https://www.reddit.com/r/SeriousConversation/comments/1h4sqax/feel_like_crying/
created by First_Egg8255 on 02/12/2024 at 11:18 UTC
16 upvotes, 7 top-level comments (showing 7)
I’m not sure what to do anymore. I’m basically in tears before I leave for work. I drive a truck, so it puts me gone Monday through Friday. I started with a new company about four months ago. I love it here; the working environment is awesome. I’ve made the most money I’ve ever made in my life, but honestly, I’d rather sit at home with my family dog, no wife, no kids. I have plenty of family and friends. Yeah, I still feel miserable.
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Comment by JuneJabber at 02/12/2024 at 12:31 UTC
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Are you tired? You mentioned working 130 hours per paycheck. Does that mean about 65 hours per week? I ask about fatigue because sometimes when I’m very tired, the way I experience it is this odd urge to cry. I don’t really have any thoughts associated with being sad or anything like that, I simply feel weepy. Rest is the remedy.
Comment by Consistent_Heat_9201 at 02/12/2024 at 13:13 UTC
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Take the dog with you and give him/her adventures?
Comment by Newberry1337 at 02/12/2024 at 17:22 UTC
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It sounds to me like you’re saying that you’re lonely. I get that, and it makes sense. Being a truck driver must be a lonely line of work, no matter how much you like it or how much money you make. Having a good job is important, and being able to support yourself financially is paramount.
But those things, in and of themselves, are only part of our identity as humans being. Even the most curmudgeonly of us humans are still social creatures underneath it all, and companionship in some form or another is an important ingredient of happiness. The fact that you love your dog so much tells me that you get that.
As for how to cure that… you’re right that there’s only so far friends and family can go. It’s great when you’re around them, but once that high of being around them ends, you have to have something else to fill up your life. I know that your work schedule as a truck driver makes it hard to meet new people - something that’s already hard enough as adults.
Would you consider trying dating? It can be a tough gig a lot of times, but if you stick with it you might just find someone to share your time with.
If that doesn’t seem like something you want to try, are there any organizations, charities, or something like that around where you live that you could volunteer some of your time at?
I know that seems a little cliched and can be intimidating from the standpoint of the effort required to maintain the commitment. But sometimes, having something outside of work that makes you feel like you’re having a positive impact can go a long way in helping you redefine yourself as something more than just a guy with a steady job.
It’s hard to know what the best answer is, but something tells me that you may not necessarily be looking for a direct answer. I get the feeling that you just wanted to speak and be heard.
You are heard, my dude. You are recognized, and you’re far from alone in feeling like that sometimes. I hope you have a good work week, and maybe when you’re feeling up for it, try one of the activities above.
Live well, my dude
Comment by Juday_as_revenant at 02/12/2024 at 19:16 UTC
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The USPS is hiring tractor trailer drivers right now all over the country. Be home every night with great bennies.
Comment by 70redgal70 at 02/12/2024 at 19:18 UTC
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You have family and friends. What do you believe is missing? You know you need a job.
Comment by Spare-Practice-2655 at 02/12/2024 at 11:45 UTC
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You can look for another job or create you own by offering your services to local companies. I don’t understand why people would work tirelessly for someone else dream and not for their own.
It’s not easy but double. You don’t have to leave your current job, just start as a side hustle. Remember that you only might need a handful of customers to replace any salary for the most part.