https://www.reddit.com/r/ROCD/comments/1iieuky/do_i_need_strong_feelings_from_beginning/
created by shrmtrgn on 05/02/2025 at 17:02 UTC
4 upvotes, 1 top-level comments (showing 1)
Im (20f) met a boy (22m) through online dating app. We met for two times and he is really sweet, ambitious, kind, funny and handsome. We share the same beliefs and he is really mature. I had a toxic long term relationship for two years and my ex left me out of nowhere. I had a horrible six months after my breakup. But now im healed and learned from my mistakes and how incompatible and toxic he was for me. My rocd started with my ex after one year in our relationship. I have some anxiety now. With my ex İ had really strong attraction infatuation and feelings in the beginning. It was like a fairytale. But now with this guy i didnt experience strong feelings but i feel content, peaceful with him. He is attractive to me too. People say you need to have strong feelings and chemistry and attraction, romantic things and stuff. They say love must be strong feelings and not a choice and this scares me because he is so perfect İ actually cant believe him. Do i need to have those strong attraction, chemicals and lovey dovey feelings? What is love? Isnt this enough? Do İ need to have strong feelings?Ama
Comment by coolsexypopulargirl at 05/02/2025 at 19:42 UTC
2 upvotes, 1 direct replies
i’ve heard from people who have been with their partner for many years that love isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice. you probably won’t always feel head over heels for your partner, but you choose to be with them and give the relationship your all anyway. and that’s how they define love