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Have you been there? Is there a way out..
Comment by theconstellinguist at 19/11/2024 at 19:17 UTC
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Yes, there is a way out. From a young age, my parent was very out of control of themselves so I naturally began to self-parent. The parent describes a lot of weird symptoms that, ironically, they projected their own psychopathy on when it was a product of self-parenting at a young age due to not being a psychopath/narcissist and not getting my needs met. This includes a lot of content on empath survival in a hotbed of narcissists trying to conspire for narcissism to express in the empath (they're really trying to orcii it out here) and that sort of thing.
My advice is to study it, look for signs of narcissistic logic, remove yourself from that environment, and if you can't, pad yourself against it using things that cover your ears, that keep you from interacting to much, and keep your head down to try to avoid interaction. If they harass you beyond that point, report it. They're aggressively trying to get you to express and keep you in the narcissistic fold because you make a good narcissist even though you don't want this for yourself because narcissists suffer deeply at the core level and have truly, profoundly miserable relationships.
Purposefully give yourself content that is low in narcissism as an alternative and report any aggressive harassment to keep you in the fold if you can't leave. Get as many non-narcissistic witnesses as possible, especially from people competent with logic and science whenever possible if you can't leave.
If you have one or both narcissistic parents, you're tasked with the exhausting and heartbreaking task of imagining and internalizing your own non-narcissistic parent. Some people do this naturally but most do not. It's exhausting and heartbreaking and hard but it is possible.
To start this process I recommend going to a library and reading autobiographies/biographies of people you deem to be relatively non-narcissistic but successful after you have done a substantial amount of research on what is and isn't narcissism.