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The problem is that to me it seems like this stems from a place of hate, specifically towards trans people.
The way they are doing this is clearly incendiary and unhelpful. For people with an actual preference to cis/gay men and women, how would they best label this preference or sexuality?
I don't currently accept a lesbian saying she is not sexually attracted to mtf individuals as being transphobic anymore than I accept me as a happily married cis male saying i am not attracted to men being labeled homophobic.
I don't know enough about the dynamics but it appears as though currently accepted sexual preferences are no longer valid to some people when they include/exclude trans people.
Comment by LizardsInTheSky at 12/03/2021 at 22:54 UTC
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I think the problem is a little complicated because any term that there is for it, no matter how well intended, *will* be hijacked by transphobes and signalboosted 100x the original small well meaning portion of the people for whom the term applies.
If someone doesn't want to date black people, for instance (not many valid reasons for that, but maybe: racist family you're, unfortunately, dependent on, trauma that you're working through but not ready to put on someone else yet, etc.), no one's *forcing* them to go date a black person, but advertising yourself as unwilling to when no one asked raises a lot of pretty warranted questions about what you have against black people.
Similarly, I've never seen a situation where someone needed to advertise that they're not attracted to trans people. If you're hit on by someone, it's a simple "no," if your s.o. comes out to you, it's a private conversation between the two of you anyway.
Comment by notunprepared at 12/03/2021 at 23:58 UTC
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A lesbian saying she isn't attracted to trans women is transphobic though. If she has a genital preference, that's totally fine and not transphobic.
But that's not what people mean by that first statement, they're implying that all trans women look the same (they don't), that they all have penises (gender affirmation surgery is incredibly advanced nowadays) and that they're not real women (they are).