XKCD 1325: Rejection

*Hover text:** Perhaps you need a crash course in taking hints. Here's your first lesson: We're not actually walking somewhere together; I'm trying to leave this conversation and you're following me.

(This is not the algorithm. Love, xkcd_bot.)

Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2014 at 06:08 UTC

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Comment by sakebomb69 at 03/02/2014 at 18:02 UTC

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All the places this comic was crossposted to tells you how much butthurt will be generated.

Comment by SqualidR at 03/02/2014 at 05:19 UTC

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I really love how he cuts to the core of things. I'm so tired of hearing this from my friends.

Off note: Was anyone else's HoverText a lot longer than usual?

Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2014 at 13:30 UTC

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Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2014 at 16:41 UTC

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Comment by trevdak2 at 03/02/2014 at 15:22 UTC

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ITT people who don't know the difference between 'guys with confidence' and 'assholes'.

Comment by garg at 03/02/2014 at 11:42 UTC

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To be fair, this could be entirely gender neutral and it would still make sense. Rejected women also make similar generalizations.

Comment by [deleted] at 04/02/2014 at 04:11 UTC

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Comment by nebbugvrok at 03/02/2014 at 22:12 UTC

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Kinda.

But there's a problem with this approach. It relies on the same type of instinctual reaction to a person's concern that is lacking in the first parties reaction to others.

If a person reacts that way to rejection they're falling into the trap of not treating people with dignity as some misplaced reaction to their own lack of insight. What they are supposed to do is to genuinely listen to and understand people on their own terms. That's how they get out of the trap.

The kicker is that they also need to be treated that way, their feelings need to be addressed honestly and with respect not just immediately disregarded as illegitimate. People not treating their others with respect is not solved by treating those people with the same lack of respect. The cycle must be broken.

Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2014 at 05:38 UTC

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Aw.. No... Randall, don't get into that circlejerk...

Comment by FuriousMouse at 03/02/2014 at 16:40 UTC

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If you are a "Nice Guy" you will be unhappy.

Comment by sparr at 03/02/2014 at 06:32 UTC

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I often find myself belittling others' judgment and lack of self awareness. The "I want a nice guy, but I keep choosing to date assholes" phenomenon is just a tiny slice of that pie.

Comment by ktappe at 03/02/2014 at 06:11 UTC

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This is the first time I think I've ever called one of Randall's comics complete B.S.