https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1ifvz15/do_women_fall_in_blind_love_at_all/
created by Just_Entrepreneur843 on 02/02/2025 at 12:13 UTC
15 upvotes, 15 top-level comments (showing 15)
I personally had 3 women in my life I could say I fell in blind love with, with about a 10 year interval. One at age 6, one at 15, and one at 27. I was painting them. I wrote songs and poetry about them and had romantic dreams. Those feelings were inspiring me to create, and also when I thought about ever having kids, I could imagine having them only with those women. They were so beautiful to me. And yeah to me they were pretty af but I was dating a literal miss Utah too (not one of those 3 kek) and I didn't feel anything close to what I felt when I REALLY was in love.
None of the 3 ever loved me back choosing "better options", and also I look at the current perceived state of the dating market and it's so difficult to understand how to be loved. Like, even if I had all the money and all success in the world, how is that even connected with someone falling in unconditional love with me?
Do women even feel that kind of love? Not because "he's from a good family and has a nice job and a social circle and runs a business", but just because brain goes "bro I don't care but here's a bunch of butterflies in the stomach and a coffee, sit down we recording a song about her eyes".
I'd think it was a teenage thing but I've had it at 27 lol. After our first date I LITERALLY saw her damn eyes for the entire night when I was closing my eyes. And yeah she just went back to her more expensive husband she divorsed earlier.
It feels like the whole social discussion about dating is about "sex vs resources vs abuse, choose what you're ok with", but like... blind fucking love. isn't that a thing anymore? I never see women talk about it. Do they even feel this?
Sorry this is so long but I'm curious what other people think of the topic. maybe share your personal stories or research/art, idc.
Peace.
Comment by Johntoreno at 02/02/2025 at 14:26 UTC
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Do women fall in blind love at all?
Yes, for Chad.
Comment by hendrixski at 02/02/2025 at 12:30 UTC
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I mean... this is a sub about men's issues. Maybe this is a better question for a dating sub?
Comment by kit-kat315 at 02/02/2025 at 16:13 UTC*
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Blind love is not healthy. That fluttery, obsessed feeling when you barely know someone is infatuation- the excitement of something new and chasing after your ideal vision of that person. It's delightful, but not meaningful. You might be able to fan that spark into love, eventually. But it can just as easily fade away.
True love is grown over time. It's knowing someone bone deep, respecting their values and morals, accepting their flaws, and wanting to be with them always, even through all the boring parts that make up the routine of life. Let's be honest, a big part of real, deep love is work. It's showing up and putting in effort day after day- not just the days when you feel aflutter with romance.
In other words, it's nice if someone wants to write poetry about your eyes. But better if they're a dependable partner you can count on to be there for you with support and affection.
I say this from the perspective of having been happily married for 20 years- and still in love!
Comment by GermanWineLover at 02/02/2025 at 13:40 UTC
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They fall blindly in love with 10/10 millionaires, yes.
Comment by BrilliantWriting3725 at 02/02/2025 at 15:42 UTC
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Hate to break it to you but romantic love has always been an illusion from the get go, primarily due to the popularization of Disney movies. The sooner men realize this, the better off they are. Love should be practical. Both sides have to bring something to the table and sacrifice for one another. If mutual respect is not there, the relationship is already over. That's why I can't understand men who shamelessly simp. They always end up disappointed in the long run. That's why arranged marriages tend to have better outcomes than conventional ones.
Comment by Former-Dragonfly2226 at 02/02/2025 at 18:24 UTC
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Definitely not. Their love is pure ‘cupboard love’, in that they only profess to love you when you provide financially for them.
Comment by Quiet_Attempt_355 at 02/02/2025 at 20:28 UTC
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I personally think "blind love" is a phrase that romanticizes obsession, which is very unhealthy and not sustainable.
Even if they do, it is probably equally accompanied by break ups & most likely results in really unhealthy long term relationships.
Comment by uoklai at 03/02/2025 at 00:18 UTC
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You’re looking for love that isn’t dependent on resources, but the system is designed to evaluate men based on their utility. Women may talk about feelings, but in the end, they choose the best deal. You felt this when the one you had a connection with simply went back to her more ‘expensive’ husband. The problem isn’t you, it’s the rules of the game: a man who lives for himself rather than to be useful becomes a threat to the system
Comment by walterwallcarpet at 03/02/2025 at 08:42 UTC
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There is no such thing as a man receiving blind, unconditional love from a woman. https://mgtowsolution.wordpress.com/briffaults-law/[1][2]
1: https://mgtowsolution.wordpress.com/briffaults-law/
2: https://mgtowsolution.wordpress.com/briffaults-law/
This fact is recognised by other women also (the more perceptive ones, anyway). https://machomag.blogspot.com/2020/04/women-arent-capable-of-love-says.html[3][4]
3: https://machomag.blogspot.com/2020/04/women-arent-capable-of-love-says.html
4: https://machomag.blogspot.com/2020/04/women-arent-capable-of-love-says.html
Comment by Kinexity at 02/02/2025 at 22:38 UTC
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Always remember the following - "Men are romantics pretending to be realists; women are realists pretending to be romantics"
I remember seeing statistics measuring whether men and women getting married thought about their SO as "the one" and it wasn't even close. ~60% for men and ~30-40% for women. Humanity would probably die out if women waited for a man they deem as "the one". There obviously exist women who blindly fall in love but they seem significantly rarer than men.
Comment by dougpschyte at 03/02/2025 at 08:55 UTC
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https://j4mb.org.uk/2024/09/04/warren-perkin-ms-patterning-shes-making-mgtow/[1][2]
1: https://j4mb.org.uk/2024/09/04/warren-perkin-ms-patterning-shes-making-mgtow/
2: https://j4mb.org.uk/2024/09/04/warren-perkin-ms-patterning-shes-making-mgtow/
Chapter 2 has the answer. Men are captivated by beauty. As a result, we end up SERVING the utilitarian interests of women.
Men and women process Scheler's Hierarchy of Human Values in OPPOSITE directions.
Male creativity arises largely from frustrated sex drive. There is no evolutionary prerogative for women to be creative. They know that the boys will come calling anyway. Particularly if they are beautiful.
Comment by Weekly-Ad-8530 at 03/02/2025 at 21:19 UTC
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I did have that, where I thought EVERYTHING about him was great. I feel like every person has things that are awesome about them, and if you truly love them you will remind them of all these things. And when I was in love, those things were all I even saw - but it took longer for me, he was first my friend and then one day I was just like - damn, this is a perfect person.
Comment by umenu at 02/02/2025 at 15:22 UTC
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Blind love in a century like this one is just dangerous. You should never love blind because you get screwed over again and again and again and again. Just look for someone you tolerate instead for someone who makes you lose your mind, that's the best for both parties, especially for you. I only chose someone's who I fell blindly in love for, and I have been miserable for the past 12 years. All that time is one relationship. I resent him, but because he pretends to be not able to survive on his own, I'm now stuck with mister incompetence until our kid is an adult. Don't fall in love blindly, and don't ask that from people.
Comment by DeepHorizon88 at 02/02/2025 at 14:26 UTC
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Womens love is more passive, delayed, and responsive to mens love. It also only occurs AFTER sex. Mens love is the opposite.
Comment by flipsidetroll at 02/02/2025 at 13:12 UTC
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Why would you ask men when you should be asking women? And you sound unhinged.
Just because you love someone, you feel let down they didn’t love you back? That’s bizarre. And 6yrs old, and 15yrs, you feel resentful for them not returning your feelings? wtf? One date and you’re obsessed? You are very childish. We love. But just because we don’t love after one date or at 6 years old, you resent us? You need hard perspective or you are going to scare anyone away.