https://www.reddit.com/r/ROCD/comments/1iiqpzs/how_to_not_confess_to_partner/
created by Low-Ad4756 on 06/02/2025 at 01:24 UTC
4 upvotes, 1 top-level comments (showing 1)
How am I supposed to stop telling her my thoughts when I'm hanging out with her? Unfortunately, when I think too much or get triggered, I fall silent and that's unfair to my partner. I am also dismissive towards her and not myself. I don't want to go into compulsion but I have the feeling that if I don't get any reassurance I feel bad and can't enjoy the time with her. What should I do?
Comment by BAM7114 at 06/02/2025 at 02:02 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I can’t tell you a solution but I can tell you you’re not alone! Currently struggling with this one. Had an episode on the weekend like this. Seems to happen more so when we go away and I’m constantly checking in with myself to see if I’m enjoying myself or if I’m having a good time with my partner. My partner hates it when I go quiet and it is unfair on them. It’s almost like I don’t give myself the opportunity to enjoy their company because I’m constantly checking in with myself and the relationship isn’t meeting OCDs high expectations. Have been thinking of trying to spend some time apart (not breaking up, just going and seeing friends alone) because we have been spending so much time with eachother. Don’t know if that’s a potential solution or just avoidance at this point