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Re: Leftist Dating Advice

I'm responding to a post by demifiend, and I share their sentiment that I might regret writing this. :)

demifiend - Leftist Dating Advice

First, I applaud demifiend for speaking honestly about a difficult subject. I'm hoping to see more posts like this: down-to-earth, human, non-polished and slightly vulnerable. Discussions you might have with your friends in a sauna, but not in public places. Not on the web, where everything has to be so polished if speaking with your real identity, or inhuman crap if anonymous.

I'm probably going to end up regretting having posted this, but it would be nice if leftists actually gave useful dating advice for young single men. You know, the sort of advice that young single man on the make could use with a reasonable level of confidence that they would be able to get in bed with an enthusiastic partner.

It would be great if *anyone* gave useful dating advice. Though I would rather focus on advice getting into a balanced relationship rather than just getting in bed. (I've been happily married for ten years. My wife and kids are awesome. I recommend family life to everyone.)

Alas, I can't really think of any good advice. I guess you could come up with different kinds of manipulation techniques and offer them as "advice", but how do you make a person like you? I have no idea, beyond basic friendly behavior. And having been a young man, I know that isn't very effective.

What sort of "dating advice" do I usually see from well-meaning leftists? An endless series of don'ts that amount to "how to not be a rapist". This isn't a bad thing. I don't want to be a rapist. However, I think I already have a good handle on how to not be a rapist.

I agree here. I believe people inherently know that rape is evil. You have to be quite impenitent to be able to rape. On the other hand, I believe we are all capable of that after the right kind of slippery slope.

But if I think of that hypothetic person willing to rape, I cannot fathom them listening to anyone. It's important that we condemn rape, but that's no dating advice.

This is a problem. If young single men are getting effective dating advice from right-wingers, it makes other aspects of right-wing doctrine much more attractive.

I don't know who these right-wingers are and what their dating advice is, but I don't think this phenomenon exists here in Finland. My hunch is that leftists have a much better chance of getting laid around here than right-wingers or conservatives (who are a rare breed).

I also think assholes are assholes regardless of politics. Granted, I don't know anyone from the USA, and I have no idea why anyone would vote Trump for president. So there's a lot I don't understand.

This is a symptom of a bigger problem. Leftists are too busy tearing down the kyriarchy to offer a worthwhile vision of a better world that's better for *everybody*.

I don't know of a political party anywhere that has a worthwhile vision of a better world. It feels like the world is broken in many ways and there are no practical solutions. This makes me sad and apolitical.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that being young is probably difficult to everyone in different ways and I don't believe in easy solutions.

Thanks for the thought provoking post to demifiend!