Comment by Fire5t0ne on 21/01/2025 at 00:38 UTC

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View submission: Male victimhood ideology driven by perceived status loss, not economic hardship, among Korean men

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I hate when people say this because men *aren't* accustomed to privilege, especially not young men

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Comment by garaile64 at 21/01/2025 at 13:39 UTC

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It's because "privilege" is usually used in the sense of having something others don't, not in a sense of not having to suffer something others suffer.

Comment by itchyouch at 21/01/2025 at 01:17 UTC

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Sure, but it's very clear that men do have distinct advantages relative to women.

Yes, there is a tremendous amount of pain and sufferring men endure, yet there is so much that are invisible privileges most men take for granted.

One of the biggest is being given the benefit of the doubt in society, thus potential opportunities. Tropes like, man says the same thing as a woman, but no one hears the woman while everyone hears the man. Inherent physical strength advantages, even as a scrawny person.

Not all the advantageous are obvious, so most only see their personal pain. At the "macro"-level, men are advantaged, even if they are extremely disadvantaged at the personal, "micro"-level.

What I see men struggling with though, is that women now have a choice and have a very shortened level of patience for men. Women used to have to hitch on to a man and endure all sorts of pain at the hands of men, but women have finally said, "no more."

And men only see money as their avenue to societal currency. What we really need is a shift to finding our value in the way women have. Through community, connection, depth, kindness and consideration.

We're living in a new era where many men are the elevator operators of old, but men haven't figured out how to adopt to timeless values that aren't earning power.

Comment by MyFiteSong at 21/01/2025 at 04:27 UTC

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Yes they are.