https://www.reddit.com/r/almosthomeless/comments/1j6aj23/im_such_a_mess/
created by spider-daikon on 08/03/2025 at 05:49 UTC
90 upvotes, 17 top-level comments (showing 17)
I'm such an idiot in so many ways, my god. I'd give anything to be anyone else.
I'm a damaged person, and I never learn from my mistakes.
I was finally okay, finally stable and doing well. I had a job, and an apartment, and friends, and a life. And I gave it all up because someone I loved KNEW how stupid I am and convinced me they'd give me everything I could ever dream of.
I let them call my job and my apartment manager and take me off everything, moved in same day he came up with the stupid idea.
I put all my eggs in one basket, and now that he's done with me he's throwing me out and I'm not ready.
I thought I'd be here for the rest of my life, or at least have more time and support to get on my feet if we didn't work out. He promised me.
Now I have nothing, and I'm going to lose everything all over again.
I have no savings, I have no job, I have no spot to sit until I can get those things and I can't go back to where I left. I don't know what I'm going to do, I'm so scared and so tired and so angry over being SO. DAMN. STUPID.
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Comment by Manslauqhterr at 08/03/2025 at 14:30 UTC
25 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Been homeless 3 times, what I can say is something you probably been told. But incase you haven't....nothing ever stops until you quit trying. Even when you stop, the world keeps moving with or without you. When your ina situation like this it can be very very hard... especially if your an alcoholic like me who made it even worse binge drinking ontop of depression....Best thing to do is just start by possibly contacting family to see if you can stay there temporarily while you build yourself back up, or contact your local homeless shelters along with applying for food stamps and getting familiar with your local food banks while looking for work. It is going to suck if you do not have a savings but in time it will get better trust me. Whenever your in a hole like this it can cause depression...and from what I have learned you need to get out of the hole as fast as you can.. because staying too long in the hole can make you go insane. I am really sorry for what happened, I have my fair share of mistakes I am also mad about..but beating yourself over it wont help, thats the past and you cant change that. Just gotta keep moving forward.
Comment by reaching2thesun at 08/03/2025 at 10:10 UTC
41 upvotes, 1 direct replies
i hate men jfc this happens so much
i feel ya. check out coolworks.com you can get a job in a hotel in a national park and they give housing and food with wages. its great, saved my life. shitty companies but hospitality b like that, its not a charity thing natl parks are just rly remote so they need to provide housing for ppl to come at all. the turn over rates high cus everyone is a traveler so youll definitely get hired
Comment by Eyeoftheleopard at 08/03/2025 at 14:50 UTC
10 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Last time I relied on a man was in the year 2000. I ultimately ended up losing some precious things because of it. Never again.
Comment by [deleted] at 08/03/2025 at 16:19 UTC
8 upvotes, 1 direct replies
A person can’t call your job and apartment and cancel it. Either he gaslighted you or your story isn’t correct.
Comment by Relevant_Ant869 at 08/03/2025 at 15:19 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
That’s why it was really important to not be carried away in everything they say because we never know the real nature of a human being. No matter how carried away you are you should still able to keep track or have an access on what’s the status of your finances because it will reflect on you through time that if you are able to keep it positive even those times then you were able to handle it well and maybe you are using some app like fina to maintain it
Comment by No-Mail-1077 at 08/03/2025 at 14:29 UTC
13 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Obvi I dont know you, right? But when someone says theyre stupid because of something someone else did to ruin their life, I completely disagree. Even without ever meeting you. You are not stupid because of someone elses deceit and evil actions. That being said, the other commenter regarding coolworks is a fab idea!
Comment by Schmoe20 at 08/03/2025 at 16:38 UTC
5 upvotes, 1 direct replies
If you can take your relationship slower and just hang out with people, ideally with other people around that you know and give it time you will see if someone is worth the option to move forward in their position in your life.
It’s kind of hard to get that groove on when people love bomb us and we are lonely and miss being in a relationship that seems it might be beneficial for us, but we got to slow it way down.
Too fast, too much risk.
Comment by interestediamnot at 08/03/2025 at 14:00 UTC*
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I'm sorry your going through this. Just curious but what do you mean they called your job and took you off everything? How did you lose it?
Comment by topseacrett at 08/03/2025 at 21:17 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Been homeless twice… what I learned is there’s usually some minimum wage job that you can take and build yourself back up. Imagine what 20 days of working full time can do for you and keep going. You can’t rely on anyone but yourself.
Comment by Amazing_Ad4787 at 08/03/2025 at 21:25 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
You can still love someone without quitting your job and him your lifetime savings....
You are just very naive. You will get better.
Comment by Forsaken-Rabbit-1330 at 09/03/2025 at 01:45 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I don’t know what state you live in, but here in California anyone who works in fast food restaurants makes $20.00 an hour. My soon to be 19 year old grandson works at Mc Donald’s and he makes enough to help his mom out with bills and groceries and loves buying gifts for his three year old brother and helps his sister out when she needs something. So he does pretty good. Plus he puts in a lot of overtime
Comment by toomuchlemons at 08/03/2025 at 21:07 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I've been homeless a couple times, Im bipolar type 2, and severe anxiety, and I'm an alcoholic and nicotine addict. The first time I took my last 2000 and bought a car to live in off fb marketplace, it was a total piece of junk but it lasted for 6 mos. I parked in a church parking lot mainly, it's illegal to live and sleep in your car in VA, but cops never bothered me, the church didn't either. I eventually found work and got into a place I eventually fucked that up too. Im still struggling with addiction, I got a room now, but Im not comfortable really in this families house. I tried shelters but they were all booked and busy. The second time I tried rehab which is great they set me up with Medicaid, and they had aftercare housing which helped people get a job and save money and transition to your own room/place somewhere. I left that after two weeks tho with my tax return. Just keep staying positive, try all resources, try to stay clean esp. if in a car bc duis. And something will come, it will just stay positive. I'll keep you in my prayers 💌💌💌💌 fast food places always need help, and they accept everyone. I worked at a McDonald's in dire circumstances for two years. Im looking for a job too now.
Comment by prettywildhorses at 08/03/2025 at 22:10 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I've been there 5 times in my life I'm 61 now and I'm so over trusting anyone, seriously you think you can you can't! Stupid stupid me for loving the way I do 😭
Comment by Mephiboshet at 08/03/2025 at 17:55 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Welp
Comment by FedBabyVani at 09/03/2025 at 21:27 UTC*
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Hey....I sold everything I owned in Orlando in 2022 where I know EVERYONE and moved to Upstate NY where IDK A SOUL and within 30 days had SECTION 8, an apt, help with the deposit, and medical and food...We are a "Right to shelter" state so they must give anyone who needs a place to stay for 60 days...In that time I can help u get everything u need to be on ur own here...U just have to live in my town for 1yr then u can move it anywhere in the usa....We also have a GREAT place not far away for treatment of ALL issues..Addiction as they do methadone, detox, the help with mental health issues, homelessness, their counselors are great, it's clean, I love everyone there...You can really stabilize in a place like here and then move forward with your life...Its just an option
Comment by SeaVillage7577 at 10/03/2025 at 05:25 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I feel this so heavy. Loving the wrong person will have all you worked for in ashes.
Having to start from 0 again is hard and miserable, but if you did it before you can do it again.
During this rebuild though I’m not leaving a door knob to someone to even attempt to enter until I’ve built a foundation that a fall can’t crack.
Plus relationships take time and energy to nurture, this time I’m only nurturing me. I’ll start giving it out again where there’s excess in my cup.
Lmao. Not in today’s economy. Nope.