https://www.reddit.com/r/OVER30REDDIT/comments/1g6b37y/honestly_33_is_already_a_whirlwind/
created by glitt3ry_gutz3 on 18/10/2024 at 05:43 UTC
12 upvotes, 3 top-level comments (showing 3)
I just turned 33 a few days ago. I'm thinking about so many things and I guess Im hoping for some encouragement, wise words and positivity.
I've been a musician my entire adulthood and being a music artist has been my dream since I could sing at 3 years old. I always knew I wanted to be an artist. I went to school for music and have had a very successful career touring and recording music. I'm committed to my career but the priorities of securing my future and working toward some milestones like home ownership, starting a family and moving to a bigger city are banging at my door. I feel that if I don't do "it" now, it will be too late for me. I am feeling immense pressure to have a musical career that can not only support me financially but be a means to do a lot of firsts like purchase a home, start a family and maintain a comfortable lifestyle that includes traveling and experiencing "luxury" but honestly nothing too big... just being able to have the things that I want within reason. To thrive and not just survive.
I am trying to find the balance of a fulfilling career outside of music that will not only help me fund my career in music but have the lifestyle I desire. I've seen this work for many of my peers but I'm afraid of losing my desire and passion to practicality. Pursuing a new skill set with schooling to achieve a license in a profession in order to fund and support my music career and lifestyle is ideal. However, I am having the hardest time deciding what else it is that I would like to do.
Would like to hear some encouraging words but I am also open to some wise truths. Be gentle with me please!
To preface, I recently landed a Japanese release for my debut album, am playing and have played some notable shows locally and nationally. I'm completely indie but I wouldn't mind signing if the right deal came along. I'm just struggling to see the light in it all and am feeling the pressures of my age.
I recently had a conversation with a friend who is entering his 40s and in so few words, he basically told me it's time to prioritize and think about what I want my 40s to look like because the next 30 years will go just as quick as the first 30. This is haunting me but I appreciate hearing it. It's true that I should be asking myself these things.
I don't own a home but I am in a long term relationship with an amazing partner (34M) who has been very supportive through it all. We even make music together. We are both pretty much feeling like the next year will require us to take many leaps of faith. But boy are we feeling the blues right now.
Any advice on balancing lucrative careers with your dreams?
Comment by aceshighsays at 18/10/2024 at 23:27 UTC
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spend some time thinking about what you actually want. not what your partner or family or society expects from you, but what you actually want. how do you define success? what would you regret not doing as you lay on your deathbed? what kind of regrets would you be ok having? have you worked on your values and guiding principles?
Comment by EFICIUHS at 19/10/2024 at 00:12 UTC
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Your friend is right about thinking about what your future is going to look like. As far as deciding what you want to pursue, it's going to sound sad but sometimes you have to go for what is attainable and makes you money which could be something you don't like at all. Start by researching careers that are heavily in demand and will continue to be in demand, see what it takes to get into those professions, how much they make, and what career growth looks like.
Comment by printerparty at 18/10/2024 at 06:32 UTC
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You should read The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron