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View submission: A Guide to Reddit Lingo
- A General Note Before Proceeding:
You should know that a lot of our subs dealing with intimate advice get targeted by trolls who invent scenarios for the “fun” of it. Reddit is still the internet, some people will always try and disrupt things. Some specialist advice subs won’t even let brand new accounts post there at all for that reason and require some verification first. This will always be detailed in the Rules where applicable.
You might find that your first post is ignored. Sometimes Alt or brand new accounts raise some suspicion and because nobody wants to either fall for a “prank” nor insult a genuine person, the usual thing Redditors do is to ignore it and move on. You therefore need to prove you are Redditing in good faith so my advice is to post sincere comments in a few recent posts before making your first post yourself. That way, if a Mod or someone wanting to reply sees your account is new and looks through your profile history, they can see straight away you are a genuine Redditor.
Always read the rules before commenting or posting on any of these Subreddits. These will be found in the Sidebar (on mobile this will be the About tab and Community Info found in the three dot “hamburger” menu top RH corner of your screen), any Pinned posts (these will have a lime green ‘pin’ icon on the top corner and will show on top when you sort the Subreddit by ‘Hot’) and Wiki (where there is one).
- Be Aware of These Issues
Unfortunately, many of the advice subreddits have become known for:
It has been said more than once that it’s fairly common for creative writing students to post in advice subreddits in order to see if their writing has traction, and it doesn’t take many posts before you start to believe that is indeed the case. However, those who offer advice tend to do so in good faith and generally aren't bothered if a post winds up being a ruse. After all, someone in the future in a real and similar situation might one day read your post or comment and find you have given them the help they genuinely needed.
1: https://www.vice.com/en/article/4ay4vn/reddit-relationships-fake-stories-authors
Unfortunately, Reddit has become a valuable free resource for many features editors of light news outlets. Press Guidelines[3] won’t stop your story about your girlfriend from ending up on Lifehacker[4], or your nightmare wedding dress fitting from appearing in a tabloid paper and website[5]. Don’t let this stop you posting your personal dilemma or horror story, just don’t include identifying details and preferably, use an Alt or Throwaway account.
2: https://medium.com/@davelee/a-journalists-guide-to-reddit-your-newest-super-source-fa250e967b97
3: https://www.redditinc.com/assets/press-resources/broadcast_2020.pdf
4: https://lifehacker.com/the-greatest-stories-from-the-am-i-the-asshole-subredd-1837987235
The first and most prevalent advice given is nearly always the nuclear option[7]. Don’t forget, Redditors are of all ages and demographics, coming from many different situations and cultures worldwide. Some have life experience, are familiar with nuance and genuinely want to offer conscientious, well-meaning balanced advice. Some may have little to no experience or even tolerance with the little compromises that come with long-term relationships and immediately jump to extreme conclusions. Some may even be of the opinion that no relationship is worth it unless it's absolutely perfect in every single way so it needs to end immediately and completely. And some just want to watch the world burn[8]. Remember that while most of us have potential to grow intellectually, some people are emotionally stuck at maturity level 13 for their entire life.
6: https://www.buzzfeed.com/natashajokic1/reddit-relationship-advice-therapist-review
8: https://youtu.be/efHCdKb5UWc
However, most people who offer advice to those posting in relationship and advice subreddits are those who have been through similar situations themselves and are posting from their own personal viewpoint. You should be aware of all the above does happen but that the vast majority of posts are from someone reaching out for considered opinions from likeminded people. **Make sure that you know yourself enough to analyze everything before you apply what you read.**
9: https://www.reddit.com/r/NewToReddit/comments/lw4gp4/a_guide_to_reddit_lingo/gtc5kmg/
- Relationship Sub Acronyms and Initialisms
Opening Statement
Immediate Family
In-Laws
Other People
Types of Relationship
Narcissists
Miscellaneous
10: https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/acronyms
Not all of these may be relevant to or used in all the advice subs.
- Subreddits for Self-Improvement, Personal, Emotional or Relationship Advice
https://www.reddit.com/r/ListOfSubreddits/wiki/advice
Raised By Narcissists Multireddit
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/helpfullinks
If you are from a religious family or community, any of the "ex" subs may also be able to help or relate to you (r/exmormon, r/exchristian, r/exmuslim, r/exjw, etc.).
r/AbuseInterrupted
r/abusesurvivors
r/adulting
r/anxietyhelp
r/askatherapist
r/CPTSD
r/dbtselfhelp
r/DecidingToBeBetter
r/depression_help
r/entitledparents
r/getting_over_it
r/hardshipmates
r/helpmecope
r/internetparents
r/JUSTNOFAMILY - part of an extensive “Just NO!” network of related subs, such as r/JUSTNOMIL - check the sidebars to see them.
r/KindVoice
r/mentalhealth
r/malementalhealth
r/momforaminute
r/parentlessbychoice
r/peptalkswithpops
r/personalfinance
r/raisedbynarcissists - this sub has a whole network of related subs, such as r/RBNLifeSkills - check the sidebars to see them.
r/selfhelp
r/selfimprovement
r/socialskills
r/therapy
r/toastme
r/traumatoolbox
r/venting
- Subreddits Not Mentioned Above
There will be many more subreddits out there and some resources to find them include:
r/listofsubreddits
https://www.reddit.com/r/findareddit/wiki/directory[11] Directory Of Subreddits. Please use this page first before submitting a request on r/findareddit.
11: https://www.reddit.com/r/findareddit/wiki/directory
https://www.reddit.com/r/findareddit/wiki/howtofindasubreddit[12] This guide is assuming that you have a Reddit in mind; either a Reddit you've been to before, or simply a Reddit of a specific type that you want to find.
12: https://www.reddit.com/r/findareddit/wiki/howtofindasubreddit
www.reddit.com/subreddits Exactly what it says it is. Subreddits. Lots of them in alphabetical order.
Useful Links, Resources and Subreddits: Special Note[13].
13: https://www.reddit.com/r/NewToReddit/comments/lw4gp4/a_guide_to_reddit_lingo/gtc2rbz/
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