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Title: Egg Cracking Culture Author: Valium Sadfemme McGirlBoss Date: Oct 21, 2021 Language: en Topics: transgender, lgbt, lgbtq, gay rights, queer rights, trans rights, queer anarchism, anarcho-communism, pink anarchism, feminism, anarcha-feminism, transgender gender abolition Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3ohxkh_oJk Notes: This is a transcript of a YouTube video from a channel with modern Anarchist theory.
This writing is more opinion than highly researched fact. I’m just some
person on the internet stating things as I see them. Don’t trust those
who don’t want you to think critically, or who want only to affirm your
beliefs for money.
Basic Definition time.
Cisgender Person: A person who identifies with the gender assigned to
them at birth, which is assumed based on their outwards appearance of
sex.
Transgender Person: A person who does not identify with the gender
assigned to them at birth. May go through many changes to bring their
social life and body into alignment with the gender they feel.
The concept of “Eggs”, in transgender spaces, are people who do not know
they are transgender yet, and may go through a process of “cracking”,
and find out they are. This can happen through any number of experiences
which make them aware that being transgender is possible, and relevant
to them. Something which obviously would not have to happen in a world
where it is a commonly taught and known idea what transgender people
are, and that you could be one.
Some times you will find people who complain about a supposed group of
transgender people, who apparently go around trying to crack people’s
eggs, and according to them, are pretentious and annoying, or end up
cracking eggs where there weren’t any.
When right wing type people talk about this, it’s probably because they,
or someone they know, had a kid that was made aware that being
transgender is possible, and is now making changes to themselves. Such
an adult would prefer for that child not to be trans, because they are
worried for the child and what they might experience, or a bigot. Often
times both. People who are bad tend to rationalize everything to
themselves and never see themselves as motivated by prejudice.
When progressive type people talk about this, it’s because they have an
understanding of transgenderism, that it is a rare unique condition
among a minority, which is largely tragic and somewhat worth avoiding,
and that some people can be falsely made to think they are transgender
by undue prompting from bad actors, and this might cause such untold
harms as transition regret, or unnecessary bullying.
I often make jokes about how I’m turning my audience transgender, or
that trans people will outbreed cis people, because I’m trying to
challenge people to think about gender norms, and out of pride for being
a girl with a dinghy, because most of the time otherwise, talk about us
is very negative. I am overcompensating for a deficiency in
humanization.
Some people read these jokes as serious. I don’t think they’re acting in
good faith.
As to the people who condemn a so called, overactive egg breaking
culture, it’s hard to know quite what all their varying motives are.
Some of them might characterize trans people who try to “crack eggs” as
people who pathologically infect everyone with the trans disease, who
try to make trans-ness where none exists, and confuse and harm perfectly
happy “cis” normal children.
Some of them might assert that transgender people present a false answer
to natural gender deviance, and that medical treatment is regrettable
and something to be avoided.
Let us examine some of the assumptions that might be at the core of such
thinking.
1. Our sex is purely a physical biological distinction, divergence from
that is undesirable.
2. Our societal ideas of gender represent some innate truth about our
biology.
3. Transgenderism is a rare, regrettable thing, that should be avoided.
4. Transness, or questioning gender, is like a disease, that can be
spread to others, particularly children, so it’s best to make them avoid
it.
5. Transgender people are predators who want to trans your children.
6. That transgender people are sick, and project their problems onto
normal healthy people.
I think such views are ignorant, wrong, harmful, and motivated by
underlying transphobia.
Do you disagree? Have you had a trans person be too imposing on you?
Have you heard about or seen it happening to someone else?
Well, first of all, I’m sorry that happened to you, or your friend. but
you need to consider that you or your friend can easily disregard the
opinions of people whose insights don’t apply to you. Life is full of
people with too much zeal, it has little to do with transgender people
specifically. Consider turning that angst, into compassion, for someone
who is clearly suffering identity issues, after a lifetime of abuse, or
neglect.
The truth is. and I’m sorry to have to break it to you like this. This
isn’t a problem in the real world. You’re over applying some personal
experience, from one place and time, to a world of 8 billion people.
What is incredible here is. well, the zeal with which people will
express the completely average transphobic views that surround them, as
if they’re doing something brave and controversial, but also, the
projection on full display here. Trans people are supposedly spreading
around our illness, when in reality, a society of cis people have
silently collaborated to erase and repress us for a long time.
What do I mean by that?
What is actually going on in this world?
Sorry to go all trans 101 for those who already know.
When you are born, you are labelled a boy or girl, by the doctors and
your family, based on your genitals. Your genes probably aren’t checked
for intersex conditions.
1 in 100 people are born intersex, with chromosomes, hormones and
genitals which may be different from expectation, and yet, taking a look
at the genitals is considered scientifically and socially adequate for
your future health, despite intersex conditions being relevant to many
medical treatments. You could be intersex right now, and not even know
it.
Continuing on, If you are visibly intersex, with visibly deviant genital
formations, your doctors or parents may insist your genitals be
“corrected” with surgery, to look more normative. By this they mean,
more like the cisgender ideal. Side note. Some small percentage of these
surgeries are performed mostly for restoring function. and they likely
will choose one of two binaristic genders to raise you as. Intersex or
not, you will be raised as this gender you’ve been assigned, while you
were a potato, until you come to consciousness, having lived in a bubble
of information and experiences that shaped you into what they want you
to be for them, you will be kept ignorant of the possibility of being
trans by exclusion of any reference to it, or purposeful suppression of
such informations, or through the experience of watching the idea of
being a different gender being mocked and demeaned in every conversation
and media you see growing up, or stories of LGBT bashings, until a fear
of expressing yourself, or coming out, develops. When and if you rebel
against your gender, or come out as transgender, you might live a life
of a freak and a pariah, enduring the lamentations of the cis people
around you, as well as the secretive fetishizing by those who understand
you only through porn, or having to be a secret for those too scared to
openly love you, and you may experience violence, either way you will
have to recover and stumble through a harsh life just for being born.
Every incentive of your life will be pushing you to conform, and you
will have to be braver than most just to survive it.
At least, this was a common experience of transgender women of my area,
and time, and still largely continues to be, in many places, all the
while were being told how much better things are getting, by those whose
allyship often consists only of saying those words. Who seem to
externalize the problem, onto some imagined archetype of an ignorant
conservative, instead of examining their own complicity and
responsibility. It’s sad, how many transgender people all over the
world, can relate to these experiences. It’s sad how many will continue
to endure such things as we wait for the world to see us as people.
This is fucked up. Under these conditions it is not deviant, and it is
not Transgender to question what is happening, it is normal to question
what is happening. It is normal to feel that the gender boy or man is
too restrictive and repressive on you, it is normal to reject supremacy
over women, it is normal to reject inferiority under men, it is normal
to reject typical masculine methods of conflict resolution, it is normal
to reject taking on all the unpaid childcare and housekeeping duties as
a woman. It is normal that you yearn to be free of it, that you want to
find who you really are, under the cultural impositions, that you want
to show others what you have learned. You are not Cis. You are the
unique gender you were born with, combined with what your life
experiences did to you, and what you decide to do with that. Even if you
are a man, or a woman, you are at least Woman#5896876759. Nobody else
has lived your exact life, in your culture.
We transgender people are told that it is us who push our values on
people. No. It is the so called “cis” people, victims of the same system
of gendered imposition and reductionism we are, who construct and
maintain a system of their supremacy, to get what little benefits they
can, in a world which divides us and pits us up against each other.
Sorry, it’s kind of hard to say these things without getting a little
complicated.
It is sad to say that “cis” women, who benefit very little from this
gendered imposition, are still some of its most ardent defenders and
perpetrators.
The “Cis” people who do this, on some level they know about the
transphobia and homophobia baked into every facet of their society. They
live in the same world you do. Don’t entertain their obliviousness. Some
of them are secretly happy it’s there, but would never own it, because
such sentiments are unpopular, or would get them labelled bigot. Most of
them benefit from this arrangement, as under the existing economic
order, people held under foot translate to more height for yourself.
It’s simpler to blame transgender people for their lot in life than to
examine abstract structures of oppression. Some can live in denial and
not think about it to some extent, but they are probably complicit,
which is why this arrangement continues.
Cis people. I know it’s hard to accept, but you have been abused, and
you are oppressed. and I know it’s cliché, but you have been
brainwashed. You’ve been told that what you went through was normal, you
feel fine mostly, but you have no idea who you would have been if your
society encouraged you to find yourself, didn’t impose any ideals and
norms on you. You deserved support in becoming a human being, not a man
or a woman in the current order.
Let me state this clearly. Nobody was, “cis”, in the first place, its a
social construct.
What does it mean for something to be a social construct? It means that
the only thing keeping it real is our collective belief in it, or our
actions to sustain it, because it is not present in the world without
us. This means it can be questioned, and it can be changed.
Men now, have little to do with men before, that’s because men now, have
known, and have lived different lives from men before. Same with women.
Same with location, and culture. Our gender is unique, and its shifts
through out our lives.
This is the reality that is being obscured when people understand the
issue as, “You’re either normal, and so you’re cisgender, or you’re
abnormal, and so you are trans.”
The problem with “egg cracking culture”, is not that people obsess over
their experiences becoming aware they were trans, or try to help others
realize they are trans, no, the problem is that a core assumption of it,
is that you’re either cis, or you’re a rare egg that will be cracked. If
anything, so called cis people need to be cracked too, but in a
different way, they should be brought to question the restrictive and
reductive gender roles they do not realize are hurting them, and that
they have been mindlessly enforcing onto others.
Some times transgender people do not share this view, and hold various
kinds of ignorant or transphobic opinions. I don’t feel comfortable
citing specific examples of such people. Why does this happen?
Like all of us, these trans people have grown up in a profoundly
transphobic culture, have endured the condemning and skeptical opinions
of cisgender people in their lives, in isolation, often from those they
depend on for safety and support. They may have been forced by
circumstance to make recompense with abusive transphobic people in their
life, isolated as they often are in highly right wing countries where
standing out or standing up for yourself can more readily lead to
deprival and death. An alliance may form, where these cis people will
not treat them too horribly, so long as they don’t make a stink about
their rights, or challenge them too much.
In an environment like this, where on the one hand they are being lied
too, that this oppressive situation is because they are loved or cared
for, and on the other, the reality of that experience as oppressive and
hurtful, some transgender people form a kind of double consciousness,
where they are forced to dedicate a part of their brain to intimately
understanding the inferior way cis people look at them, and people like
them. Such thinking can invade your internal peace, and overwrite your
better judgment. If they had the support and perspective to make sense
of what is happening to them, they would know that they deserve better,
and demand it from the world, but a lifetime of abuse can cause a sense
of lernd helplessness. So some of these trans people take a kind of sick
refuge in the kinds of dehumanizing views of their abusers, supporting
or advocating for views similar to them, as a way to justify to
themselves that how they’re being treated must make sense somehow,
because otherwise they would have to face the reality that this world is
harsh to people who don’t deserve it, and that the world is a cruel and
arbitrary place.
Also, having been mistreated their whole lives, some of them had no
choice but to put an inordinate effort into fitting in, and universalize
their success as a possibility for all trans people, mocking or blaming
other trans people for not bending to transphobic societal norms,
clinging to whatever sense of superiority they can find, to bolster
their wounded and paining self esteem. They may get affirmations from
their abusers when they spout transphobic views, and their environment
may become safer. They may also wish for a sense of superiority for
themselves, and so bully some of the only people they can, other worse
off trans people.
It’s sad. Some of them live well at the behest of a cis person who would
hurt them if they challenged their world view, so they cater their
behavior to that, to manage their abusers emotions for them, rather than
enduring the harsh long term process of demanding better from them.
Many of these people will change when they get away from their abusers
and meet a person or community that doesn’t treat them like shit, or
just over time, but some times in the case of a transphobic transgender
YouTuber, it’s particularly bad because they have stumbled upon an
arrangement where they are being monetarily rewarded for that abused
mindset .
You can make more money playing pretend for cis people, hungry for an
excuse to go back asleep, that transphobia has some hidden ancient
wisdom in it, than you can “sucking a few dicks”, or working at
McDonalds, and if you’re pretty, and you pass, that shit you’re talking
might not seem to affect you.
We must also consider what many transgender people endure trying to get
treatment, such as hormones or surgeries, to have their body be more in
alignment with themselves.
Depending on where you live, you may find no assistance available,
information may not be easily available, you may have to educate your
doctors, may be put on long waiting lists where nobody wants to take you
on. You may have to reduce your complex gender history, to a simplistic
binary one, for institutions with standards so high, they seem designed
to discourage medical treatment all together. Your medicine or surgeries
may not be covered, even in the case when that thing might be covered
for “cis people” for different reasons. You may be treated as an
abnormal person with an illness to be cured. So many issues will arise.
When a transgender person endures this unnecessary abuse of an
oppressive society, they can either accept that they were born into a
cruel empty world that needs progress, change feeling too big a prospect
for an individual, or they can rationalize that this process must make
sense somehow. This is why you get transgender people defending this
arrangement. I sympathize with some doctors, as they are often following
really shitty legalistic state guideline, and would otherwise compromise
their whole careers, but it’s still wrong, and blatantly transphobic.
Often we are framed as tragic miserable individuals, who hate our body
and ourselves. The truth is. the primary sad thing about being trans, is
the garbage way you’re treated, by others, and medical professionals.
Yes, feeling that your physical body is out of alignment with who you
are, or were meant to be, is awful, but such feelings would be avoided
in a culture that did not enforce rigid harmful gender binaries on
everyone, that accommodated children’s full range of expression, and
reserved medical treatment for the few that want it.
I wish I had inherited a world where transgender people were normal and
visible, where I was told I would be loved and accepted no matter what,
and that estrogen treatment was waiting for me. Instead, I have been
forced to be the archetype of the suffering dysphoric being that cis
people so readily understand us as. My body is out of alignment with my
internal self, I feel hopeless to ever be seen as a normal girl as I am.
This misery does not have to continue. This ignorance about transgender
people will end, and we will look back on our history rightly with
shame.
Some times trans people internalize this medicalized idea of the cis /
trans dichotomy, because they’ve had to fight all their life against the
invalidation and doubt of cis people, to be recognized as a legitimate
thing, not “crazy”. And part of how we’ve achieved that, is by following
the rules written for us, by “cis people” who don’t want to be
challenged too much. In any system of oppression, some peoples feelings
and experiences are valued, where others are not, and this is treated as
natural. To these trans people, if the rules were actually a bunch of
bullshit the whole time, then we’ve been, and are being oppressed and
abused, and acceptance from cis people doesn’t mean you’re real, it just
means you figured out how to jump through hoops for them, that’s a hard
reality to face.
It is easier for most, to try to find a place of normalcy and stability,
than to make this world their enemy, as you should, especially when you
think, often rightly, that you rely on fitting into this society, to
live.
People are mostly what the incentive structures in their lives teach
them.
It is a conservative and fearful trans position, but it’s also a
profoundly human one. It cannot be solved through vitriol, only
solidarity, only fixing the material situation.
Its survivorship bias also. Lots of radical trans people who make a
stink about all this, are blamed for the discord they cause, and left to
rot, or die. What’s left after that process plays itself out all over
the world, are the so called “good ones”, who played along and achieved
the base material wealth to have the technology, energy and time, to put
their opinions on the internet. The same is true with those who could
blend with cis people through expensive surgeries that most can’t
afford.
Every incentive in my life is telling me, any more deviance, and you
will probably die. That will modify any ones behavior over time.
I can’t get over the fact that all this shit I’ve been through, has been
my experience in supposedly one of the safest places for LGBT people in
the world. I can hardly comprehend what it must be like to be
transgender in a country that has been kept in a state of repressed
ignorant slavery for the benefit of countries like mine.
Going back to the more conservative types who have a problem with “egg
cracking”.
I suspect that conservative types think egg cracking is bad because they
can’t accept their kid is just gay, or trans, and it’s easier to blame
their friends for “influencing” them. What’s more likely, a parent with
bigoted normal views wasn’t paying attention to their child, or
transgenderism spreads like a virus?
Its also tied in with reductive ideas and fears about transition in
general, that children can’t be trusted to decide their gender, or
hormone treatments are dangerous, or society pushes transgender
treatment on people.
All of these prejudicial beliefs are founded in ideology, and not
reflected at all in the real world.
In the real world, people who think like them, occupy most of the
positions of power and influence that transgender people will encounter
on their way to medical treatment. We already endure great barriers to
being treated like human beings, and getting the treatments which are
shown to be beneficial to us by every study.
I personally fought with energy I didn’t have, against great resistance,
for assistance with my transition, because in this society, cisgender is
assumed to be the default, that must be defended, and we should only
“allow” people to transition, once they’ve gone through hell to make cis
people happy.
I want to emphasize that the people who do this, on some, subconscious,
unexamined level, don’t think transitioning is good, but they can’t say
that out-right, without being called a bigot, so they express,
“concerns” TM.
There’s also this idea that people are Detransitioning, en masse. An
absurd myth, peddled by powerful transphobic organizations, elevating a
minority of voices, shared around by people who don’t know any better.
In reality, deetransition rates are severely low, and a lot of
deetransition takes place because the person wasn’t accepted after their
transition, not due to regret. Either way, the majority of trans people
don’t deserve to suffer because a minority of a minority made brash
regrettable decisions, and institutions failed to catch or respond to
their hesitancy. It’s a tragedy, but not one that has any relevance to
most transgender peoples lives or treatment.
The people complaining about this are mad that trans people are even
allowed to exist or get treatment, but they cant say that, so they point
to 2% of 2% of people to spark fear. Stop listening to them.
My best advice to newly transgender people is to go to an informed
consent clinic if you can, if not, just go in with a good understanding,
prepared to be your own best advocate. If your country is particularly
backwards, just pretend to have a normie binary trans person back story.
Otherwise, there’s always the bitcoin bathtub hormones route.
In the midst of all this bullshit, you may find yourself wondering: Why
are people dedicating actual minutes, in the one and only life they’ve
got, to spreading this nonsense? Not only are they wrong, but there are
a thousand things more worthy of our time and attention.
There are a few reasons, and for these I may have to get a bit more
complex in my political analysis.
For one, Liberal Capitalism can’t survive if all working people are
aiming at the same target.
For those who don’t know, capitalism is an economic system where
individuals can own workplace or rental property to make passive income
by exploiting others, liberalism is the government that violently
protects that arrangement.
It helps to think of this system as having a mind of it’s own, as doing
whatever it can, to perpetuate its own existence and power. And so it
reacts to social forces that rise against it by changing shape to
redirect hatred away from those actually responsible for societies ills,
and towards scapegoatable minorities. This manifests in societal
ideology which normalizes and privileges people who are in line with
it’s interests. The people who think it’s important to challenge
transgender acceptance do not realize they are pawns of a system.
Everything I’ve just said is extremely abstract, I’m going to try to
flesh it out so you can understand better.
Here is a simple example many will be familiar with. In Germany, when
the Nazis took power, they blamed and persecuted every minority group
except those who were actually responsible for their societies ills. The
capitalists.
For two, on the internet, you’re seeing the highly idiosyncratic views
of individuals, expressed with the emphasis that they are widely valid,
relevant concerns and facts about society, as most of us overestimate
the importance of our personal concerns for society in general. In this
flurry of hot takes, from people whose unique pathologies,
eccentricities and lives cannot be seen as easily as their typed words,
it can be hard to make sense of the noise, and discern an accurate
picture of reality.
It helps to know that the internet skews towards strong or extreme
opinions. Not only do the apathetic, tired and moderate not feel
strongly enough to say something, the rejects in society flock to a
space like the internet, where they can be anonymous, or indulge in
fantasies of being cool or powerful. People of any measured emotion or
opinion withdraw from “Online Discourse”, whose character then reflects
the endless dance of half informed people, living with unchecked liberal
biases, from which the public of newly blossoming leftists draw mediocre
conclusions on every matter.
Unfortunately, online discourse is largely just the loud bickering of
those on the upward climb of the Dunning Kruger Effect, and the bigoted
opinions in these discourses are continuously uplifted and supported
because controversy earns engagement on social media, and many cis
people are looking for comforting re assurance in their ignorance and
bigotry, because it’s easier then realizing their whole life is a lie.
That’s a guilty and existential thought process, humans aren’t so good
at facing those, especially when liberal capitalism provides us with so
many products and media experiences to avoid facing our demons.
Thirdly, all of us are processing our ignorance’s and prejudices in real
time, and with the internet, for the first time in history, we are able
to peer into the ignorant and confused minds of millions of people
coming into self awareness. How we react to them, and their fucking
arrogant stupid takes, hopefully with the patience and kindness they’ll
never show us, is what determines if they will choose the road to
enlightenment, or fascist woo. Unfortunately, capitalist social media
are designed to promote conflict and division, but I also think that
these conflicts can influence and change people once they re calibrate
their brains and adapt them for online life.
And lastly, our brains have been poisoned by living illusory lives of
peace and stability, built on the wealth extracted from the global poor
by our local empires, so our sense of reality, and our sense of
priority, what it is we should be doing at any given moment, has been
severely warped by our socialization under liberalism. For most of us
that “means” mindlessly following the path of least resistance that has
been constructed for us, by the powerful people at the top, who think
very little of us.
Unfortunately, it gets worse, as that living thing that is the system,
acts by deploying state violence to stamp out most resistance before it
can even achieve anything, through surveillance, infiltration,
imprisonment and brutalization of activists. Resistance is harder now to
start than ever before, but the whole machine is a paper tiger, my words
in this page are more powerful than it, it’s a matter of getting this
voice on the air.
So why is all this happening? Who does this arrangement serve? Certainly
not you. Certainly not most people.
If you have not heard this before, I’m afraid it may be difficult to
hear, and difficult to accept.
The construct of the normative man and woman, of heterosexuality being
the norm, of you “staying healthy” and making children, of the family
structure, it was created and maintained, and is enforced socially,
through lies and subtle violence’s, so that you will do your part in
keeping the machine going, to have your 2.5 worker or soldier children
“for the empire”, to be sacrificed upon the wheels of it’s mismanaged
economy, and fight the wars created by it’s excesses. This system runs
on blood. You need to wake the fuck up, and see what is happening, you
need to do what you can, from your position, to organize your local
people to sabotage this machine, or really bad things are going to
continue to happen.
Society should be structured on the basis of sharing and cooperation,
not private property, which is a tool the rich use to ensure that they
stay rich, even if it means millions must endure poverty. Of course no
society will be perfect, but we can do better than this. Clarification:
Private property does not include a home, car, personal computer,
toothbrush, it encompasses workplace or rental property.
You have been born into a system that doesn’t care about you at all, and
I know that is scary, disempowering, but you need to stop retreating
into virtual worlds, darling. Nothing on here is real, except what I am
saying to you right now. It is up to you, and me, only we can find
answers to our questions, no matter how painful, only we can say no, and
make our stand against our empires.
Transgender people are fighting one part of the battle to free humanity
from their rule, we are questioning the foundations of their machine, we
are deviating from standard function, that is why they demonize us,
that’s why they make up shit about us, that is why they rally sentiment
against us to get us killed. We are the enemy of empire.
A lot of the shit I’ve talked about today is completely unimportant, at
least when compared directly to our task of overthrowing the rich. Most
of this stuff, and my video responding to it, is just the sort of
toothless liberal identity politics that garners attention right now,
because under liberalism, discussion of class politics is erased or
discouraged. This video was my attempt to meld together Identity
Politics and Class politics. A long tradition of Anarchists.
You may be tempted to say, “We can care about many things”. And yes,
care, we can care about many things, but we cannot, within the physical
limitations of this world and our limited mental energy, do something
about all things, at once. We have to choose a focus, and so I put my
time and energy largely into liberating the working class of material
exploitation and poverty, while incidentally informing them about
gender.
I am not interested in a stable normal life under liberalism, I reject
my countries below bare necessity accommodations of trans people. I
reject their propaganda that they are so enlightened and accepting, it
is a smokescreen for LGBT citizens, to hide from them what really
sustains this empire. Homophobia and transphobia are both illnesses,
produced and maintained by empire, to protect the order that enriches a
few into inordinate power. I demand more, and I hope you will too.
I’m sorry this awful world is our burden together. You will recover, and
you will do amazing things with your life.
I love you.
So, now that you’ve listened to my highly idiosyncratic, highly online,
niche opinions, if you liked them, please consider checking out my
YouTube channel where you can get more stuff like this and also laugh at
absurd ironic memes. Byeee!