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Itā€™s okay to update inconsistently

There have been well over a dozen instances in my life when I started keeping a diary (occasionally digitalĀ¹, but more often, analog). Iā€™d write entries regularly (maybe even daily), sometimes for over a year. But always, eventually, Iā€™ve abandoned the project.

Recently Iā€™ve had a change of heart. I realize now that my shelf of half-filled journals doesnā€™t represent multiple abandoned projects ā€” it is a single project. Sometimes I keep a journal, sometimes I donā€™t, and thatā€™s just fine.

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Perhaps related to this, Iā€™ve drastically reduced my participation in and consumption of social media over the last several months. I did this to help with my mood, and itā€™s been an unequivocal net good, but there have been drawbacks. Between the isolating nature of parenthood in this culture, and the continued Covid pandemicĀ² I feel lonelier without my parasocial infinite scroll. For now, Iā€™m choosing to believe that even this is for the best; itā€™s like Iā€™ve cut back on empty calories and now I feel hungrier. But I need to find a healthy alternative soon, and Iā€™m not sure where to look.

Update

I wrote the above before I saw the post by Drew DeVaultĀ³ about losing interest in Gemini, or the ripples it has already started sending around Geminispace. Maybe the same impulse that took me off Twitter, and got me to finally deactivate Facebook, is chasing some people off of Gemini? Itā€™s hard to say ā€” I feel like all the cool Gemini users ditched those platforms ages ago.

Maybe weā€™re all chasing something that internet-mediated communities canā€™t give us.

Maybe weā€™re all sad and angry about how the past two years have played out, and anxious about what that means about the next two.

Maybe itā€™s just me.

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[1] I wrote about a previous bout using Diaryland.

[2] Not to mention the well-documented synergy between these ā€” the baby is still unvaccinated and thereā€™s no telling when a vaccine will become available.

[3] Stepping away from Gemini

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