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Jordan Crowe
Prof. Elizabeth
COM 120 Intro to Interpersonal Communication
Sept. 20, 2020
​ The guideline I've identified as one of my weaknesses is monitoring communication. I've failed numerous times to monitor myself for appropriate responses, language, communication cues, and the meaning or context of the 2nd party's response and their relationship to the particular subject.
​ A particular instance of failing to monitor my communication dates back around July 2019, centered around social media posts and involves a controversial topic regarding social justice ideology in the programming profession, FLOSS (Free Libre Open-Source Software) community and Open-Source community. This specific topic was bigotry and sexism of a particular person named Richard M. Stallman and his past and present position in the FSF (Free Software Foundation) and GNU project. Some of his past submissions to his personal webpage and the GNU project mailing list consisted of raw and blatant sexism (jokes or comments) according to some individuals. These individuals sought to remove Mr. Stallman from his position inside the GNU project and FSF, as they offered the reason that his comments made others, especially women, feel unwelcomed and portrayed a terrible image for the organization.
​ Mr. Stallman is the founder and was a standing official inside the FSF dating back to 1985. Many of his posts or comments bothered none until the past couple of years as the social justice movement gained traction in the Open-Source and FLOSS community. I would like to point out that these posts were not actually a threat or raw, hurtful, form of sexism; they were jokes, though, not appropriate for the situation and slightly sexist none the less. If you are interested in reading more about this topic and forming your own opinion, I highly suggest you use Google and search for the terms "Stallman removed from GNU project and FSF" or "Stallman and sexism" excluding the latest (2019; Epstein) incident which ultimately led to his resignation from the FSF.
​ Personally I do not subscribe to the ideology of the social justice movement, which automatically put me on the wrong side of the battle. While reading the social media posts about the situation I was slowly becoming enraged. Of course during that moment I decided that I should express my thoughts; engaging in a hot topic with fellow tech members and failing to monitor myself. Without going into details of my conversation I forgot numerous guidelines that help form a effective communication between multiple participates.
1. I disregarded the fact that on the other side of the screen is a real human; thus I had utilized the I, It, Thou rules but, categorizing them as It.
2. I failed to observe their relationship with the topic.
3. I did not adhere to dual perspective.
​ Ultimately, this lead to a breakdown of communication and degraded responses from both parties. I did not complete my objective by stating my opinions clearly, effectively and the conversation did not progress nor was nothing noteworthy obtained or taken away from the situation. If I had adhered to the principles of effective communication and the guidelines of monitoring my communication the conversation could have slowly advanced to a more meaningful conversation between myself and the other participates. It may not have changed the ultimate outcome but our time and experiences would have differed for the better.
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