https://www.reddit.com/r/Scams/comments/mhrmiy/romance_scam/
created by jthechef on 01/04/2021 at 09:30 UTC
202 upvotes, 20 top-level comments (showing 20)
I hate these people, my sister is in tears. This person or gang has been grooming her for a month or two. I sent her the info proving this was a scam and she is broken hearted. The money is one thing but to sucker someone so completely is so cruel.
Comment by still-at-the-beach at 01/04/2021 at 09:45 UTC
89 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I understand, happened with my old dad a while back.
At least take the positive that she at least knows they are scammers now, some people I think will never believe it is.
Comment by g00ber88 at 01/04/2021 at 11:18 UTC
73 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Romance scams are vile. Preying on someone vulnerable and manipulating them emotionally is a horrible horrible thing to do. I hope your sister feels better soon
Comment by Dolosolo123 at 01/04/2021 at 11:49 UTC
34 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I myself was involved in this crap, he is a romance scammer but he specializes in investing your money when he met me and my friends . Worst feeling of life inviting someone to your home who is there to shit and jeopardize your life, still trying to Pay back my friends for being fooled
Comment by Undrcovrcloakndaggr at 01/04/2021 at 12:50 UTC
51 upvotes, 2 direct replies
There's a really interesting paper recently out by an amazing academic that's examined romance fraud - she draws a parallel between romance fraud and domestic violence and abuse and argues there should be similar kind of support available for romance fraud victims as is available to domestic abuse victims.
Here's a link to the paper (it's open access): https://academic.oup.com/bjc/article/61/2/283/5959932?login=true[1][2]
1: https://academic.oup.com/bjc/article/61/2/283/5959932?login=true
2: https://academic.oup.com/bjc/article/61/2/283/5959932?login=true
Comment by Evil_Weevill at 01/04/2021 at 14:17 UTC
25 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Yup. Romance scams are awful. They're unfortunately also some of the most successful.
I work in scam detection for a bank and talk to a lot of scam victims. The romance scam victims are always the least likely to believe they're being scammed cause they get so emotionally vested in it.
These assholes know who to target and they know all the right stories to tell. So even when the victim is losing money hand over fist, they often don't realize what's happening until the scammer has gotten all they want and ghosts them.
Comment by [deleted] at 01/04/2021 at 15:14 UTC
11 upvotes, 1 direct replies
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Comment by [deleted] at 01/04/2021 at 14:12 UTC
10 upvotes, 0 direct replies
The tactics employed by both abusers online or off, sexual or financial in motive are the same and the people most vulnerable to either are the same. Those who are naive, those who lack confidence, those who value themselves little, those who are lonely and ill.
It's a harsh lesson to learn and one that risks jading the person but it's a lesson that has to be learned. Don't risk what you can't afford to lose. Billionaires can afford to lose thousands, millions, whatever but the average person cannot.
Comment by scarlettraven19 at 01/04/2021 at 16:02 UTC
9 upvotes, 4 direct replies
I’ve fallen victim to two separate oil rig scammers. I never send money or iTunes cards,but the emotional impact is far worse because it sometimes makes me think anyone showing an interest in me will probably not be real.
Comment by MexUsa1964 at 01/04/2021 at 14:35 UTC
5 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Is she a minor? If yes report this to NCMEC! ASAP!
Comment by humble-only at 01/04/2021 at 15:06 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Most of the Nigerian scammers..... Follow EFCC Instagram page, you will see..... Almost 5000 cases with group of youths do the scam job.
Comment by [deleted] at 01/04/2021 at 18:57 UTC
6 upvotes, 1 direct replies
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Comment by lovelychef87 at 01/04/2021 at 14:20 UTC
10 upvotes, 0 direct replies
There should be a special prison for romantic scammers and scammers who steal older ppl whole shavings.
Sorry for your sister glad she has you.
Comment by peacer75 at 01/04/2021 at 09:55 UTC
17 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I don't get how people do things for people they've never met. I hope she has learned.
Comment by Callmepanda83744 at 01/04/2021 at 18:00 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I totally fell for the same thing! I even posted about here awhile ago. So if she needs to talk to someone who understands please message me and I will send my details.
Comment by Napkin_Story at 01/04/2021 at 22:10 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Romance scammers are pure scum. I almost got caught up with one a few years ago. I was falling for it, then things started to get fishy. Did some research and found out about romance scams. The scam then became a scam bait. I messed with this person for almost a year making them think I was going to send them money. I gave them a bunch of false info too like that I worked for Harry Gash and Hue G Rection Dildo tire company. Dude didn't think anything of it either because scammers are dumb. It was fun times too.
Comment by FunkyKat2525 at 02/04/2021 at 00:22 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I watched a documentary on YouTube about a romance scam. Over the course of like 2 years this woman sent almost $100,000 to a man she never met. I couldn’t believe it. It’s sad really but also sending to someone you don’t know, is never a wise choice. No matter what they are trying to make you believe.
Comment by Alexgcryptofan at 01/04/2021 at 13:57 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Meeting people online without meeting and watching their behaviours in real life seems like a bad idea anyway
Comment by [deleted] at 01/04/2021 at 12:37 UTC
-16 upvotes, 0 direct replies
So she got the virtual cawk?
Comment by FearlessChannel at 01/04/2021 at 19:29 UTC
1 upvotes, 1 direct replies
How did you get the proof? My bosses daughter is being scammed and doesn't believe us
Comment by RSLily7 at 30/07/2021 at 03:42 UTC
1 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Did your sister get over being scammed yet? If so do either of you have any advice on getting over the emotional side effects of it. I just went through this and the emotions hurt more than the money lost.