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One of the skills that would benefit me, yet I know not where or how I would cultivate it, is to gently disarm those who do not, because they will not, understand that what they see is a reflection of what they have seen first with their own mind, what is a projection onto the world of their thoughts, feelings and attitudes that preoccupy them. These people are too much work for me right now. They might not understand how exhausting they are. As emotions draw attention to spectacle, and self-examination is a rare trait, they solicit drama and will extract what drama and controversy they imagine is in an evaluative statement like: "I don't know what is going on here." or "I'm leaving early, this is not what I need right now. Have a good evening." I recognize that it's empowering to the ego to feed ourselves the notion we're being victimized. Objective onlookers don't understand the following though: "She's pre-occupied with her cousin and cat dying, her husband losing her job in the same week. Therefore her preoccupation is an attack on me because she's not feeding my ego like she used to." "This is your responsibility for asking to invite (and we agreed as a majority to accept) someone who tried to make a self-effacing joke as a response to someone's haughty misperception. Never mind that you on someone else's request retracted the invitation for space considerations." "The use of 'horrifically' to modify the statistic mention of 34 people murdered by firearms is understood to be an adverb of a 'shrug' as in 'what's the big deal'?" "So what about your forty-five minute surgery? Sure you and the dermatologist you consulted THOUGHT it was melanoma, but it turned out to NOT be melanoma. Why can't you direct energy to my losses? It's not enough for me to post about my losses on Twitter, I'll copy and paste them to you."