Comment by friendly-skelly on 03/12/2024 at 07:35 UTC

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View submission: What’s the weirdest “unwritten rule” everyone just follows?

White at a wedding, honestly. My mum got some aghast reactions from family because she wore a tan dress from gap that cost about $40. Her and my stepdad paid for almost the whole thing by themselves, and we were pretty poor in those days. She was just trying not to burn through her savings.

I overheard my mum saying "I don't get it, they expect the virginity symbol to be a big deal when my kid is coming to the wedding?" I asked about it, and she tried to explain in PG terms. I asked if they only cared about it with the brides? When she said yes, I got indignant.

That was a long time ago, but I haven't revised my stance yet.

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Comment by khurd18 at 03/12/2024 at 08:39 UTC

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My mom wore a light purple dress when my parents got married and people were shocked she wasn't in white. She had the same reaction yours did about the virginity, I mean cmon they literally got married the day before my first birthday. Plus, purple was her favorite color so I'm not sure why they were surprised

Comment by Loud_Insect_7119 at 03/12/2024 at 15:26 UTC

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Fun fact: The connection between a white wedding dress and virginity came later. White wedding dresses were initially just a status symbol, since they're wildly impractical. They were popularized by Queen Victoria when she got married in one, but prior to that, there was no standardized color for wedding dresses, and blue was actually the color associated with virginity in most of Europe (which is why you see so many depictions of the Virgin Mary in blue).