https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/1i6c26w/tuesday_check_in_hows_everybodys_mental_health/
created by MLModBot on 21/01/2025 at 06:00 UTC
19 upvotes, 17 top-level comments (showing 17)
Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki[1] (also located in the sidebar!) ***(IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then*** ***please don't hesitate to let us know!***[2]***)***
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Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.
Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.
Comment by AutoModerator at 21/01/2025 at 06:00 UTC
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Comment by Oregon_Jones111 at 21/01/2025 at 11:14 UTC
17 upvotes, 1 direct replies
The second Trump administration is already horrific and it’s been less than twenty-four hours.
Comment by QualifiedApathetic at 21/01/2025 at 07:36 UTC
17 upvotes, 3 direct replies
Terrible. Everything is terrible.
Comment by WonderKindly at 21/01/2025 at 14:34 UTC
14 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Extremely depressed and despondent about politics. I want to fight but everyone has already given up. Feel like the only thing left to do is die.
Comment by Dull_Turnover_766 at 22/01/2025 at 18:27 UTC
6 upvotes, 2 direct replies
im 17. And I’m five foot five. I get bullied for my height. Girls don‘t pay any attention to me, and call me a little brother. Even when im taller than them I’m never. I dont know if I’ll ever experience teenage love. Im sorry if this is the wrong sub
Comment by ecoandrewtrc at 21/01/2025 at 13:42 UTC
13 upvotes, 1 direct replies
The guy I work near loves to play his conspiracy theory right wing YouTube videos out loud at his work station. I told him I'd buy him a pair of headphones but if I hear that shit again I'm cutting his speaker wires. I don't want to be this angry. I know channeling my frustration of national politics at this one person isn't reasonable. I have this tension in my chest that's just a constant feeling of dread and anger and frustration. I want to direct these negative feelings into something good but I don't feel like I have much good inside me right now.
I'm grateful for my people though. Thanks for asking.
Comment by ViolentShallot at 21/01/2025 at 20:18 UTC
11 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Fantastic! I'm getting promoted, valued in a job I really love, and I'm soon getting married to an absolutely amazing woman. Just today we signed the papers. Things are looking in all aspects of my life and I finally have taken charge of it instead of cursing my bad luck and blaming everything but myself.
In a span of at most two years I went from bitter, resentful and self pitying to taking accountability and seeing the results. Caught up with what dentist, which I was avoiding and terrified of, caught up with doctors, and in general stopped blaming external conditions I was unable to change for my misery, instead opting for trying to change the ones I could.
Turns out it works beautifully. Cannot be happier =)
Comment by GraveRoller at 21/01/2025 at 17:34 UTC
9 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I’m glad I don’t have clinical depression. Politically everything sucks though.
Comment by historian_down at 22/01/2025 at 16:59 UTC*
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I'm frustrated. I hate how we're in this era where you can't divorce yourself from politics without immense effort. Politics are in my sports subs. They are on my movie subs. Everywhere I look all I see is that man or people fighting about that man and I just feel the anxiety and the stress coming back. None of it is productive. It's just people screaming. I get some people seem to enjoy this type of politics but it makes me miserable. On top of that I'm trying to finish my PhD and I'm so burnt out that it ain't funny. Last night I went walking in the snow (as it snowed/iced in Florida) and I felt a measure of organic glee which was a first in months.
I'm really trying to cut political consumption (news, reddit, etc.) way down. It honestly just doesn't feel healthy for me at this point. I want to improve myself rather than wallow in a toxic sludge of outrage news that is solely designed to drag eyeballs. My goal, especially with my PhD is wrapping up, is to begin improving myself. Part of that is getting back into doing things that break me away from my laptop and surfing. The first thing I've added to my life is being intentional about watching TV shows/movies.
Comment by Ballblamburglurblrbl at 23/01/2025 at 12:03 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
In a bit of a funk. Found myself googling "how to date with social anxiety," - why are basically *all* of these articles written by women? I get that women struggle with this too, but I can't help but feel that, like, the feelings might be the same but the... idk, the actions you'd take to deal with it, and the solutions are just gonna be different for them.
Ehhhh, just as well. I'm not gonna learn anything new, anyway.
I still haven't recovered from the jet lag, and I'm waking up between 4 and 6pm these days. I can get out of bed at 12, but my eyes will literally be closing as I walk around, so if I'm not working I just go straight back.
Slowly bringing my level of physical activity back to normal, though, gym, walks. Went for a karate class today though, and that went pretty well.
Mental health is a light 5/10. I've been much worse, and it *is* getting better so
Comment by arararanara at 21/01/2025 at 06:17 UTC
10 upvotes, 1 direct replies
well, I wasn’t sure whether I wanted to be a man, but Trump’s executive order is trying to ban me from being one, so there’s that
Comment by navigationallyaided at 21/01/2025 at 16:54 UTC
8 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I’m numb. I wished I had a grip of cash to leave the US. Politics is done, we’re headed towards Russian or Southeast Asian-level sham elections and corruption.
Comment by denanon92 at 22/01/2025 at 09:53 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I haven't read much of Neil Gaimon, I only read Anansi Boys and seen a few clips from Good Omens. Still, it's been really disappointing to read about the allegations against him. The article that came out last week about his conduct was nightmarish. One of my family members lent me that book, and he read most of Neil's work. Now he's not sure what to do with the books.
The reoccurring problem seems to be that some men (especially those in powerful positions) can separate their own personal conduct while espousing progressive and feminist values. While I'm sure some may be faking their values, I think most of them genuinely believe that they are progressive allies and that they have done nothing wrong in mistreating and exploiting women. Thinking on it, the problem is also that these men refuse to change their behavior, even if it contradicts their stated values, since that would mean no longer being able to exploit the women they want. And that last part is key, they want women that they can exploit, not women they can have healthy relationships with. It brings to mind heated debates I've heard in recent years about preferences in dating, as well as what duty we have as individuals to question our own prejudices and desires when it comes to relationships.
Comment by chemguy216 at 23/01/2025 at 13:57 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I’ve been feeling weird this past week.
It’s not because of my anxiety and concern leading up to my doctor’s appointment today to try to figure out if I’ve got something going on with my heart. It’s not because of every “disgusted but not at all surprised” reaction I’ve had to everything Trump has already done since he returned to office. It’s because I’ve had to rely on my partner to pay for any stuff I’ve needed as I wait for my new credit card.
He’s given me some cash for my own use, which I greatly appreciate. I just feel like a kept man right now, and that’s just not how I personally want to live. I know that’s not the case. I’m still working and bringing in money; I just don’t have *convenient* access to my money at the moment.
It’s just weird feelings. Also, fuck the person who used my card information.
Comment by FearlessSon at 22/01/2025 at 01:19 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Not great. I’ve been self-harming lately. The circumstances that keep me at risk for this don’t look like they’ll be changing in the next four years.
Luckily my work’s health insurance covers therapy, so I’m reaching out to an in-network therapist.
Comment by [deleted] at 21/01/2025 at 13:37 UTC*
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I’ve come to find out about how I treated a women I dated. At the time I was delusional - a narcissist, borderline sociopathic manipulator.
I hated hearing it but it was something I needed for closure on my end. I also realized women are humans. For so long I sexualized them because of things like porn and only fans. But that isn’t who women or men are created to be. I’ve been learning in Christ. Realizing that I am no longer the old me but I have been transformed by the power of Christ.
He died for all my sin. I don’t need approval - but if God accepts me, someday I’ll learn to accept my failures and continue forward. I’m not perfect, none of us will be.
Instead of thinking about where I should be. I’m grateful none of the changes are dependent on me. Christ changes me and it is over the course in this life.
I’d say right now, I’m sober minded. I feel remorse for the person I was.
Comment by skynyc420 at 21/01/2025 at 18:29 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Hanging in there