https://www.reddit.com/r/NewParents/comments/1i9n7m7/kick_out_the_baby/
created by Lower-Jaguar1887 on 25/01/2025 at 13:43 UTC
123 upvotes, 353 top-level comments (showing 25)
I know the recommendation is to have baby in your room for 6 months to 1 year but curious when everyone put their little ones to their own room?
Since the risk of SIDS dramatically decreases at 4 months, I was thinking of trying to wait until then, however we're at 3 months and ready for her to go. Her grunting wakes me and my husband and honestly I probably soothe her far too soon because I'm convinced she's awake.
When do you move your baby? Did you notice improved sleep? Did you use a monitor or just hear them with the doors open? Thanks!
Comment by minnie2020 at 25/01/2025 at 14:42 UTC
86 upvotes, 1 direct replies
We’re at 9.5 months and still in our room. It just makes it easier for our one middle of the night feed. I’m also going to be sad when we move her!
Comment by KizerAmie85 at 25/01/2025 at 14:31 UTC
424 upvotes, 14 direct replies
My baby has taken over our bed. He owns the house now
Comment by ElkMotor2062 at 25/01/2025 at 14:08 UTC
25 upvotes, 4 direct replies
I think it was around 6-7 months he was getting too big for his bassinet so we moved him to his crib. he slept better and so did we, funny ish story. His first night in his crib we woke up at around 6am because he hadn’t made a sound all night, checked the baby monitor and he was facedown face buried in the mattress, full on panic attack thinking our baby was dead….nope, sound asleep he will be one next week and we still find him sleeping like that
Comment by Key_Challenge893 at 25/01/2025 at 13:52 UTC
168 upvotes, 9 direct replies
I moved my baby after his 4 month pediatrician visit. He was getting too big and rolling around in his bassinet. I noticed an immediate improvement in sleep. My noises stopped waking him up and vice versa. He was also happy to have so much more room. I also just have the baby monitor next to my bed with both our doors open as well. We also bought an owlet, but that’s a to each their own kind of thing.
Comment by Rmaya91 at 25/01/2025 at 14:07 UTC
22 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I moved my baby into her own room at 5.5 months. She’s a super light sleeper and every movement and sound would wake her up. She wasn’t sleeping well and neither were we so we realized ultimately that the best thing for both of us was to have her sleep in her crib at night
Comment by SquatsAndAvocados at 25/01/2025 at 14:06 UTC
99 upvotes, 5 direct replies
Baby is 13 months old and we’re still room sharing. She’s probably been ready since about 9-10 months, we can tell we are contributing to lighter sleep with our sounds, but we have limited space. We are in the process of buying a home and will move her into her own room when we close next month.
Comment by bunnyswan at 25/01/2025 at 14:16 UTC
29 upvotes, 0 direct replies
11 months and still room sharing. She got dramatically less grunty after 4 months
Comment by CrazyElephantBones at 25/01/2025 at 13:54 UTC
13 upvotes, 2 direct replies
We moved the crib into our room at 4 months , it barely fit but I wasn’t ready. Then at 6 1/2 months we put her in her crib in her room
Comment by kevofasho at 25/01/2025 at 14:07 UTC
52 upvotes, 3 direct replies
Probably around 2 weeks. We started doing shifts instead so he stayed in the living room with one of us up with him. He started sleeping through the night around 2 months, so we’d leave him in his bassinet with it positioned just outside our bedroom door. He outgrew the bassinet around 4 months, that’s when we moved him into his crib in the nursery. He’s 6 months now and everything’s going great.
Comment by Yoshi2222222 at 25/01/2025 at 14:52 UTC
28 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Still haven’t and she is almost two years lol. I like having her in her bed next to me and she doesn’t wake me up.
Comment by Puzzled-Cranberry-12 at 25/01/2025 at 13:59 UTC
33 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Both my kids we ended up moving after one month. We had a video and sound monitor in the room. While I’m still nervous about my youngest (2months) sleeping alone, she was getting very congested in our room. Old carpet and a fan.
We can do our jobs better as parents when we sleep well. Both our kids were super noisy as infants!
Comment by Proud_Sprinkles4535 at 25/01/2025 at 15:25 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
We actually just moved him last night he just turned 4m. He’s been cosleeping for the last couple months out of desperation. lol. Last night he slept so well, we didn’t cause we were checking the monitor so much. But definitely worth it
Comment by Key_Elderberry_8566 at 25/01/2025 at 17:23 UTC
19 upvotes, 1 direct replies
3 weeks. Couldn’t sleep through the noises and was already trucking back and forth to the nursery for feedings and changes. He was right next door so we could still hear him fuss without the monitor.
Comment by psycheraven at 25/01/2025 at 14:07 UTC*
21 upvotes, 1 direct replies
We moved her pretty early, maybe 6 weeks? She would nap well in the crib and the bassinet might as well have been lava, so we went with it because we have a really good audio/video baby monitor (vtech), sleep with doors open, and her room is just a couple steps down a short hallway.
Comment by yeahnostopgo at 25/01/2025 at 13:59 UTC
20 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Moved him out at 3 months. Still was waking up 5-7 times a night but getting him used to the crib was really useful because I sleeptrained him at 4 months and it was not that bad because he was already used to some independence/distance
Didn’t really use a monitor his room is right next to ours so even with doors closed I can hear his cries, just not the grunts and whines haha
Comment by glitterandvodka_ at 25/01/2025 at 14:12 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
7 months. He was getting too big for the Next2Me and we started to find that we were disturbing each other
Comment by enchanted_honey at 25/01/2025 at 15:31 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I think it really depends on what works best for you. I waited til my son was ten months and because of other circumstances he’s been sleeping in my bed and refusing to sleep in his crib. I see a lot of benefits in hindsight to getting him used to sleeping in his own room earlier
Comment by RangerBoss at 25/01/2025 at 16:00 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
10 months. I just wasn’t ready to move him before that. I haven’t noticed much change since we moved him either. He wakes up about 1-2 times a night regardless!
Comment by SteveNotAlan at 25/01/2025 at 17:31 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Moved her at 9 months. I sleep worse with the monitor than I do with her near me but my husband was struggling. I started splitting my nights and room sharing in the nursery for the second half of her night when she needed more comfort/ support to finish her sleep and wake up happy. She's never slept through the night and a 5 hr block has been a rare occurrence over the past 16 months so a hybrid approach has maximized my sleep while helping give her what she needs.
Comment by Suspicious_Rope5934 at 25/01/2025 at 16:38 UTC
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Literally day 3 of his life 😂 i do not understand how you’re supposed to keep them in your room for 6 months? No one, neither the baby nor the parents, would sleep well at all???
For full context, I was EFF and hired a night doula - she was here every other night for 6 weeks, and she stayed in the room with him. And on the other nights, my husband and I took shifts staying in the room directly across from the nursery. With both bedroom doors open, we could hear when he woke up, but not necessarily every little sound he made in his sleep. It worked great for us. If we have another child, we will do it this way again.
Comment by OTPanda at 25/01/2025 at 14:10 UTC
6 upvotes, 1 direct replies
We moved our little guy out at 3 months. It started as “oh let’s just get him used to sleeping in the crib a few hours and we will move him back his next wake up” but then he immediately slept for 10 straight hours and we never looked back
I am a rule follower by nature and it does bother me to go against the recommendations but we follow every other safe sleep rule and had a healthy full term baby. He was also outgrowing his bassinet where he was waking himself up every time he moved because he would hit the sides.
Comment by Cocomuycaliente at 25/01/2025 at 16:48 UTC
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at 2 weeks old
Comment by Waste_Complex7913 at 25/01/2025 at 13:54 UTC*
17 upvotes, 1 direct replies
My son is three months old. We kicked him out when he was just shy of 8 weeks, way earlier than recommended. We were comfortable doing so because he met a lot of the criteria that reduced the risk of SIDS (full term baby, breastfed, ABCs for sleep) so we felt that we had a bit of wiggle room with this one thing that's really more of a recommendation.
Our bedroom is separated from his by just one wall. We keep both doors open and have the monitor on with the sound off to keep an eye on him. I hear him every time he cries or yells, but am blissfully shielded from his oinking, grunting, squealing, farting, and bizarre feet-slamming that would've otherwise woken me up.
I would seriously consider kicking your LO out early. All three of us immediately slept better when we moved ours. I felt absolutely no mom guilt about my decision because me sleeping better allows me to be a more present mom during the day.
Comment by Kasual__ at 25/01/2025 at 14:15 UTC*
11 upvotes, 3 direct replies
We had our baby in his own room by day 3 (aka first day home)🗿
Comment by Begonias_Scarlet at 25/01/2025 at 14:30 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
We moved him out at 2 months. We have the owlete breathing monitor and that made me feel a lot better about the whole thing. He is about 6 months now and I’m thinking of stopping the owlete since he’s a big 20 pound baby and sitting, etc (strong core and neck strength)