https://www.reddit.com/r/CasualConversation/comments/1i5qqrv/i_never_go_on_holiday/
created by mrmavis on 20/01/2025 at 13:59 UTC
39 upvotes, 11 top-level comments (showing 11)
Hi I'm 50 yrs of age, I'm a gay single celibate man with autism. I never have the chance to go on holiday. I don't want to go abroad, all I want to do is go to places in this country, United Kingdom , for example Northumberland or Scotland or Yorkshire or the Cotswolds or Vath or Derby. I've no family and I've asked friends if I could go away with them.but they just don't want to go with me. It's not really about the money because I can save up . It's nit having anyone to go with. I am autistic and I have learning disabilities and I can't travel by myself as I get disoriented in different unfamiliar places and I would be in danger by myself. It really gets me down because everyone I know goes on holiday somewhere.
Comment by ChardonnayCentral at 20/01/2025 at 14:12 UTC
50 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Had you thought about a coach holiday. A friend of mine does them regularly and loves them.
Comment by smurfopolis at 20/01/2025 at 14:26 UTC
39 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Take a guided tour holiday where you are in a group and everything is all planned out for you. They're really great if you love learning about the local history and you'll be able to meet new people on the trip.
Comment by pigadaki at 20/01/2025 at 15:02 UTC
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My friend with a learning disability used this organisation: https://www.letsgosupportedholidays.co.uk/#:~:text=Lets%2DGo%20offers%20fantastic%20supported,and%20to%20build%20new%20friendships[1]. He had a great time!
Comment by youwantmeformybrain at 20/01/2025 at 14:09 UTC
8 upvotes, 1 direct replies
How about looking into hiring a guide to take you? There must be a service available.
Comment by existential-mystery at 20/01/2025 at 14:11 UTC
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This is painfully relatable and a big reason why i dont travel is because i panic in unfamiliar places
Comment by BigDaddyLoveCA at 20/01/2025 at 15:41 UTC
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A friend of mine with autism (similarly gets disoriented easily in new places) went to Asia with a tour group that specifically met the needs of autistic adults. I googled the term "travel groups for autistic adults" and a bunch came up.
My favourite thing to do is to then put the names of each of the companies, one at a time, into Google with Reddit after it to see what people really think of them.
Good luck! My friend said travelling abroad was the best thing he's ever done.
Comment by Alternative-Muscle80 at 20/01/2025 at 16:53 UTC
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https://www.gobeyondholidays.com[1][2]
1: https://www.gobeyondholidays.com
2: https://www.gobeyondholidays.com
Hi, have a look at the above link, there must be other companies that also do this 👍
Comment by MildewTheMagical at 20/01/2025 at 17:33 UTC
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some other folk have already suggested but coach trips are great, your with people so your not on your own, and they look after you, all the hotels at stops are pre-planned, you get to see different places
Comment by Spinningwoman at 20/01/2025 at 14:47 UTC
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Do you like walking? There is a holiday company called HF holidays that run walking holidays from small hotels that they own, so all the guests are usually walkers. It’s very normal for people to come on them alone, and there are always three levels of walk offered each day to accommodate different fitness levels. All food is provided and there is usually an optional informative talk or entertainment (like skittles or a quiz) each evening . They have houses in all the places you mention. I’m sure they would be able to make suitable accommodations for you once you were there, so that would just leave the issue of how to manage the travel to get there and back. Is there a way that your friends might be prepared to take you to and from a holiday like this? It would be less of a commitment than actually asking them to accompany you on the holiday itself. You would not have to do anything independently once you arrived at the hotel, as all the walks are led by qualified leaders and any transport is included.
Comment by Starfoxmarioidiot at 20/01/2025 at 17:29 UTC
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I see. Hmm. Guided tours and cruises can get around some of that. There’s an organization called IBBCES that helps people figure this sort of thing out. I think they’re only in the U.S., but they could probably point you in the right direction. I’m not knowledgeable about resources in the U.K. but I’d bet my hat IBBCES would know who to contact to set you up for a nice trip.
Comment by kaptaincorn at 21/01/2025 at 04:48 UTC
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Let me tell you about my home town, San Diego.
I love it here, it's where all my stuff is and most of the people I enjoy seeing alive live here- it is also where I find a few of my formerly alive favorite people buried
Currently it's about 13 degrees Celcius at night and Im freezing my butt off- I converted my units to the international standard for your convenience.
The dry winds coming from the east are known to most everyone as the santa anna winds- the news in recent days shows all the devastating affects they had in Los Angeles.
I have access to several of things that I enjoy: urban exploring thrift stores farmer's markets local breweries that brew great beers burritos that can sustain a man for a whole day Hiking trails of our countryside Fried chicken Salsas of various spice levels Pretty people to look at Fun people that work with me Young relatives to dote on Asian food restaurants Decent neighbors that don't make live more difficult
I could name more but my point is I understand your feelings, you're comfortable in your home as I am in mine.
I can't imagine having a better time by going somewhere completely foreign to me.