https://www.reddit.com/r/Cameroon/comments/1ii7jld/family_and_friends_always_ask_for_money/
created by SoftError5235 on 05/02/2025 at 11:02 UTC
28 upvotes, 13 top-level comments (showing 13)
I live in Europe and sometimes reach out to my family and friends back in Cameroon. Each time I say hi or hello...the next thing they do is ask for money. There's no meaningful communication or care if one is doing okay. I feel there's this assumption because one is abroad he/she must send them money.
Is this a normal behaviour?
Everyone is always sick and broke
Comment by Jarboner69 at 05/02/2025 at 11:05 UTC
26 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Lmao yeah completely normal behavior
Comment by [deleted] at 05/02/2025 at 11:26 UTC
19 upvotes, 1 direct replies
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Comment by ThePeacePipe237 at 05/02/2025 at 15:00 UTC
10 upvotes, 3 direct replies
Next time they come ask for money, just ask them a business idea that you can help fund to help them out. I have done for lot of friends and familly memebers and now they are all doing better financially
Comment by Ok_Ice621 at 05/02/2025 at 12:31 UTC
8 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Yeah that’s normal that’s why no one has my number besides my mom and my favorite aunt. I change numbers and block people. I have also told my mom to never give my number to anyone without consulting me. I get it people are suffering but I am not a bank.
Comment by QueenKaay13 at 05/02/2025 at 14:46 UTC
5 upvotes, 1 direct replies
You have to establish strong boundaries and that is going to be hard because you may feel guilty. You saying no does not make you a bad selfish person, you have your own needs to take care of yourself.
Comment by Mundane-Farmer4586 at 05/02/2025 at 15:59 UTC
4 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I have lived put for 7 years and I am now based in Cmr. The economy is bad but the mindset is even worse.
Comment by YouSicka at 06/02/2025 at 08:52 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Bro if you don stay for pays before you be go Europe you go know say na normal thing wey don always be. Ashia say dey d breathe down ya neck, ei get why.
Comment by Drakestolekanyesvibe at 05/02/2025 at 13:29 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
It's normal to them. Learn how to say no because they will never stop asking
Comment by Belninho at 05/02/2025 at 22:02 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
It’s very normal. The more you succeed in life, it seems like a disadvantage to you because you become the go to person
Comment by smallestAxe at 06/02/2025 at 07:48 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Delete WhatsApp or similar, you will find peace.
Comment by africanman237 at 06/02/2025 at 09:56 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Bro if you want to give someone money, ask the person many questions and ask him to bring documents or letters so that if they are not really serious, they'll give up. And also tell them sometimes that things are not easy on your side so that they stop asking. Another way is to give them tasks to do for you before you give them money etc.
Comment by ValiXX79 at 07/02/2025 at 20:01 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Because money grows on trees everywhere else, except your country🤣🤣
Comment by SnakePlantSaltLamp at 09/02/2025 at 23:54 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
tbh look up the equivalent of $10 or even $5 in CFA and then think of how much you spend on non essentials. you don’t have to roll over and let ppl walk all over you but i think we rly need to be honest with ourselves if we don’t live in the country/continent. yes it sucks to feel like people are using you. and also sending a monthly amount or yearly amount to people back home is completely okay because of the differences in dollar value. tbh that’s why they are asking.