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I'd rather have someone rant about something online than go out and live out
the murder they wished >upon someone.
Why in the world would you think that these are mutually exclusive
alternatives?
The "steam boiler" model of pop psychology has long been proven to be
incorrect. Acting and speaking do not relieve pressure -- or at least very much
pressure. Instead human emotions tend to follow feedback loops. Acting and
speaking angrily lead to thinking angrily, which lead to further angry actions
and speech.
The word used by psychologists for this feedback phenomenon is "refractory".
Anger is a refractory state precisely because angry thoughts and actions lead
to further angry thoughts and actions. It is not relief that puts an end to it,
it's fatigue.
Look around at people who act or speak out their anger and those who try to
moderate their anger. Who stays angry the longest? The next time you get angry,
try to master that anger by thinking objective thoughts. Do you stay angry
longer or less long?
Complaining about someone being anonymous to discredit them is an ad hominem
attack. Hiding their identity doesn't make their argument any worse and
revealing it doesn't make it any better.
Hiding their identity only make people more honest and allows their foolish
beliefs to be addressed and discredited, which may not have been possible
otherwise.