https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/1iuk15h/weekly_free_talk_friday_thread/
created by MLModBot on 21/02/2025 at 06:00 UTC
8 upvotes, 5 top-level comments (showing 5)
Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!
We will still have a few rules:
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Comment by Oregon_Jones111 at 21/02/2025 at 06:02 UTC
12 upvotes, 0 direct replies
It’s been 31 days. These next four years are gonna be awful.
Comment by Xemnas81 at 21/02/2025 at 20:57 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
[Reposting from Tuesday, sorry]
I'm struggling a bit with realising that being a good person means often being comfortable with non-reciprocity. My friend and partner are vulnerable (both trans) and I feel like I've issues which must be addressed on outer rims of the 'circle of grief'. While my friend is (emphatically!) vocal about their oppression and bid for support, my partner (LDR German) isn't really opening up about it, is withdrawing, and gets frustrated when I don't get it (re: German election this weekend). So on the one hand I feel I'm having to take a lot on the chin re: getting schooled as their class and social consciousness develops with my friend; and on the other I don't know how to help with my partner. It's ironic that all 3 of us are heavily politicised and immersed in the news cycle, when I wonder if a better antidote for them would be if I were a little out of it and could provide the funnies and light hearted stuff. But damn it's hard to hide my own fear sometimes, given my own vulnerabilities.
Comment by ShadeofIcarus at 22/02/2025 at 01:52 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Hi All. I'm trying to dig through some of the resources here and elsewhere and I'm not sure if I'm missing something but there's a bit of a gap in the sidebar.
There's a friend in my extended network that has recently gone through a divorce. There's 5 kids involved, a few of which were concived non-consensually. Part of the issues of abuse that led to him seeking divorce was consistent sexual abuse and assault on her end.
I'm aware there's a huge laundry list of legal aid clinics available for women in this situation, but I'm finding difficulty looking for help for him on this front on anything focused towards men in a healthy way. He's in a situation where once child support payments are factored in, he can't afford the health insurance to get mental help and might not be able to afford the lawyer to fight for custody.
I think his primary concern right now is custody of the kids and getting them out of an abusive household. The law is clearly not in his favor right now.
Any legal resources that I could send his way would be of great help here. Even if it boils down to being able to inform himself of his rights.
Comment by Cosmic_Wimp at 21/02/2025 at 11:43 UTC
1 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Struggling with interpersonal conflict at work lately, and I’m not sure how to navigate it. It’s left me feeling dejected.
Comment by EaterOfCrab at 27/02/2025 at 09:12 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I don't like the latest Ministry song...