Comment by fartsondeck on 24/02/2025 at 23:23 UTC

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Jesus. We should all be so lucky...

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Comment by greyfox92404 at 25/02/2025 at 15:04 UTC

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It's not luck tho.

It's a commitment to making sure his spouse feels welcome to place boundaries and those boundaries will be respected. That he cares about her comfortability. It's emotional labor that /u/get_off_my_lawn_n0w is doing to create an environment where her feelings about sex are valued. That's work, not luck.

And in that environment, it's so much easier to for people to enjoy each other's sexual energy because it's always safe to do so.