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I'm going to let you in on a little secret. In general I'm a proponent of the LGBTQIA+ movement, Black Lives Matter, fights against economic disparity, feminism, the fight against toxic masculinity, etc etc. Basically all the big social movements of the last two decades.
But... And this is something that bothers me greatly... I still find myself having a very visceral reaction when I see or hear things said against parts of what I am. I'm a mid 30s, heterosexual, cisgender, white male. I get caught in a lot of blanket statements. It's not a personal thing against me though, and I know that.
My fiance has called me robotic for some time because I am generally very logically oriented (sometimes to a fault) and can be very dispassionate about things sometimes. Despite my robotic tendencies I still get this weird defensive reaction when someone says something disparaging about "white people", or "cishet men". The more extreme or overly broad their statement, the stronger the reaction is.
But here's the thing. I can't let that dictate my response. I cannot let some weird gut reaction be the thing that defines who I am to the world. I try and take however long I need to calm down, re-center, and actually think about what I just heard/read and decide what I really think about it. Most of the time I don't even get involved. Today's a bit different though with all the superstraight stuff going on.
So here's the thing. I'd like you to ask yourself, the real you deep down and not the reactionary you, do you think "straight pride" should be a thing, or does it come from a feeling of not wanting to *feel* diminished as a straight person?
I asked myself that years ago when I first heard someone say "when is straight pride month?" There was a very small part of me that felt there might be something to that. Well there isn't. That feeling was childish, and born out of wanting to feel special, or like I belonged to something. "If they get to be special, then where does that leave me?"
It leaves me right where I started. The Pride movement doesn't diminish me or my sexuality. It just makes the world more diverse by letting these people come out into the light with the rest of us. I shouldn't be jealous or envious about it. I should be welcoming and supportive.
There's nothing here!