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The fundamental problem with all these approaches is the ever present and intrinsic assumption men aren't really victims. It poisons the studies, because the researchers have already decided what sort of outcomes they will accept as valid.
The most validity they will accept when it comes to make victimization is that their might be a reason they perceive themselves as victims that isn't just maliciousness.
In reality, men have been programmed to view and express their pain along certain patriarchal values and norms. Their very ability to do things like figure out the "why's" or express the "how's" of their pain has been systemically sabotaged and repressed their entire lives.
It's like men's loneliness being framed as a lack of sex. Sex is the only intimacy men are allowed, and even then it must be performed as an act of Machismo and thus disconnected from their humanity or vulnerability. So when men feel soul crushing loneliness brought on by being deprived of meaningful emotional connection or support their entire lives, they are only allowed to engage with that in relation to sex.
Men's behavior around sex is fundamentally hypersexual, because they are trying to fill an empty heart with sexual pleasure. And that's a cup that has no bottom.
So when men feel this emptiness in their hearts, they blame a lack of sex. Because *society* blames a lack of sex. Even feminists blame a lack of sex, they just try to explain it away as justified because of the orgasm gap or misogyny putting women off. No one actually engages with it for what it is: isolation.
Unironically, this is the real face of misandry. Not man-hating women, or "feminism gone too far", but rather the objectification of men as sex fiends, or power seekers, or violence enjoyers. Patriarchal values for men *do* victimize men. Men have always complained about it, just not in the same way that women do. Which makes sense, their issues look different.
There's nothing here!