https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/1igukh1/missing_imessages/
created by fairydaudsted on 03/02/2025 at 17:28 UTC
22 upvotes, 4 top-level comments (showing 4)
My kid takes music lessons. She hasn’t attended a particular class since before Christmas break, but only actually missed 2 classes because we had other things going on, the other times it was because the teacher texted us asking to change the day, then the teacher wanted to change the time because she had scheduled repetitions for a show that my kid wasn’t participating in, and last week she cancelled it because she said it wasn’t worth coming for so few people and saying she wouldn’t be coming the next two weeks because she was busy elsewhere and offered to do a class during the break. To which I didn’t reply because I was getting fed up of all the text messages where the teacher kept talking about her commute, her other job, like that made all her demands of changing the schedule okay for everyone. I was sick of it so I just figured my kid would go back to class after winter break since the teacher said she was absent for the next two weeks.
But today I get a voicemail from the music school secretary saying that my kid has missed too many classes of that particular teacher and they’re “worried” as in we’re a bad student because they did say at the beginning of the school year that good attendance was important. So at first I was like, I’ll just have to show them all the messages we got and they’ll understand that it’s not just because of our bad attendance but because the class was not being regular. But surprise surprise, the messages are gone! I have the ones where the teacher says happy new year, and the ones where she asks if my kid is coming to class the two times we actually missed it. But I don’t have any of the ones where the teacher cancels or tries to change the schedule. I actually have one of my own texts replying to her saying we can’t do Wednesday because my kid has two hours of music and we couldn’t add another hour that day… but I’m replying to nothing?!
I never knew a sender could delete messages from a conversation in both phones!? Is there a way to get them back so I can prove that the teacher sucks?
Help me Reddit
Comment by emmeline8579 at 03/02/2025 at 17:54 UTC
4 upvotes, 1 direct replies
So…this will likely depend on WHEN they deleted the messages. Deleting it right after it was sent is a lot harder to prove than if they just now deleted it. Do you have any other Apple products like a Mac or iPad? If so, log in and see if the messages are on there. Do you backup your iPhone to the cloud? If so, it’s possible that the original messages are on there. The last thing you can try is contacting your phone’s carrier. Some phone carriers keep a history of your text messages. Even if they don’t keep the actual text messages, they might still have data showing the teacher text you first and responded to you. The data should have the dates and times that they contacted you. You could at least prove that the teacher was deleting the texts after they sent them
Comment by Scaaaary_Ghost at 04/02/2025 at 00:19 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Are there other parents in the class who can confirm getting these cancellation messages? Maybe one of them has the messages backed up.
This is super unprofessional of that teacher. Hope you find a better option for your child.
Comment by TheShortBus5000 at 04/02/2025 at 02:37 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Do a search in iMessage for the content of the messages.
Comment by hyundai-gt at 03/02/2025 at 20:30 UTC
0 upvotes, 1 direct replies
There is a setting in iOS to automatically delete messages older than X days or X months or X years. Check that setting, I'm certain this is what happened.