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PAIN
Meaning and purpose
in the life of a Christian
The ?experience ?of ?pain, ?in whatever ?form ?it ?takes ?is
universal. ??Human ?suffering ?is one of ?the ?world's ?greatest
unanswered ?questions. ??Especially ?during the newness ?of ?the
Christmas season, do we become more and more aware of the mystery
involved ?in ?it. ?I'm not writing this article ?to ?attempt ?an
answer to the suffering question. ?I am writing instead, ?simply
to ?share ?some ?of my thoughts and experiences ?on ?the ?matter.
Also, ??perhaps by examining my mistakes, ?and efforts in dealing
with pain, ?you will have something to fall back on when it comes
your way ... as it inevitably will.
Just by way of background, I was on Cross Fire '75, the team
to West Africa. ?I ?spent much of the fifteen months we traveled
in ?pain, ?and incredible fatigue. ?I ?never really took it ?too
seriously, ??as ?most ?of ?us were sick ?regularly. ??It ?became
frustrating for me, and the entire team though, when my illnesses
outweighed my healthy times. ?The situation reached a crisis the
final ?month ?of ?team when I just couldn't ?continue. ??I ??was
hospitalized ?at ?the ?end ?of ?August ?1976, ??and ?due ?to ?the
persistence of a caring doctor, ?discovered I was the victim (and
had ?been ?for years) ?of an incurable, ?and ?oftentimes ?cruelly
painful ?disease called Systemic Lupus Erythemetosis. ?Lupus for
short. The cause, and the cure remain unknown.
I remember laying in the hospital in a state of ?dis-belief.
My ?head ?whirled with questions, ?but none so prevalent ?as ?the
eternal "why?" Why me ... why now ... why this? I ?was suddenly
faced with the reality that I would be dealing with pain on a day
to ?day ?basis for the rest of my life. ?In the fear ?that ?such
thoughts bring, I began to observe the attitudes toward suffering
in ?the ?people ?around me. ?Most of us view pain ?as ?something
alien, ??something ?to ?eradicate ?and be rid of ?as ?quickly ?as
possible. This attitude may be fine when you deal with ills that
are ?temporal, ?definable, ?and curable. ?But not all ?suffering
falls ?into those categories. ?What do we say to those ills ?and
accidents ??that ??leave ?their ?victims ?permanently ??disabled,
disfigured, or mentally incapacitated? ?We cannot simply dismiss
them. They are real, and difficult, and very much a mystery.
When a Christian deals with life situations, we must keep in
mind ?the ?fact that God is a mystery. ?He cannot be defined ?or
explained by our limited knowledge. ?Who hasn't heard someone in
desperation or grief ask the unanswerable "why?" And who had the
power and wisdom to respond? Once we accept that sometimes there
are ?no ?answers, ?at least for now, ?we experience a release ?of
those gnawing doubts, ?and become free to start learning. ??When
there ?are ?no answers, ?only questions for us, ?we must look ?to
Christ, ??and ?His example. ?Jesus felt. ?He hurt and ?laughed,
suffered ?and died as we all must. ?He was and is God incarnate,
sensitive counselor to our despair, ?as He has felt the very same
pain we do. ?C.S. Lewis, upon the death of a dear friend, ?wrote
in his book A Grief Observed:
"When ?I lay these questions before God, ?I ?get no ?answer.
But, a rather special no answer. It is not a locked door. It is
more ?like a silent, ?certainly not unkind gaze. ?As ?though ?He
shook His head, ?not in refusal, but waiving the question. Like,
'Peace Child, you don't understand."
The ?enigma of pain reflects the mystery of God. ?It begins
as a journey of trust. We can choose to accept and deal with our
frailty, ??or, ?like Ivan Dostoevsky stated, ?"If God offered ?me
suffering ?as a pass through life, ?I ?for one would ?return ?the
ticket." ?We can face, ?and even learn from the realities of our
humanity, or we can run from them.
Why ?must suffering remain a mystery? ?I ?can't give a ?pat
answer, ??but isn't it true that the times we are closest to ?the
Lord ?are those times we have no control? ?For me these are also
the hours of my greatest sensitivity and compassion to those near
me. ??It's ?only when our efforts to rationalize ?and ?eradicate
seemingly useless pain are gone, ?and we reach the end of our own
rope, ?we see Christ's strength available to us. ?If the mystery
were ?fully explained, ?there would be no crisis. ?Most of ?all,
there ?would ?be no need of our faith walk with God. ??Pain ?and
suffering are not some type of Cosmic Character Builders sent ?by
the ?Almighty. ?They are however, ?used by Him to strengthen and
cleanse our relationship to Him and to each other.
As ?Christians ?we ?believe that God's ?promises ?are ?true.
Romans 8:28 ?reminds us that the Lord is ever present and working
in our trials. Sometimes this is comforting, but often, the pain
is still there, ?and still very hard to cope with. ?Just because
we ?know we are living a mystery, ?and God is using it, ??doesn't
make ?it hurt any less. ?But so much of our suffering depends on
our ?attitude ?toward ?it. ?It's very human, ??and ?necessary ?I
believe, ??to ?experience ?fear, ?anger, ??self-pity, ??and ?even
bitterness. ?We wouldn't be normal if these emotions didn't pass
through us. ?I think so often of one of my African friends, ?who
when I reached a high pitched frustration, would always shake his
head and say, ?"Kristi, it will pass." It will pass. Fear, ?and
all ?of the so-called "negative" ?emotions that follow it can ?be
healthy, ?normative, ?and even creative forces in our lives. ??A
well balanced emotional human is capable of them all. ?They only
become evil when we allow them to immobilize and blind us to ?the
lessons ?we could be learning. ?Personally, ?I ?have ?chosen ?to
concentrate on life, ?my life as it is now. ?I ?cannot wish ?the
pain away, or ignore it. It has become a very real part of who I
am. ??But what I can do, ?whether I am suffering or not, ?is ?to
concentrate ?on ?the ?health ?that exists ?inside ?of ?me. ??The
acceptance of my human condition, ?in the light of God's promises
leads to a fresh hope, and a new peace of mind.
As ?I study the Bible, ?I'm always amazed at the ?incredible
sensitivity Jesus has toward us. ?We humans, ?unfortunately ?are
much ?more ego-centric in our view of suffering. ?We ?mean ?well
usually, but never quite know what to say or do. In sharing with
a ?person in pain, ?or dealing with it yourself, ?it is vital ?to
remember ?that ?the ?suffering Christian lives ?with ?a ?constant
reminder ?of ?his/her ?frailty. ?There is no question ?that ?God
heals, ??likewise ?there ?is ?no question that ?we ?don't ?always
understand ?how ?He ?does so. ?Ours is not a total ?theology ?of
glory. We live, as Martin Luther puts it, ?"In the shadow of the
Cross." ??We ?must take this cross seriously, ?with all of ?it's
implications. There is no victory without defeat, ?glory without
shame, ?or health without suffering. ?For example; I ?cannot say
that I have been healed of my disease. (Not yet anyway) I can say
however, ?that I have been healed of many other things through my
disease. ??I've ?never felt as loved as when I discovered I ?had
Lupus. I saw Christ alive through the caring of His church, ?and
I ??experienced ?firsthand ?the ?sensitivity ?and ?faith ?of ?His
followers. Healing with suffering ... victory, in the shadows.
I'd ?like to tell you that I accept and trust at all ?times,
but ?I ?can't. ?I'm human. ?When I'm in pain, ??I'm ?constantly
reminded ?of my mortality. ?But, ?I'm also reminded that in ?the
shadow (or light?) ?of the cross, and God's promise of redemption
through Christ, there is hope.
In ?closing ?out my thoughts, ?I ?think ?it's ?important ?to
mention ?a little bit on the practical side of sensitivity to the
suffering person. I ?believe the most important attitude you can
take is honesty. ?A ?person is rarely alone in their pain. ??If
there ?are people around who care, ?they will be suffering ?also.
If ?you ?find ?yourself in that boat, ?don't be afraid ?to ?admit
you're afraid. Be honest about your feelings, hurts, ?and fears.
If ?you're ?angry or confused, ?talk about it, ??it ?helps. ??Be
supportive ?of the suffering person, ?but don't pity them. ??Let
them know you care by being yourself, ?that is after all who they
love and need. Accept the ills of those you're dealing with as a
part ?of ?themselves. ?A ?very real part. ?Most of all, ??don't
underestimate ?them. ??They ?will fight the ?pain, ??fear, ??and
desperation hand in hand with you, and with our Lord.
I hope some of the things I've talked about will help you in
your ?trials. ??I ?hope it helps the next time you hold me, ??or
someone like me as they cry. ?I ?hope most of all, ?you use your
experience in suffering to grow in sensitivity, ?and that our God
will burn into your conscience your need of Him in health as well
as ?pain. ??This ?Christmas, ?may you be guided ?by ?the ?tender
compassion of our bleeding Savior.
Kristi Lee Hernmeir
NOTE: This article was written by Kristi for the Christmas, 1977
issue ?of the National Lutheran Youth Encounter Newspaper. ??The
article was written only a few days before Kristi's death.
Permission ?to reprint the article was given by Pastor ?Gene
and Ruby Hernmeir, Kristi's parents.