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Figure out how consent[1] was communicated.
1: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/didslp/today_is_the_2_yr_anniversary_of_metoo_lets/
Most acquaintance rapists incorrectly view the rape as consensual[2]. So, often you'll find it's not that one party is lying, it's that one party is a moron.
2: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acquaintance_rape#Motivations
Comment by Davymuncher at 27/12/2022 at 05:36 UTC*
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Looks like the menslib community is set to private so I can't follow the link see what you mean by figure out how consent was communicated. Mind sharing a quote of the comment?
I don't see it helping. Even if you did "figure out how consent was communicated," what stops the assaulter/rapist from just saying "I confirmed verbally that's what they wanted me to do first and they said yes, absolutely!" (Or the opposite, in the case of a false accusation)? It just turns back to being solely verbal testimony evidence, which is where we started.
I say this as someone who suffered sexual among other types of abuse in my marriage. My divorce lawyer basically said because there were no bruises or other marks, there was nothing I could do, and that short of installing video cameras and staying in the relationship waiting for it to occur again, there wouldn't be any evidence I could come up with either. Now I'm stuck with 50-50 custody and have to watch constantly with both eyes wide open to make sure her antics don't get directed at our son. If you know of a surefire evidence that's always there, such that it's never just verbal testimony, I and many others in this position would love to hear it!