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This is something for plurals to fill out to let others (especially non-plurals) know how best to interact with them, and to establish some understandings about communication. It is open for use by systems of any origin, diagnosis status, ability level, and so forth. You are welcome to repost this (including on other sites), remix it for things other than plurality, remove/edit/add questions, and otherwise adapt it as you need. No credit or linkback is needed, just don't be a jerk and claim it was made only by or for X Y and Z.
With special thanks to Plures House for their Rules of Engagement, from which most of this was inspired, and to Found Souls and various singlet friends for their input.
What do you go by collectively? (a system name, a shared username, group pronouns... etc)
kulupu keta
they/them
(more to come)
How should people refer to you? (should people address individual members whenever possible, or would you rather be referred to collectively, etc)
referred to as current screenname or collective name if relevant to entire kulupu
What terms do you prefer for referring to yourselves as individuals (headmate/alter/system member/...), or as a group (system/collective/household/...)? Is there any other terminology for yourselves or aspects of your experience that you use and want people to know, or that you dislike and want people to avoid when talking about you?
individually: plurans or members
collectively: kulupu or plural group
dislike: parts, personality
Who in your system are people most likely to interact with? (names, pronouns, short Twitter-esque bios, etc)
all the plurans might show up to chat. most common: Jae, Seli, Saje, Heather
see:
Will people be interacting with any child members? How should they treat them? Is there anything they should know when interacting with them?
Dikarya maybe? No sex/lewd stuff. Good vibes only
Are there any system members who are nonverbal or otherwise have difficulty communicating? What should others expect when speaking with them? (having other system members translate, can speak normally over text but will need accommodation over voice, etc)
sometimes but not often. usually passes quickly if so. patience and flexibility desired
What should people do if they don't know who's at front?
asking who is fronting is ok
Is it okay for people to ask if they can talk to someone who isn't at front at the moment?
no not really.
If someone talks to one of you, will other system members be aware of the conversation? Will they be actively watching, or just able to remember it later?
sometimes vaguely aware during but not really. wei have mostly shared memory but deal with emotional amnesia, so reminders might be useful
Adding onto the above – if multiple system members will be aware of a conversation, will they want to chime in? If someone wants to speak to a system member one-on-one, what expectations can they have and how should they communicate this? (for example, it may not be possible to block everyone out but they can try to pay attention to something else and not interrupt)
waiting for the pluran to front is the preferred way to get a 1-1 conversation, but something urgent is ok to ask current fronter. wei share responsibility and as such are willing to deal with things for each other when needed
How out are you? What should people do when talking to people who don't know you're plural? (do you have a “singletsona” name and pronouns they should use; can they talk about knowing someone who's plural in nonspecific terms, without naming you; etc)
there is a singletona but it's for offline. online wei are free to be more authentic
Do you have any internal communication difficulties, memory issues, switch triggers, etc that others should be mindful of?
emotional amnesia between switches so some memories are harder to access
our stance on being asked questions? (about personal experience, preferences, plurality in general, etc)
love it, ask away
Is there anything else others should know?
na
If you have a FAQ or system site, feel free to link it here.
gemini://kulu.pw/users/kulupu.keta
Shortlink: http://bit.ly/pluraletiquette