How to critique Self Righteousness without coming off as against "good"

https://www.reddit.com/r/SeriousConversation/comments/1iaigu6/how_to_critique_self_righteousness_without_coming/

created by Classic-Obligation35 on 26/01/2025 at 16:12 UTC

6 upvotes, 5 top-level comments (showing 5)

Not really sure how to describe it.

Self righteousness, both in the showy sense or in the arrogance sense, bothers me.

However a lot comes in areas where I can't flat out dismiss the whole thing.

How does one call out and address self righteousness behavior without sounding like your in complete opposition or are a anti 'do gooder'

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Comment by AutoModerator at 26/01/2025 at 16:12 UTC

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Comment by Amphernee at 26/01/2025 at 19:34 UTC

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Self righteousness is about a persons personality and how they deliver a message it has nothing to do with the idea being conveyed. Separate the individual from the idea.

Comment by Glittering-Lychee629 at 26/01/2025 at 20:12 UTC

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Usually what bothers us most in others is something we are afraid we have. I would start with addressing these things in yourself. And what is your end goal of calling people out? If it's for them to change and see things your way that won't work. You have to meet people with compassion and make them feel heard and accepted first. But you can learn to voice things with vulnerability that makes them think. Focusing on your emotional response to it rather than "I am correct morally and you are not" will yield better results.

Comment by SpecialistNovel3019 at 27/01/2025 at 01:30 UTC

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Logic + facts. A lot people suck at arguments because they use rhetoric and emotion, not logic and facts

Comment by Dirtymike_nd_theboyz at 27/01/2025 at 08:22 UTC

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Coming across as for good isnt as important as you think. Stick up for what you believe in and stick to your guns brotha