing so much, I’m killing myself with work. How can you critique

me? I can’t possibly do any better/more!”

We also carry around fallback attitudes and behaviors that can undermine

our principles, especially when we are stressed out and over capacity.

These can be behaviors we learned from dominant culture and also roles

we learned in our families. When we are stressed and overworked, these

things can come out in damaging ways. It can mean we misuse or obstruct

group processes, disappear from the work, or act from a place of

superiority or dominance on the basis of gender, race, ability, class,

or educational attainment.

How Mutual Aid Groups Can Prevent and Address Overwork and Burnout

Overwork is pervasive in mutual aid groups, and if we can move away from

shaming and blaming ourselves and others and toward acknowledging it, we

can support change. It is hard to confront another person about behavior

that is harmful, and it is hard to be confronted about harmful behavior

and listen to what is being said. The ideas below do not change that,

but they may help individuals or groups create concrete steps to address

the problems.

1. Make internal problems a top priority. The group cannot do its

important work if it is falling apart inside, and it cannot do its work

well if it is promising to do work it does not have the capacity to do.

The internal concerns cannot wait until later, because the giant need

the group exists to fill is probably not going to be reduced in the

immediate future. This does not mean the group’s work needs to stop, but

it may mean calling a moratorium on new projects and commitments so that

the situation does not worsen, and so that people can carve out time for

working on internal problems.

Groups working on internal problems might seek any of the following

resources:

active listening, giving and receiving direct feedback.

sexism, homophobia, transphobia, classism, and other systems of meaning

and control affect group development and culture, and how to change

that.

shared clarity on what the priorities are and what they have agreed to

do and not to do together.

assign work fairly, assess workload, and plan out a reasonable pace of

work.

facilitator who understands the group’s values and whom the people in

conflict trust and/or see as relatively neutral.

each other are doing, and allied groups doing similar or related work

know what the group is doing.

other about what is going well and what needs work in the group’s

dynamics, or can discuss issues or concerns about their own role and ask

for the group’s assistance.

2. Make sure that new people are welcomed and trained to co-lead. This

means new people are given a full background on the group’s work,

understand that they are being asked to fully participate in all

decisions, and have space to ask any questions they need to in order to

participate. Ensuring that everyone is getting access to what it takes

to co-lead is essential to building leadership among more people. Group

members and the group as a whole will be better off if many people are

leading, not just one or two.

3. Establish mechanisms to assess the workload and scale back. How many

hours is each member working? Is it beyond what they can do and maintain

their own wellbeing? Did they actually track their hours for a week to

make sure they are aware of how much they are working? Assess the

workload and scale back projects until the workload is under control.

Create a moratorium on new projects until capacity expands. Enforce the

moratorium—no one can unilaterally take on new work for the group or for

themselves as a member of the group.

4. Build a culture of connection. How can the group’s meeting culture

foster well-being, goodwill, connection between members? Eating

together, having check-ins with interesting questions about people’s

favorite foods, plants, movies, or politicizing moments may feel silly

at first but makes a big difference. Bringing attention to wellness into

the group’s culture means helping members be there as multi-dimensional

people, rather than just as work or activist machines. People need to

build deep enough relationships to actually be able to talk about

difficult dynamics that come up, or those dynamics will fester.

5. Make sure that the facilitation of meetings rotates, including

agenda-making and other key leadership tasks. Rotating tasks can help us

address unfair workloads and transparency concerns. Making sure everyone

is trained on how to facilitate meetings in ways that maximize the

participation of all members of the group can help. Whenever there is a

danger that just a few people will dominate an important conversation,

use a go-around rather than having people volunteer to speak. Quieter

members speaking up can really change the dynamic.

6. As a group, recognize the conditions creating a culture of overwork.

It is not one person’s fault, and everyone may be feeling the different

forms of pressure. Have one or many facilitated discussions about the

pressures and dynamics that lead to overwork or to an individual’s

dominating or disappearing behavior. Create a shared language for the

pressures the members may be under so they are easier to identify and

address moving forward.

What Individuals Experiencing Overwork and Burnout Need

In addition to creating group approaches to burnout, we can take action

in our own lives when we recognize our own symptoms of overwork and

burnout. This requires us to work on changing our own behavior and that

we be willing to examine the root causes of our impulses to over-commit,

to control, to overwork, or to disconnect. This is healing work aimed at

helping us be well enough to enjoy our work, make sustained lifelong

contributions to the movements we care about, and receive the love and

transformation that is possible in communities of resistance. Above all,

we must take a gentle approach to ourselves, avoid judgment, recognize

the role of social conditioning in producing these responses in us, and

patiently and humbly experiment with new ways of being.

The compulsive worker, over-worker, or control freak might come to

understand their needs in the following ways:

can ask for honest feedback about my behavior, and who can help support

me and soothe me when I feel afraid of doing something in a new way. For

example, these people might remind me that even though someone else in

the project will do this task differently, it is better to let them do

it so they can build their own skills and I can use the time for

something healing that has been missing from my life. These people might

help remind me that it will be okay if I say no to a task or project.

These friends can help me give love to the wounds underneath my

compulsive, competitive, or controlling behavior, reminding me that I am

worthwhile and my value does not hang on what the group does, how much

work I do, or what other people think of me.

competitive, or controlling behavior or ideas when they hear them from

me or see me engaging in them. It can be difficult to receive such

feedback, but it is truly a gift.

have, I need to resist the impulse to defend myself or critique the way

they delivered their message. This feedback, including any anger they

express while sharing it, is likely a sign that others think I am a

leader and that what I do matters. They are doing the hard and

uncomfortable task of raising a concern because they see me as a person

with influence. I can remember that, no matter how it is delivered, this

feedback is an investment in me and in our work, and an act of love. I

can seek out a friend separately to process the difficult feelings that

receiving this feedback brings up. The need to avoid acting out my

defensiveness, or taking on a victim narrative, is especially important

when I am in a position of privilege of any kind and/or have more

developed leadership in the group or project.

like I have to stay up all night working, this is probably about

something older or deeper in my life, not about the current

work/workplace/group/coworker. If my heart is racing, if I feel

threatened, if I feel like I can’t get out of bed, if I feel like I

can’t speak to my coworker or I’ll explode, I am probably experiencing

pain deeply rooted in my life history. To get out of this reactive

space, I need to devote resources to uncovering the roots of my painful

reactions and building ways of being in those feelings that don’t

involve acting out harm to myself or others (including the harm of

overworking). The first step is recognizing that my strongest reactions

may not be entirely or primarily about the work-related situation

directly in front of me, and being willing to slow down to explore what

is underneath.

world. What that looks like is different for everyone, and could include

individual or group therapy, 12-step programs (including Workaholics

Anonymous), exercise, bodywork, spiritual exploration, art practice,

gardening, and building meaningful relationships with family or friends.

Whatever it is, I have to engage in a gentle way and be careful that it

does not become another thing to perfect or to try to be the leader of.

Pursuing a healing path can be a way to practice doing things because

they feel good rather than because they accomplish something.

from a group if relationships have gotten difficult and I am

experiencing negative feelings about myself and others. If I want move

toward a more balanced role in the group, or even transition out

altogether, I need to do so gradually and intentionally. I need to

transfer relationships and knowledge and skills that I hold and make

sure that my transition is done in a way that ensures support for the

people continuing the work.

Conflict

Working and living inside hierarchies does not teach us how to deal with

conflict. Most of us avoid conflict either by submitting to others’

wills and trying to numb out the impact on us, or by trying to dominate

others to get our way and being numb to the impact on others. Our

culture teaches us that giving direct feedback is risky and that we

should either suppress our concerns or find ways to manipulate

situations and get what we want. We are trained to seek external

validation, especially from people in authority, and often have few

skills for hearing critical feedback, considering it, and acting on what

is useful. To survive our various social positions, we internalize

specific instructions about when and how to numb our feelings and

perceptions, avoid giving feedback, disappear, act defensively or

offensively, demand appeasement, or offer appeasement. As a result, we

are mostly unprepared to engage with conflict in generative ways and

instead tend to avoid it until it explodes or relationships disappear.

Conflict is a normal part of all groups and relationships. But many of

us still seem to think that if conflict happens, it means there is

something wrong—and then we seek out someone to blame. If we do work we

care deeply about with other people, we will experience conflict because

the stakes of the work feel very high to us, and that conflict is likely

to bring up wounds and reactions from earlier in our lives. This may

mean we revert to oppressive scripts and power dynamics from the

dominant culture.

The emergence of conflict does not have to mean that someone is bad or

to blame, and the more we can normalize conflict, the more likely we can

address it and come through it stronger, rather than burning out and

leaving the group or the movement, and/or causing damage to others. Some

of the reasons that conflict can be so pitched in social movement groups

include:

are more likely to be up at night stressing about a conflict with a

friend or collaborator than thinking about the mayor or some other

person whom we have a more distant relationship with.

for belonging and connection, disappointment is likely.

familiar feeling quickly and easily, unconsciously looking for evidence

that we are different or are being slighted or left out.

by joining a group with others who share our values or identities, can

bring up our conditioned thinking and feeling. We might feel like we

don’t deserve it or like we are fraudulent. We might even unconsciously

make up stories about what other people are thinking about us.

brings stress and pressures that can heighten feelings and provoke

reactive behavior.

Given that conflict and strong feelings are inevitable if we are working

on something we love with people we care about, what can we do to cause

less harm to each other and our groups? How do we hold the strong

feelings that come up, and how do we survive the conflict without being

our worst selves to one another?

Here are three ways to check in with ourselves, get perspective, and act

based on our principles when conflict is coming up:

One. Get away for a quiet moment to feel what is going on inside. This

inquiry could also include talking to a friend or writing things down.

A lot of times when we perceive some kind of threat, we go on autopilot.

That autopilot could take the form of a obsessive critical thinking

about another person, self-hating thoughts, disappearing, picking a

fight, getting lost in work, getting wasted, or obsessing all night and

not sleeping. Whatever it is, it can help to ask ourselves about what

kinds of feelings are coming up. Paying careful attention to ourselves

can stop us from going with the autopilot reaction that might not be

aligned with our intentions, purpose, or values and might damage our

relationships.

Two. Remember, no one made us feel this way, but we are having strong

feelings and they deserve our caring attention.

It can be easy when we are hurt or disappointed to decide that another

person caused our pain. Certainly, others’ actions and inactions

stimulate feelings in us, but what feelings get stimulated, and how

strong they are, has a lot to do with ourselves and our histories.

Often, when something really riles us up, it is because it is touching

an old wound or raw spot.

Three. Get curious about our raw spots.

We all have raw spots—things that bother us because of the insecurities

we carry or the way we were treated as kids at school or by our families

at home. Other people do not know our raw spots—we sometimes do not know

them ourselves—so people are often surprised at the impact of their

actions on our feelings. We can become curious about our own raw spots,

finding origins in childhood experiences, the cumulative impact of

microaggressions and systemic harm, or other sources. When someone

brushes a raw spot, we can have a big reaction—sometimes acting outward

toward them, sometimes harming ourselves. The trick is to realize that

our raw spots belong to us, rather than us being hostage to them, and

that we can experience the feelings, notice them, and decide how to move

forward, rather than having the feelings drive our behavior.

For example, imagine my feelings got hurt by a person in my mutual aid

group who did not follow through on something. If I then launched an

informal campaign to get other people in the group to perceive my flaky

collaborator as a person lacking integrity, and to get them pushed out

of the group, or if I refused to work with them anymore, we could lose a

lot. If I know their actions hit my raw spot, I can observe my feelings

coming up, being aware that they may not be proportional to what

happened, and that my feelings are not my flaky collaborator’s fault. I

can hold off on campaigning against them and find right-sized action to

address my concerns for the good of all.

What Else Is True?

When we find ourselves obsessing over an opinion, story, or judgment, it

can often be helpful to ask, “What else is true?” For example, when

conflict is emerging and we have strong feelings, we might ask:

their positive qualities? Can I think of any way that I benefit from

their actions? In addition to what they did that I dislike, are there

also other experiences that show a more full picture, demonstrate good

intentions, or balance any vengeful feelings toward this person?

situation or behavior?

What else is in my life? What percentage of my time is spent in this

space or with this person? What else do I do and have? Does this

situation feel like it occupies 80 percent of my mind space, while this

group actually only takes up 5 percent of my week? If I am afraid of

what this person thinks of me, can I think of other people who I know

that admire, care about, and respect me?

control? If not, can I imagine letting go, even just 5 percent or 10

percent, to gain some peace of mind?

have to do with my own history and experiences? Are there ways to give

myself attention or care around these wounds?

strong feelings about this person? In my inner reality, did I cast us

into roles that relate to my family of origin or other formative groups?

Use Direct Communication before Using Gossip and Social Media

Sometimes the first impulse we have when we are hurt is to make our hurt

known—through negative gossip or on social media platforms. Negative

gossip and accusatory posts can hurt the person doing the gossiping, the

target, the group, and the movement. It usually magnifies conflict. This

doesn’t mean that we should not share difficult experiences we are

having so we can access support. We often need to speak with a friend to

help clarify what we are feeling, get affirmation of our experience,

talk through possible responses, and get sympathy. So, how can we tell

if we are engaging in negative gossip that might harm someone? Here are

several questions we can ask ourselves:

your mutual aid group, talking about them negatively behind their back

with other people in the group is likely to harm group dynamics and

create a culture that will drive some people away. Talking to a

therapist or a friend who is not part of the group is less likely to be

harmful. Telling the stories on social media is likely to have many

harmful and possibly unintended impacts on everyone involved.

to get support and process my experience, or am I trying to get other

people to think badly about this person?

content of what you are sharing is something you would not consider

compassionate or constructive feedback, something you would never say to

their face, it may be malicious gossip. Any time we are feeling

justified dehumanizing people in our movements and social circles, it is

good to pause and ask, “What else is true?” We might be reacting to a

deep wound that needs our attention, and causing damage along the way.

talk about this person’s behavior or qualities right now going to help

me be clear about my choices and feelings, or is it building a habit of

thinking too much about this person and cultivating hyper-criticism of

them?

Giving direct feedback is hard. Rather than saying, “It was difficult

for me when you did not follow through with the tasks you took on at the

meeting,” or “I wonder why you didn’t ask me to join that team,” it is

easier to project negative feelings and malicious behaviors onto the

other person and gossip about it. This is likely to feel bad and damage

relationships. When a lot of people in groups or scenes are doing this,

it can make for broad conditions of distrust, anxiety, and betrayal, and

can augment hierarchies of valuation and devaluation, making groups

unstable and more vulnerable to disruption by law enforcement.

We live in a society based on disposability. When we feel bad, we often

automatically decide that either we are bad or another person is bad.

Both of these moves cause damage and distort the truth, which is that we

are all navigating difficult conditions the best we can, and we all have

a lot to learn and unlearn. If we want to build a different way of being

together in groups, we have to look closely at the feelings and

behaviors that generate the desire to throw people away. Humility,

compassion for ourselves, and compassion for others are antidotes to

disposability culture. Examining where we project on others and where we

react strongly to others can give us more options when we are in

conflict. Every one of us is more complex and beautiful than our worst

actions and harshest judgments. Building compassion and accountability

requires us to take stock of our own actions and reactions in conflict,

and seek ways to treat each other with care even in the midst of strong

feelings.

Working with Joy

It is not surprising that most of us have distorted relationships to

work, including work in mutual aid groups. The conditions and systems we

live under make work coercive, create severe imbalances in who does

which kind of work and for what kind of compensation and recognition,

and make it hard to feel like we have choices when it comes to work.

Working to change the world is extremely hard because the conditions we

are up against are severe. We cannot blame ourselves for having a

difficult relationship to our work, even though we understand that

learning to work differently is vital for our movements and for our own

well-being and survival. We must be compassionate to ourselves and each

other as we practice transforming our ways of working together.

We need each other badly to share what is hard about the overwhelming

suffering in the world and the challenge of doing work for change in

dangerous conditions. Even in the face of the pain that being awakened

to contemporary conditions causes, all of our work for change can be

rooted in the comfort and joy of being connected to one another,

accompanying one another, and sometimes being inspired by each other.

Reflecting deeply about our own orientations toward work—what it feels

like to participate in groups, what ideas we are carrying around about

leadership and productivity—is crucial to building a practice of working

from a place of connection, inspiration, and joy. This means

intentionally creating ways to practice a new relationship to work, and

diving into the psychic structures underlying our wounds from living and

working in brutal, coercive hiearchies. The following chart may be a

useful reflection tool for individuals and groups trying to change

harmful cultures and practices of work.

Chart 9. Workaholics Anonymous’s “Working Joyfully”

Perfectionism

Perfectionism is an insidious and harmful force in our mutual aid groups

and in our own psyches. “I’m not a perfectionist, everything I do is so

imperfect!” we say to ourselves. Exactly. Nothing is good enough. We

live in a very materialist culture that tells us we need to have the

“perfect” body, sexuality, family, consumer goods, home, and job. Even

those of us who know those norms are bullshit still struggle with the

patterns of perfectionist thinking and behavior they can create. In our

personal lives this can give us anxiety and feed painful misperceptions

of ourselves.

Perfectionism can shrink our mutual aid groups, causing them to be

exclusive, producing conflict, and feeding dynamics of overwork and

burnout. Perfectionism sometimes appears as a fear of saying anything

that is politically off-base and being judged, so that people don’t

share their opinions; or are wildly defensive if someone questions

something they said; or quickly attack or exclude anyone who doesn’t use

the same jargon as them or is still learning something they already know

about. These tendencies can create cliquishness and make it hard to grow

our groups and movements. Perfectionism can also lead to people being

overly controlling of group work, which can mean work does not get

delegated and the same few people are doing everything. It can mean that

people who started the group are patronizing to people who come in later

and do things differently.

Whenever we see inflexibility in ourselves or in a group culture, there

are opportunities for healing from social conditioning and cultivating

new ways of being. The chart and reflection questions below are tools to

use by yourself or in a group to begin to unlearn perfectionism. Check

anything that feels familiar.

Chart 10. Perfectionism Checklist

have to do better.If I don’t strive, I am a lazy and useless

person.Other people or groups are producing more, reaching further, or

getting more praise.

others think poorly of me.If I try, then I will only fail.If I put

myself out there, then others will think badly of me, I should keep

quiet.

ruined and I have to quit.My work is never good enough.There is a right

way and a wrong way to do things.If some people are critiquing me, I

should just leave this group.

am really like.I should already know everything about this topic.I

should already be able to do this the same or better than others.Any

mistake will expose me as a fraud.

before I can show it to anyone else.I have to keep checking in with

others to make sure I am liked, look okay, didn’t say anything wrong,

etc.I check my social media likes, my appearance, my bank account, my

email constantly.

have to work extremely hard in order to deserve a treat or a rest.

prepared for possible outcomes.I can’t let anyone else do a task in case

it goes wrong.

feel dread and a sense of avoidance about my task because of my fear of

failure, exposure, humiliation.I feel deadened by overwhelming shame or

grief that I am suppressing.

Reflection Questions:

interactions, how I regard my body, activism, social media interactions,

housework? What is the cost?

intolerant of others’ learning processes or differences? Where did I

learn that? What emotions motivate that? What is the cost of this

intolerance to my relationships, to my work, to my principles and

purpose in the world?

so, how? How does it impact our group work, relationships with each

other, and relationships to people who come to our project for help or

to volunteer? How could we add more flexibility, care, compassion, and

trust to our group culture?

Mad Mapping

Doing mutual aid work often brings some level of stress or pressure,

because we are meeting urgent needs, learning new skills, working in

groups, and taking on new responsibilities. These are the same things

that make the work meaningful, satisfying, and pleasurable. But pressure

and stress can bring out patterned emotional responses and autopilot

reactions and behaviors. Learning to notice the patterns and plan for

them can help us make choices or get support at key moments so that our

actions can be as beneficial as possible to ourselves and the people

around us.

One technique to learn these patterns in ourselves is to use a “mad

map”—a guide we can make for ourselves that we can turn to when things

go sideways or we feel ourselves slipping into more difficult states. A

mad map can be like a gift to your future self, to help navigate the

potentially dangerous waters of stress or conflict. It can guide you

through the wild thinking, feeling, and behaviors that emerge when

things are really rough, reminding you what helps and what harms during

such times. Your mad map can have any content you want. It can be

illustrated, or include songs, physical movements, or images—whatever

feels best. Below are just some starter ideas and examples of potential

content. Some people share their mad maps with friends and loved ones.

You can include sections on how other people can support you when you

are in difficulty or crisis, and what you do or do not want them to say

or do if you are struggling. (I learned about mad mapping from the

Icarus Project, and you can find more information in the resource list

at the end of this book.)

Signs of Difficulty under Pressure

Some areas to think about when making this section might include:

your appearance, personality, intelligence, etc.).

like you, are talking about you, excluding you.

overloaded.

wanting to let other people do it differently.

mirror, your work, other people’s work, your health, your money).

project).

right now.

imbalance.

Guidelines for Greater Wellness

In this section, try to set realistic expectations, not piein-the-sky

guidelines that will cause shame or feelings of inadequacy if they are

not met. You can always increase and adjust later. Be aware of harsh

“should” messages that may show up here, which many of us have in areas

of eating, work, exercise, money, sex, and so on. Being mindful to avoid

perfectionism, focus on gentle realistic steps toward greater balance.

This section might include things like:

news, etc.

escapist or toxifying behaviors.

help but might be falling away right now.

example, not upon waking or before bed).

-Goals for getting outdoors or interacting with the natural world.

including unpaid activist or artistic work if you are overworking in

those areas.

Bonus Activities That Help

The previous section is a baseline set of goals you are committing to.

This section can include things you may aspire to do, things you know

would feel good, things that are lovely extras to improve your state of

being.

connection, or self-worth.

your isolation, generate a more structured routine, break up a

monotonous routine.

Unhelpful/Untrue Thoughts

Painful or difficult thinking increases when we are under pressure.

Often it will be familiar thinking that has appeared in other difficult

times, feeding harmful behaviors that disconnect us from ourselves and

others. Noticing these thoughts and behaviors can give us a chance to

interrupt them and see if they can be reduced.

health):I’m not doing enough.I’m doing everything and no one is

helping.I’m not going to have what I need.I better get mine before

everyone else takes it all.There are not enough people in this

group.There is not enough time.

everything.I ruined everything.Nothing every works out for me/us.

worst.I don’t deserve help/care/support/love/admiration/survival.I am a

bad person.

can see the truth like I can.Everyone else is handling this

incorrectly.Any criticism or feedback about my behavior is

incorrect/inappropriate.

Helpful Truths to Remember

In this section, call on your most centered self, your inner adult, your

inner kind parent, your highest spiritual self, or however you think of

that part of you that can offer a compassionate perspective. Go through

your unhelpful thoughts list, above, and explore what the part of you

thinking each thought needs to hear or remember to diffuse the untrue

thought’s power. The examples below may help you generate your list.

are facing are severe. It is okay that we can’t meet everyone’s needs at

once or solve everything.

no to things.

imperfect work.

else here. I have wisdom and experience to offer just like everyone

else.

or was mean to me, it may be a misinterpretation of their behavior.

can stretch myself to be kind and caring to people even if we have

different styles of interaction. I can choose to notice what values we

have in common and what is beautiful about their contribution, rather

than focusing on criticizing them.

comes from a sense of choosing to act on purpose than if it is motivated

by guilt or a sense of inadequacy. If I am choosing to do things on the

basis of those feelings, I can take a pause to reconnect to my purpose

and make intentional choices about what kinds of tasks and

responsibilities I can take on.

I don’t have to act on them. I can remind myself to trust the wisdom of

the group, let others learn by doing, and offer my contributions with

generosity and flexibility.

don’t have to act on them. I can remind myself of the feelings of

purpose that guide me and then make a practical, reasonable action plan

for following through with my commitments. I can ask friends to help

with accountability on tasks if needed. - All that I choose to do will

be better for me and others if it doesn’t come from a “must” and

“should” feeling, but instead from sober discernment of how I can care

for myself and others.

But I don’t have to let those fears and insecurities guide me. I can

remember the true collective purpose of this work and have compassion

for the parts of me that want attention or credit. I can remember the

ways that I am loved and seen by friends and people in my group.

Conclusion: Everything is at Stake and We’re Fighting to Win

The only thing that keeps those in power in that position is the

illusion of our powerlessness. A moment of freedom and connection can

undo a lifetime of social conditioning and scatter seeds in a thousand

directions.

— Mutual Aid Disaster Relief

In May 2020, in the midst of a global pandemic that exposed the

brutality of racist, capitalist health systems and the frailty of social

safety nets, Minneapolis police brutally murdered George Floyd, sparking

global protests against anti-Black racism and police violence. The

mutual aid projects that had been mobilizing during the first months of

the pandemic became vectors of participation in the growing protests.

Millions of people participated in new ways in this moment—providing

food, masks, hand sanitizer, water, medical support, and protection to

each other while fighting cops and white supremacists in the streets,

organizing and supporting funds for criminalized people, pressuring

schools and other institutions to cancel contracts with the police, and

more. In the first two weeks of the protests alone, an unprecedented 3.5

million people donated to bail funds around the United States. As

organizers demanded the defunding and dismantling of police departments,

vibrant conversations about transformative justice emerged, with more

and more people learning about the possibilities of addressing conflict

and violence through mutual aid rather than criminalization.

In Seattle, after days of confrontations police abandoned the East

Precinct, and protesters established an autonomous zone around it,

taking up several blocks and a park. With the withdrawal of the police

and most businesses closed already because of COVID-19, the zone, like

earlier Occupy encampments and other similar spaces where protesters

have taken public space, became a site of experimentation where

practices of governance, co-stewardship, leadership, decision-making,

and collective care were being debated and innovated. Mutual aid

projects emerged in this space to provide mental health support, food,

water, medical care, masks, spiritual support, haircuts, clothing,

conflict mediation, and more.

At the same time that the mobilizations against policing and for Black

lives were growing, scientists announced that May 2020 had been the

hottest May on record and that 2020, like the ten preceding years, would

likely be another record-breakingly hot year; the Trump administration

announced it intended to open the Atlantic Maritime Monument to

commercial fishing and waive environmental review for infrastructure

projects; the EPA slashed clean water protections; climate

change–induced permafrost melt caused the largest oil spill in Russia’s

history; and scientists announced that carbon dioxide levels were at a

record high despite reduced emissions during the pandemic. Everywhere we

look, we see signs that the systems we have been living under are

collapsing, and something new must emerge if we are to survive.

As the world faces the ongoing crises of the COVID-19 pandemic, a

worsening economic depression, climate change, and domination by

illegitimate and racist policing, criminalization, and border

enforcement systems and militaries, it is clear that mutual aid projects

are essential to the broader ecosystem of political action. Mutual aid

helps people survive disasters of all kinds, mobilizes and politicizes

new people, and builds the new systems and ways of being together that

we need. The stronger we build our mutual aid projects, the more lasting

our mobilizations can be.

Mutual aid is essential to the other tactics that make up our movements,

not only because it is the way to onboard millions of new people into

lasting movement participation, but also because it supports all the

other strategies. Decades of work developing transformative justice

projects provide an alternative vision for community support as we push

to end police budgets and redirect resources toward human need. Bail

funds, legal defense campaigns, and prison letter-writing projects

support those criminalized for bold actions against the police and

corporations. Street medics treating tear gas and rubber bullet injuries

make street battles with police for days on end possible. Healing

justice projects and conflict mediation projects help us live together

in police-free zones. Mutual aid is essential to all of our resistance

work.

Moments of crisis and transformative organizing empower increasingly

bold actions of mutual support. On June 1, 2020, Washington, DC, police

surrounded protesters on a residential street intending to arrest them

for violating the 6 p.m. curfew imposed by the city to quell uprisings

over George Floyd’s murder. As police began making their arrests, people

living on the street opened their doors to let protesters take shelter

in their homes. Police tried to remove the protesters, even throwing

tear gas into the windows. But the residents kept the protesters inside

overnight, feeding them and meeting their needs. This open refusal of

police authority and willingness to take risks for one another

illustrates the vibrant possibilities of solidarity and mutual aid.

The same week that residents were defending protesters in DC, bus

drivers around the United States refused to allow police to commandeer

public buses for making mass arrests. Despite offers of overtime pay to

drive buses for this purpose, bus drivers organized a shared resistance

to cooperating with police. The bus drivers’ union in Minneapolis issued

a statement declaring that their drivers have the right to refuse to

transport arrested protesters and refuse to transport police to

protests.

Ideally, our experiments with mutual aid and solidarity become bolder

and bolder as experiences with our shared authority emancipate us from

the illegitimate authority of dominant systems. This has been visible in

increasing actions to protect immigrants from ICE arrests. In July of

2019, community members in Nashville, Tennessee, surrounded a man in his

car to protect him from ICE agents who had come for him. At the same

time, mutual aid groups all over the country were organizing to hide

immigrants, to warn immigrants of coming ICE raids, to care for the

families of detainees and deportees, and to block buses leaving

immigration prisons to bring people to airports for deportation. These

same groups were also often tied in with campaigns to shut down the

immigration prison in their region or stop the building or expansion of

an immigration prison, to get local ordinances to ban ICE from using

local airports for deportation, to block collaboration between ICE and

local law enforcement in various ways, or to withdraw the business

license of a private prison used to cage immigrants.

These anti-ICE efforts provide a picture of how mutual aid ties in with

strategies aimed at beating back the explosive growth of racist state

violence, and building courage among participants to take more and more

direct action to protect each other. As crises mount, our organizing

could inspire people to greater daring, using our people power to block

ICE and the police from arresting people, block marshals attempting to

evict tenants, and even to prevent military forces from occupying

territory. We might reach a level of mobilization where we free our own

people from prison, rather than asking that their captors free them, and

where we redistribute stolen wealth rather than asking that it be taxed

and spent differently. Our movements must contend with the structures in

place in order to dismantle the weapons they use against our

communities, and simultaneously build new ways of surviving that are

based in our principles of liberation and collective self-determination.

We must imagine and build ways of eating, communicating, sheltering,

moving, healing, and caring for each other that are not profit-centered,

hierarchical, and destructive to our planet. We must practice

co-governing, creating participatory, consent-based ways of cooperating

that are not based in militarism.

Mutual aid work plays an immediate role in helping us get through

crises, but it also has the potential to build the skills and capacities

we need for an entirely new way of living at a moment when we must

transform our society or face intensive, uneven suffering followed by

species extinction. As we deliver groceries, participate in meetings,

sew masks, write letters to prisoners, apply bandages, facilitate

relationship skills classes, learn how to protect our work from

surveillance, plant gardens, and change diapers, we are strengthening

our ability to outnumber the police and military, protect our

communities, and build systems that make sure everyone can have food,

housing, medicine, dignity, connection, belonging, and creativity in

their lives. That is the world we are fighting for. That is the world we

can win.

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