-14 upvotes, 4 direct replies (showing 4)
View submission: Disagreement in /r/xkcd after Randall fires shots through the friendzone
To be honest, I think that whatever point that comic is trying to make, it does so poorly. It's almost like it wants to say that relationships can't develop out of friendships, and you're better off dating a jerk than someone who genuinely cares about you, because the person who cares might want more out of the relationship and that's bad somehow...? edit: wow, check out the downvotes. Lots of bluepillers and SRSers hanging around here, I guess.
Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2014 at 20:08 UTC
39 upvotes, 1 direct replies
It's saying that people that begin friendships solely for the purpose of getting into someone's pants (or more accurately beginning friendships because you're too scared to ask someone out) is in fact manipulative and creepy and because you're being so obtuse and indirect, to rub salt in the wound they'll end up going out with someone else more often than not. I thought it was pretty clear.
Comment by metallink11 at 03/02/2014 at 23:23 UTC
7 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I don't think the point is to say that the guy is an asshole. That's often how the discussion is framed, but Randall seems to be targeting the comic at other people who think similarly to the guy in the comic. His point is that your own insecurities tricked you into thinking this is a good idea and the problem is more on your end than her's. It's unfair to expect someone to redefine what they want from a relationship just because you can't get over your own self-confidence issues. It's not creepy, manipulative, or malicious; it's just unfair to make other people, especially someone you care about, deal with that when you could solve the problem by confronting your own fear of rejection.
Comment by pathein_mathein at 03/02/2014 at 21:27 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
There's no question there are valid defenses to the "Nice Guy(TM) critique" that floats around out there, but there's a rhetorical value to making the point sting.
Comment by ValiantPie at 03/02/2014 at 22:11 UTC
-2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
7 to 0 in one hour.
Yup.