created by Uhhyt231 on 27/01/2025 at 02:46 UTC*
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I know only people who have these set ups post about it but so many posts about being in relationships ( romantic or platonic) that serve you in no way or cross your boundaries and people choose to live in resentment over cutting ties. And I don’t mean people who are paying their rent or childcare with their mental health but people who describe a friendship or relationship as something that fills them with resentment but they stay. There’s no conflict resolution or communication just one person hating the other when they could just dead the relationship. I am not talking about abuse. I’m talking about people who speak about their friends, family, partner as someone they don’t wanna be connected to but don’t cut the cord
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Comment by BlueTeaLight at 27/01/2025 at 03:52 UTC
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hold out hope that they can fix the problem, easier to manage something you know than having to leave and face the unknown.
Comment by [deleted] at 27/01/2025 at 02:57 UTC*
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Comment by LTK622 at 27/01/2025 at 04:01 UTC
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Sometimes people get attached to the idea of what a person might be, or would be, or the future they might have, if only their partner would get past some issue or another.
Comment by StrongCulture9494 at 27/01/2025 at 08:09 UTC
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I think we often over estimate the effects we let people have on us. And then under estimate the severity of others.
Just always understand, in almost all things. There are more than just 1 choice. Often more than 2.
Comment by hannibal_morgan at 27/01/2025 at 10:12 UTC
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In my experience, open communication doesn't mean anything when they consistently lie to your face about things like consensual affairs and sexual assault, just general degenerate behaviour
Comment by No-Subject-204 at 27/01/2025 at 12:18 UTC
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I've known quite a few people that would rather be in an unhealthy unfulfilling relationship. Than be alone .
Comment by Masseyrati80 at 27/01/2025 at 13:01 UTC
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Some abusers are simply excellent at what they do: they know how to find people they will be able to manipulate, and then use whatever works to control that person. Some might simply fear being alone so much it's a big factor to threaten them about a breakup, others the manipulator can bind economically, and others yet are easy to threaten by violence or death.
Comment by ParanoidWalnut at 27/01/2025 at 16:19 UTC
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Sunk Cost Fallacy or Peer Pressure.
They might feel obligated to remain with someone because they've been through various life events together or share kids. Or their friends/family are close and they don't want to ruin that. Some are afraid of being alone also, especially if they've always dated and/or never had friends or close family. Being sad and single is worse than being miserable but in a relationship.
Comment by TheIXLegionnaire at 27/01/2025 at 12:52 UTC
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If you were dying if the thirst in the desert and you came across a pool of water, you would be thankful that you found it and begin to drink. If I later told you that this water was mostly piss, but was the only water for hundreds of miles, you'd still probably drink it.
You could also risk the journey, dying of thirst for hundreds of miles until you find another pool of water. Only for me to tell you that, once again, it is mostly piss