https://www.reddit.com/r/MadOver30/comments/1d7n9ra/38_and_becoming_a_grandma/
created by LocalLadyV2S604 on 04/06/2024 at 03:13 UTC
7 upvotes, 5 top-level comments (showing 5)
Help. I’m 38 (f) and apparently I’m becoming a grandma in 2025. My son is only 19. I had him when I was 19 as well…. I have two younger sons 11 and 9. I’ve been diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety since I was 18. I’m so not ready for this. It’s been very triggering. I was counting on being child free in the next 5-8 years. This is not what I want for his life (I know it’s not my choice and totally out of my control). It’s impossible for me to be “happy” or “excited” about this. I feel like my life is being blown up and the next 10-20 years has suddenly become uncertain. It doesn’t help that I’m in a crappy relationship (but that’s a story for another time). I literally had my tubes tied 6 months ago to avoid my own chance of unwanted pregnancy (my partner, 33m, thinks he wanted a baby). Advice or consoling words please. Cat pics welcome.
Comment by PrettyFlyForAHifi at 04/06/2024 at 10:33 UTC
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You’re not having the baby. Hopefully your son and his baby’s mum will give that baby a lovely life. Your the nan not the mum you can give it back
Comment by OdetteSwan at 04/06/2024 at 11:00 UTC
12 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Remember - you don't HAVE to get overly involved. It's not a requirement.
Comment by sangresangria13 at 04/06/2024 at 07:24 UTC
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((HUGS)) Sometimes all you really need is just a hug. 46F you can message if you need to vent. I fight the waves of depression as well.
Comment by Kootsiak at 05/06/2024 at 19:16 UTC
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There is always a chance your son takes to the challenge and becomes a man real quick, he might even become a great father who would never want his life to have gone any different.
So i would just take it one day at a time.
Comment by jensme84 at 05/06/2024 at 22:49 UTC
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As my 1st granddaughter was turning one, I gave birth to my 5th boy. That was kinda fun I was 39.